If you truly knew the benefits of a good apology & acknowledging & validating the other person's feelings you'd look forward to making mistakes (as a parent, as a partner, as a friend).
WHERE'S SUMMER GONE!!??? . Trying to bring some sunshine to your feed ☀ ☀ ☀ 🍊 🍋 . #throwback
Loved & Safe... . Just incase you're wondering what your child, your partner, your friend or you yourself needs today 💗🙏🏼
Monday morning note to self 👀 . N.B some of these are tricky 😭🙏🏼💗
There may be a link between what you feel your flaws are now & what you were told off for regularly when you were little. When we work this out we can begin to understand & disarm our triggers. The times I feel most uncomfortable & like I don't belong or fit in or when I become nervous I'll be judged or rejected are usually around fearing that I'm 'too awkward'. I get in a tiz about being 'too hardwork' & asking for 'too much'. I feel panicky in my stomach & overwhelmed. . Sure enough 'awkward' or 'hardwork' was the label I got regularly growing up. This was the behaviour that seemed to put the security of my parent's unconditional love & my place in the family most in jeopardy. This was when I felt most 'unloveable'. . What traits do you worry you have that cause you most discomfort, like maybe you 'don't belong'? Working this out can help you unpick your struggles today. 💗 🙏🏼
Interestingly enough these are some of the main causes for marital & relationship breakdown. 🤔 . Be aware of what happens in our childhood & then gets taken into adulthood. . We're so vulnerable & impressionable in childhood & there is no reason or need for any of the above. 🙏🏼
I believe this requires understanding our triggers. . In the moments I don't do the 'loving thing' I'm usually triggered & given into an old, outdated story about how to keep me safe. I usually have a 'fight, flight or freeze' response requiring me to defend myself, attack, ignore or disconnect. . Whether we've avoided the gym, snapped at our child or cut off from our partner, in these moments, we can dive deeper into understanding what's behind our reluctance to do the 'kind thing', what's the fear story? 🙏🏼💗 . Post by @john_wineland & I love it for me today. Thank you✨