Cousins @eleanort2 (rising sophomore at the University of Tennessee) and @annatallison (rising junior at The Webb School) at Jones’s grad party today
@elliotgranju at cousin Jones’s graduation today
Charlotte & Georgia ready for today’s party for their cousin Jones.
@nancycatsings & Charlotte feeding the little orphaned #kitten #kittensofinstagram
The El Twins: @eleanort2 & @elliotgranju
The backyard ready for the graduation shindig
The entertainment at Jones’graduation party. After all, we are in Tennessee ;-)
Jon et moi ;-)
The graduate (!!!) @jonescallison with Cousin @elliotgranju
Nancy, @jolley.erin , @kimiabernathy , Nicholas, Georgia and baby Wyatt
The cousins are hand raising a baby #kitten #kittensofinstagram
Robert & Nicole ready for the graduation to begin
On our way to Cousin Jones Allison’s graduation from The Webb School in Bell Buckle
Georgia heelies around the driveway dressed entirely in sequins
Happy 5th grade graduation Charlotte!
And just like that, second grade is over
Beaumont Elementary, where Charlotte & Georgia attend, has an amazing art teacher named Cheryl Bohlken Burchett who applied for and won a really competitive $100,000 grant to turn our school playground into something spectacular. And she has. Today was the ribbon cutting and truly, Beaumont now has just an incredible playground. I’ve never seen anything like it. Here’s just one example of many features of the new arts-focused playground; the play stage for kids to create impromptu performances during recess. It’s has a chalkboard back on the inside so kids can write about or illustrate backdrops for their performances. Using Charlotte and Georgia for scale, you can see just how big the stage is. #beaumontrocks
Big news: Henry’s Law (SB 1875) has been signed by Governor Haslam! It’s officially a done deal. Thank you so much to state legislators and the Governor for supporting this important tool for law enforcement and prosecutors to use when a drug dealer kills a minor. Now let’s go after those dealers.
Besties since kindergarten at 5th grade field day today. Can’t believe that this trio is ready to take on middle school! And #beaumontelementary is the best elementary school in Knox County. #beaumontrocks
Henry suffered the beating that left him with a fractured skull on April 26 and the massive overdose that caused his brain injury on the afternoon and evening of April 27. No one called an ambulance for him until just before noon on April 28, when the dealers in whose house he’d been trapped, dying for 17 hours, were told by a concerned party that she’d call the police if they didn’t call 911. So they finally did, and he was rushed to the hospital at noon on April 28. By that time, after all those hours of suffering an opiate overdose without sufficient oxygen to his beautiful mind, he was barely alive and not expected to make it. I received the call just after noon, and the wonderful Mike Cohen rushed me to UT Hospital, something for which I’ll forever be grateful. Henry managed to beat the odds and live in the hospital until May 31, when we made the unbearable-to-this-day decision to remove him from life support. We knew that the brilliant bright light of a teenage boy whom we knew and adored had, in fact, already left us. But between April 30, when he miraculously emerged from his coma and May 31 when he died, we had a month with him when he was, to some degree, at moments, fully with us again. Those will remain the most joyful, precious moments of my life. May is a hard month for me. So many memories, intruding into both my daytime reveries and my dreams. He’s still alive, in my dreams, fighting to come back to us yet also peacefully accepting his fate in a way I fear I’ve yet to do myself. My boy, my firstborn, my love, my heart. I will always treasure that month we had together as he slowly slipped away, even as it was the greatest trial I have ever and am likely to ever endure. My Henry. And oh, this month of May.
Seven is just about the perfect age. I love her little snaggle toothed grin.
Today is Charlotte’s final elementary school field day - she’s a 5th grader. It truly just seems like yesterday that all of us, mostly still the same group of parents, were ushering our tiny little 5 and 6 year old kindergarteners through all the games at their very first end-of-year field day. I’m SOO not ready for her to start middle school in the fall. How does this all go so fast? And may I just say once again that Beaumont Elementary is the best elementary school in Knox County. #beaumontrocks
Jane & Foster at #steeplechase2018
From #depression to #schizophrenia, from panic disorders to #addiction, from generalized anxiety disorders to #agoraphobia, all of us know someone struggling with a #mentalhealth disorder. Help break the stigma by speaking openly about mental health issues this month, which is Mental Health Awareness Month.
My sweet boy
My headed-for-stardom niece Nancy has an Instagram that’s very close to 200 followers. She’s hoping to hit her 200 followers goal by the end of this weekend. She’s super cute and you get to hear her playing her ukulele! So please go follow Nancy on Instagram at @nancycatsings #doyourthing #nancycat
Jane & her sweet Oliver. She’s so happy she adopted him. It’s a lot of responsibility for a 22 year old with a demanding full time job to raise a puppy but she’s doing everything right, including crate training, coming home at lunchtime every day to take him out and play with him, tons of socialization plus a puppy kindergarten class. It doesn’t hurt that she scored in the puppy department. Oliver is mellow yet playful and obviously super smart. I’m so glad she has him.
Say hello to my little friend #turtle #turtles
I got some cool things for #mothersday but my favorite may be the card made of paper napkins and staples with 13 cents in it that Georgia gave me.
May can be hard for me in the years since Henry died, with #mothersday and the annual anniversary of his death falling in this month . (If I sound morose lately, that’s just because another month of May has rolled around) But every year I try hard to focus on the blessings I have in Jane, Elliot, Charlotte & Georgia, and for how blessed I was to be Henry Louis Granju’s mama for the time we had him with us. Hug your babies tight.
My loves, my hearts walking around outside my body, and the reasons I get to celebrate #mothersday @elliotgranju @janegranju
Georgia has turned her Barbie Dream House into a hospital. As you can see, this patient has a broken leg in traction, a breathing tube, an IV, and is receiving a blood transfusion. #barbie #barbies #barbiedreamhouseexperience
Here’s my “Blue Lady Hybrid Tea Rose” just about to bloom. I’m psyched because I’ve never grown a blue #rose before. The nice, upright bush is covered in other buds as well. This bush is supposed to grow from spring until summer. #roses #blueroses #easttennessee #blueflowers #thebumblingrosarian
Yesterday I thought that all the blooms on this particular bush were about to wilt off the bush but the blooms seem to have rallied overnight. I love this one. #rose #roses #thebumblingrosarian
I always leave roses when I visit my Henry.
Charlotte’s new big girl hair cut! Layers! About six inches off!! And it looks about 3 shades browner.
A yellow #hybrid #roses #thebumblingrosarian #tennesseeroses
A #floribunda (I think) #thebumblingrosarian #roses #redroses🌹 #tennesseeroses
A peachy tea #rose in bloom #rosegarden #bumblingrosarian #roses
Another bloom from my #rosegarden #redroses #roses
Leo suddenly has a scary, sizable, weepy tumor-looking thing on the outside of the skin on his neck. I’m taking him to the vet at 2:15 and am just terrified by what they may tell me. He’s 10 years old (which is old for a #GreatPyrenees) but has literally never had a health problem in his life besides getting a little stiff in the last year or two. I just don’t know what we would do without him. He’s a member of our family in every single way. He’s our best friend, our fierce protector, the little girls’ watchdog wherever they go or do, And during that first two years after Henry died when I could barely function, he never left my side. Please keep him in your thoughts as we check out what’s going on. #greatpyreneesofinstagram #dogsofinstagram
My first #rose from the #rosebushes I put in 2 weeks ago #roses #rosesofinstagram #cottagegarden
Georgia reading with her Pop. Classic. #doyourthing
Please don’t forget about our monthly GRASP grief and recovery group for those who have lost a loved one to drugs. We meet at 7 pm on the first Thursday of each month at St. James Episcopal Church at 1101 North Broadway. Please help us to share this post widely because even if you are lucky enough not to have been touched by the substance use disorder crisis, it’s likely that you know someone who has been.
I’m a grandmother! A dog grandmother that is 😉 This is @janegranju’s new puppy Oliver. Isn’t he precious? He came from the shelter in Nashville. They told her that they think he’s part Border Collie but those big paws say German Shepherd to me. They had a rough first night with him whining and crying in his crate all night but I’ve advised her not to give in to the crate whining now or she’ll be sorry later. #germanshepherds #germanshepherdsofinstagram #bordercollies #bordercolliesofinstagram #puppies #puppiesofinstagram #shelterdogs
My #zen garden monkey
Henry’s Garden #owl
Bird feeders and flowers ready for spring #farmlife #springtime #eaattennessee
@whoanellay showin’ off that rock! Soon it will be WEDDING SHOWER TIME out here at the farm :-) @janegranju
Here’s Nancy just hangin’ out with uber-You Tube stars #brooklynandbailey at yesterday’s #genmaverick launch party in a La La Land. If you have a tween or teen, be sure to have them go download the supercool new Maverick app. And huge congrats to Maverick CEO @herbadmother on what I hear was the launch party to end all launch parties 😉 #doyourthing
Here’s my niece Nancy in Hollywood today at the launch of Maverick, a totally new tween girl empowerment company with all kinds of cool You Tube stars on board and in attendance. #doyourthing #genmaverick
GRASP is a free monthly grief and recovery group for those of us who have lost a loved one to drugs. Will you help me to get a GRASP flyer posted in your church, mosque or synagogue? Just message me your name and address and I’ll send you the flyer. Then you can hang it up in your place of worship. You would be surprised how many people need this supportive, safe and loving space to talk about their loss. Thank you for your help
Cousin fun. Elliot will miss #Bonnaroo2018 because he’ll be working as a mountain operations guide in #breckenridge this summer.
#barbarabush #trump #trumptweets #readonaldtrump
Elliot just found out he’ll be a mountain operations guide at Vail/Breckinridge this summer. Not a bad gig.
The whole Allison cousin claim: Jones, Anna, Helen, Nicholas, Elliot, Jane, Charlotte, Georgia, Eleanor, McLean and Nancy #edisto
The farm where we live in fall
#tbt Jane & Elliot at (I think) Elliot’s baccalaureate
Planting roses in memory of Henry today.
#waybackwednesday: my gang
My new, super predator proof #chickencoop. It has wheels so you can move it around so your chickens always have fresh grass and no part of your yard gets messy. It should be built in about 4.5 weeks. I can’t wait. #backyardchickens #chickens
The rooster that we had to send to Glenn Ward’s farm because every morning at 4:30 am sharp he would march up to our back porch and begin insistently and loudly pecking over and over on the glass back door to our bedroom while crowing at the top of his lungs until I stumbled out of bed at 5am to feed him the leftovers from the previous night’s dinner. He was really pissed that his whole flock of ladies had been devoured by hawks but no hawk would touch him because he’s huge, has massive spurs and knows how to use them. #chickens #rooster #grumpyrooster
It’s just about lake time again! Here are cousins @eleanort2 @janegranju @elliotgranju & McLean at my mom’s lake house at Center Hill Lake
I meant to film Charlotte’s entire #violin #recital today but somehow only got the last 35 seconds. She struggled a bit with this ending but played the whole piece (Humoresque) beautifully. Plus she looks cute ;-) #fiddle
This is the display of crime victims’ photos on display this week at Knoxville’s City County Building to memorialize this week - National Crime Victims’ Rights Week. My son Henry’s photo is among the other victims. It means so much to me that HOPE for Victims and crime victims’ advocates in the state legislature continue to acknowledge that my teenage son was a victim of drug induced homicide rather than a throwaway piece of trash drug addict. I only wish that the Knox County Sheriff’s Office and the Knox County District Attorneys Office would have and still would acknowledge the same thing. #crime #crimevictims #Knoxville #knoxcounty
#tbt The #birdfeeder area of my #garden last summer. All of the #sunflowers came from the birds dropping sunflower seeds around the feeders. No help from me. #Tennessee #easttennessee #gardens #cottagegarden
#WaybackWednesday: Charlotte’s first violin recital. Age 4.
@janegranju & @peanutbutter_mellytime Such cuties
My sweet boy @elliotgranju . I can’t believe he’s about to finish his sophomore year. College seems to be rushing by even faster than high school did.
Going thru some pix for the Old Fiesta Farmers Group on Facebook I found this one of @janegranju & Sydney Casady at age 10 or 11. Love.
Doing some shopping #doyourthing
Charlotte in a nutshell #doyourthing
Georgia: “Because who doesn’t want to be a hotdog?!”
Patient little fishies
My best friend ran across this photo of me in my flat in London, circa 1988. On the back of it I’d written, “I’m getting really fat!” Ah, to be that fat again...
#flashbackfriday Me, in labor with Charlotte, getting a little help and support from @janegranju @elliotgranju @eleanort2 and McLean
Henry’s photo is among many on this t-shirt memorializing Crime Victims Rights Week (this week) and being sold by HOPE for Victims. If you’re interested in buying one to benefit HOPE, an absolutely amazing advocacy organization, the shirts are $10 and you can order via PayPal. If you would like the ordering info, just message me and I’ll get the info to you. —#crimevictims #crime #hopeforvictims
My favorite #orchid at the moment. This one molted all of its blooms about 6 months ago. I tried putting it in a cool dark place for several months and lo and behold, it’s blooming again. #orchids.
Ah! But does #KendallJenner have FIGURATIVELY nothing to hide?
#peterpan reading some Peter Pan
My daily affirmation reminder, in our kitchen
Question of the Day: would you let your 5 or 6 year old girl wear these? (Currently selling at #Target in size XS)
A new friend I made on my walk today
My boy @elliotgranju
Things you find while out walking. What is it?
Charlotte & Georgia #Easter
Happy #easter from Elliot, Leo & Jane #greatpyrenees #dogsofinstagram
Perfect weather for a perfect family day #easter
Finding some eggs #easter
My attempt at a photo with all 4 of them. Note Georgia’s look of extreme terror. #easter #siblings #love
@eleanort2 & @elliotgranju The El Twins out at the farm this afternoon :-) #easter #cousins #love
Charlotte, #Easter 2010
She really loves cleaning up right now. I hope she doesn’t grow out of it
#tbt Charlotte & Me
#tbt Henry & me at Christmas 1993 #grief #childloss
Class zoo trip today. Georgia is the snaggletoothed child in the back #zooknoxville