2018 - SUNDAY 23 SEPTEMBER KEEPING YOUR TEENAGERS IN CHURCH 1. LET THEM SEE YOUR GENUINE LOVE FOR CHURCH Your love for an imperfect group of people and their leadership - and your engagement with them in the cause of the church - trains up a child in the way they should go - so that when they start to wander - they know where home base is. 2. SET BOUNDARIES NOT RULES Boundaries are the reasons why they should behave a certain way. Rules are the restrictions you place upon them. The less rules the better. If you don’t take time to teach them boundaries as kids - you will have to set more rules as teens. Live what you say you believe - otherwise your boundaries mean nothing. 3. SPREADING THEIR WINGS IS NOT REBELLION The teens and twenties are the experimentation years. Stay close to your teens so they can talk things through. Don’t beat yourself up if your kids become prodigals. Don’t pry and interrogate - they will tell you about it when they are ready. Maybe years later when you are ready. 4. DON’T TREAT THEM LIKE KIDS They are now teenagers and must be treated differently. Boundaries are forever - but rules must change as your children grow. We expected blind obedience from our children. Then during their teens they were expected to honour our house rules until they left high school. Once they left school they could choose their own boundaries - but still honour our house rules while living at home. None of our kids wanted to leave home and even after marriage have lived with us at different times. 5. UNDERSTAND PEER PRESSURE Teenagers must find love, acceptance and forgiveness. They will find it somewhere. Don’t put your weirdness on them. Help them find their own faith - and the boundaries associated with their faith. Make the Bible a book of life boundaries - not a rule book. Make your house the hangout zone (if possible) Teach your kids the power and dangers of social media and help them set boundaries for their protection. 6. BE THERE FOR THEM Live for your children and when you are old - they will live for you. Take them to their sports games. Build their special project with them. Pay for their dreams. Take them to a good youth group.
2018 - SATURDAY 22 SEPTEMBER HOW TO KEEP YOUR KIDS IN CHURCH 1. MAKE SUNDAY THE FIRST DAY OF YOUR WEEK Successful people have calendars in which they prioritise what is important to them. Put church in your diary first and order everything else around your “seek first” date. 2. MAKE CHURCH THE FIRST PRIORITY OF YOUR WEEK Set your time aside to be in church Set your tithe aside to sow in church Set your talents aside to serve in church. 3. FIND FRIENDS FOR YOUR WHOLE FAMILY IN CHURCH Help your kids find good friends in church. Help your kids find a marriage partner with a genuine faith. 4. TALK ABOUT THE MESSAGE PREACHED - IN FRONT OF YOUR KIDS Discuss the message in a positive manner - and when possible include the kids in the conversation. 5. SHOW GENEROSITY TO SOMEONE EACH WEEK Start by tithing - and then include the kids in random acts of generosity toward others. 6. KNOW THE VISION OF YOUR CHURCH Don’t be a spectator - get involved in the vision and find your purpose in expanding God’s kingdom. 7. STAY HAPPY Make it your joy to be a part of a community of faith. Stop criticising everything that doesn’t meet your exalted opinions. Show your kids the meaning of - “the joy of the Lord, is my strength.” WHEN MOM AND DAD LOVE CHURCH - THE FAMILY LOVES CHURCH
2018 - FRIDAY 21 SEPTEMBER HOW TO LOSE YOUR KIDS FROM CHURCH 1. ATTEND CHURCH WHEN YOU FEEL LIKE IT Put church way down on your priority list. Show your kids that church is just a religious event to be attended every so often at your convenience. 2. CRITICISE THE LEADERS OF THE CHURCH When you have roast Pastor for lunch every Sunday - your kids soon learn to look for the flaws of fellowship - rather than find faith for miracles. 3. SHARE YOUR OPINIONS OF LIFE WITHOUT BASING THEM ON GOD’S WORD Children who have to listen to their parents pontificating from personal opinion - soon learn that the Bible is an ornament on a shelf - not a source of wisdom from above. 4. NEVER LET THEM SEE YOU PRAY For a child to wake in the morning to find their father seeking God - is the greatest security you can ever give your children. To see mum and dad in church with hands raised in worship - is incredibly impacting to a child. 5. USE ALL YOUR MONEY FOR PERSONAL PURPOSES. When kids are taught to self invest - by selfish parents - above generosity to others - and sacrifice for God’s purposes - they soon lose the value of eternal things - and fixate on materialism. 6. BLAME THE CHURCH FOR YOUR KIDS WAYWARDNESS Amazing how many parents lament the loss of their children from their “faith” - and yet will still not repent and show their adult children the way back to God and His house. HEAVEN IS FOREVER - I WANT MY KIDS IN HEAVEN
2018 - THURSDAY 20 SEPTEMBER TRAIN UP A CHILD 2 Kings 22:1&2 “Josiah was eight years old when he became king, and he reigned thirty-one years in Jerusalem. His mother’s name was Jedidah the daughter of Adaiah of Bozkath. And he did what was right in the sight of the Lord, and walked in all the ways of his father David; he did not turn aside to the right hand or to the left.” 1. CHILDREN CAN REIGN IN LIFE Josiah was eight years old when he was chosen to reign over Israel. To do so successfully required strong influence from those shaping his life. 2. MOTHERS REVEAL THE LOVE OF GOD Josiah’s mother’s name was Jedidah which means - beloved of the Lord and friend of the Lord- also amiable. Mothers impart the emotional strength to reign in life. A love for God and His house cannot be legally imposed. It must be caught as a deep delight. Amiable means you can get along with others Her fathers name is Adaiah - which means - witness of God. Talk about passing on a heritage. 3. FATHERS REVEAL THE LAWS OF GOD Josiah did what was right in the sight of the Lord and walked in all the ways of his father David. Children must see their fathers being obedient to the commands and laws of God. David was far from perfect - but had a heart for God and His word. When David failed God - he repented and returned to the Lord. Every child deserves a father who delights in the word of the Lord and passes it on to their children. A fatherless generation leads to anarchy and lawlessness. Anarchy is the absence of absolutes. Fathers must know what they believe and base it squarely on the word of the Lord. Good fathers reveal a good Heavenly Father and a great love for His House, and His people. TRAIN UP A CHILD!