This time last year. ⠀ ⠀ Last single girl, without baby holiday. ⠀ ⠀ One of my favourite places to be - Lago di Como. ⠀ ⠀ If you ever find yourself heading that way, inbox me for the best Air bnb ever!! ⠀ ⠀ Definitely not such a baby friendly place, so who know when I’ll find myself back there. It’s funny as I almost brought a house there, thinking I may pop there for the odd weekend from Venice and rent it out the rest of the time. ⠀ ⠀ Instead I rent a house in Lido, won’t be back there for god knows how long and am building a house in Thailand where we plan to spend a little bit of winter every year. ⠀ ⠀ You never do know where life will take you, what I’ve certainly learnt though is this...⠀ ⠀ Spend as much time in the places which make you feel alive. ⠀ If possible move to those places. ⠀ And if you’re really dam sure about the love, build a house there! ⠀ ⠀ My Monday wisdom for the week 😂
Happy Friday folks!
More recent work shot for @vino__vero ⠀ I’m so uninspired by food since having a baby but thankfully Venice is all about wine and cicchetti, where you can find little helpings of goodness and delight on pretty much every corner. Some better than others of course. Some of the best being here at @vino__vero ⠀ Little and often is what eating is all about these days, there is absolutely no time to prepare a whole meal, most especially not eat it! ⠀ ⠀ I’m lucky to have places like this on my door step, but when I can’t get out the house, it’s a lot of hummus on cracker and avocado on toast. I’ve also become a new fan of @deliciouslyella taking inspiration from a few of her post baby routines and plates!
6 weeks on, reflecting on how different this little bimba was. It’s crazy how you don’t notice the growth as it happened then every few days you see the leap! ⠀ ⠀ It’s rather like a miniature version of my own self reflection. I don’t see the daily changes then every few months I glance back and there is it! Wow how did I get here?! ⠀ ⠀ I generally manifest in feelings, and bigger picture visions. I’ve never had a married by x, baby by x, work goal by x year kinda thinking. I rather like to say, “when the time is right, I trust love, babies and all that’s meant to be will come my way.” I see blurry visions and feel feeling. That way I’m better with allowing the flow of what does arrive, what I invite. ⠀ ⠀ Never thought I would be living in Venice with a baby girl, but I did see colour, people, water, community and a full heart. ⠀ ⠀
Only a few more hours till these two are reunited. In the last 8 weeks it’s been so beautiful watching their bond grow. ⠀ ⠀ Flying alone with this bimba and although I’m a little anxious I know these times makes us stronger as a family. I really believe the importance of not loosing yourself in a relationship, however deep and powerful the love is, there was and is always YOU. That stands when you become a parent too, creating the time for yourself so you can be the best for your babes. ⠀ ⠀ I’ve had a lay in everyday for the last 7 weeks, up until a week ago. This baby daddy takes Veni in her sling walking on the beach for 2-3 hours every early morning, while I catch up on sleep. It’s a gift to be have been able to enjoy these weeks not exhausted and sleep deprived! A time I will never forget. ⠀ ⠀ I know things won’t always be this smooth, sometimes the struggle is real and you can make the choices to create a life which honours your values. ⠀ ⠀ Next chapter....⠀ ⠀ Life as a new family back in Venice. 💛⠀ ⠀ ⠀
💛 ALL THE LOVE 💛⠀ ⠀ Feeling it Giving it Receiving it
Feeling ready to go home now. Introduce Veni to her home outside the womb. See friends and wonder the beautiful streets of Venice.⠀ ⠀ Whitstable has been a special time. Being able to create this space as a family and be together for all this time is a dream. I know things will be harder without my support network here, and I also know I have a wonderful network back in Venice. ⠀ ⠀ Love and friendship isn’t about time, it’s about connection and authenticity. I’ve always worn my heart on my sleeve and that way of being has brought so many special people into my life. Who will now be part of Veni’s life. ⠀ ⠀ I can’t wait to see you all!
Some voices are louder than others. ⠀ When it comes to pregnancy, birth and motherhood there are the some stories and experiences which somehow have become the ‘norm’ !! ⠀ Our work is rejecting what’s not true and real for us and connecting and sharing our authentic experience. ⠀ Even if that means saying something which isn’t what you think people are expecting to hear. ⠀ ⠀ I had an easy pregnancy. No sickness or pains. Yet I didn’t love pregnancy. It was no doubt a beautiful journey but I missed my body, unrestricted movement and my energy. I surrendered to what was but I didn’t ‘get’ people who’d said ‘ah you’ll love pregnancy, such a special and beautiful time.’ ⠀ ⠀ People also love to share the horror and pain of labour. I’m excited to share the beauty and fun. I can’t wait to do it again. Labour was incredible. A magical experience. Nothing to be scared of and it’s totally possible to birth your baby as you dream to, without negativity, pain, fear. ⠀ ⠀ Then there is the newborn phase. ‘The bubble of love’. Yes it’s a bubble of love, but for me a month in as Veni is more alert and interactive has been where the really euphoria has erupted. ⠀ ⠀ Your experience can be whatever it turns out to be. ⠀ That’s ok. ⠀ Don’t be drowned out by the louder voices. ⠀ Every story is valid and should be shared. ⠀ ⠀ ⠀
“Alone, we can do so little; together, we can do so much” – Helen Keller⠀⠀ ⠀⠀ Reflecting on the importance of community as I spend more time alone with my babe in our bubble. 💛⠀ ⠀ Recent shot for @vino__vero 📷