Elliot & Jon at tonight’s National Day of Remembrance Ceremony downtown. Couldn’t have gotten through it without them.
Henry’s photo at tonight’s ceremony in downtown Knoxville marking National Day of Remembrance for victims of fatal crimes
Elliot standing in front of the picture of his big brother at this evening’s National Day of Remembrance Ceremony for victims of fatal crimes. I was so glad to have him there. I was really glad to have him there when I needed to cry on his shoulder- my beautiful boy
Henry’s new brick in downtown Knoxville, unveiled tonight as part of the National Day of Remembrance. It’s outside the City-County Building and I hope that the assistant DA who called my son an “unattractive victim” and who told me to “shut up” has to walk by it every day.
On this eve of the National Day of Remembrance for victims of crime, which happens to fall on my birthday, please give a thought for my precious baby, taken from us when he was still just a teenager. The 3 men who assaulted him were never arrested, while the drug dealers who gave him the drugs and then watched him suffer fatal brain damage on their floor for 17 hours served only brief sentences for drug dealing. They are back on the streets of Knoxville today, undoubtedly selling to other teens. I loved him so.
And here’s Elliot hanging out with some mountain goats (white creatures to the left) #colorado #breckenridge #mountaingoats
I love seeing the pix of the different fish that Elliot caught fly fishing while he was in Colorado all summer. This fella doesn’t even look like a a real fish. #colorado #breckenridge #trout #fishing #flyfishing
I have a pair of Ugg boots that Jon got me for Christmas last year that I just love. Unfortunately, one of them got a big water stain on the entirety of one toe of the boot. I want to clean the water stain off the Ugg but there seem to be tons of different products that claim to do this and I’m not sure which one(s) actually work. Many of them seem to be more about waterproofing the Uggs (which I will do after I get this stain out) as opposed to cleaning a water stain that’s already on the boot. Can any of y’all recommend a good, specific product for getting a large water stain off of Ugg boots? #uggs #uggboots
My boy and me. We get to have a late lunch date today so I’m psyched.
@peaceofpielife This is my happy window :-)
I have lots of photos of my grandmother interviewing and hanging out with fascinating people but I’m pretty sure that this is my favorite. #eleanorroosevelt
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Rebecca, Jane & a pal at last weekend’s Titans game. I have no idea where Jane & Elliot got their love of going to football games. Definitely not from me (I went to one UT football game ever. I was wearing a sandwich board reading, “U.S. out of Nicaragua!”) #tennesseetitans #govols
I belong to a Facebook group with thousands of parents who have lost their drug addicted children to overdose. So many of us feel so misled by the concept that an addict has to hit “rock bottom” to find recovery. For many, if not most opiate addicts, “rock bottom” means death. The tough love approach that I was sold by so-called experts was a lie. I would much rather have had Henry using drugs with clean needles in our clean, loving home while we gently, compassionately and firmly urged him toward recovery than have had him feeling abandoned,hungry, unwashed, and alone on the streets, using with strangers wherever he could find a couch or floor to sleep that night, feeling that unless he got clean that we had turned our backs on him forever, and that he didn’t deserve anyone’s love. I no longer believe in the traditional “let them hit rock bottom” approach. I believe that it’s only through compassion, empathy, firm insistence on treatment and plenty of LOVE (minus the tough) that addicts are most likely to find their way through. And if they don’t. If they die, it will be surrounded by that love and not instead wallowing in shame, abandonment and distance from those to whom they’re closest. Substance use disorder is a DISEASE. It’s a chronic, relapsing brain and body disease no different from diabetes or schizophrenia. And it’s the only disease where we are still telling the loved ones of the sick individual to kick him or her out onto the streets until he or she hits some kind of unknown and terrifying bottom. I reject tough love. I embrace love. I’m so sorry I failed you my sweet Henry. I listened to the highly (HIGHLY) paid experts and they lied to me. #addiction #overdose #recovery #grief #childloss #berevedparents #opioidcrisis
Rummaging through photos: my grandparents’ house - the source of all wonderfulness in my childhood.
Rummaging through photos: I love this one of a very sleepy Henry, Elliot & Jane. No clue why Elliot has fallen asleep wearing a giant glove.
After a rather insane party all evening, with things occasionally seeming to spiral into crazytown, we now have relaxed little girls in their pajamas having a great time making S’mores. Exhale... #birthdayparties #smores #backyardcampout
Whenever Georgia asks me for a potbellied pig, I remind her that she already has the world’s largest guinea pig, Nutmeg. #pigs #minipigs #guineapigs #guineapigsofinstagram
You’ve got to check out the new book by my friend @herbadmother I’m reading it now and it’s incredibly insightful and inspiring. It turns the old tropes about traits traditionally identified (primarily negatively) with women in the world of work and demonstrates how each one is actually an asset to both the woman herself and to potential employers. This is a book that needs to be read and studied in business courses across the U.S. I’m giving it to my 23 year old daughter for Christmas.
This is the closest that my stylist can get to the haircut I dream of. Not too bad. I told her to make me look something like a cross between a leprechaun and Carrie on #portlandia #choppybob
This the hair God intended me to have. Why can’t any hairdresser I ever go to simply understand that? #choppybob #messybob #howfreakinghardcanthisbe?
My little #ballerina #ballet
They washed and conditioned their hair in the #Barbie Dream House pool and then sorted them by hair color. And no, this isn’t all of them.
At 17, he was 6 feet tall with size 11 feet.
Jane & Rebecca at the UT game on Saturday. My cute girls. #neylandstadium #govols
No, this is not a vintage shot of one of the Bay City Rollers, circa 1977. It’s my little Georgia peach, ready to hit the zoo today. We had fun; the baboons AND the Komodo dragon were in fine form. #seventies #seventieshair #baycityrollers #knoxvillezoo
My Jane & Elliot with my sweet niece Eleanor at the UT game today. Jane is UT ‘17, Elliot is UT ‘20 & Eleanor is UT ‘21. (You can really see in this photo that Jane got her height from me and not from the taller end of our family gene pool like Elliot & Eleanor did) #govols
I just love this photo of my mom
One of Georgia’s absolute favorite places to be: in the kitchen with her grandmother. They whip up things like tasty green cakes together (Georgia enjoys coloring her baking projects green and Janice always obliges) #grandparentsrock
Henry, age 10. My happy boy.
Charley will pose. The Georgia Peach will not. #sisters #sixthgrade #thirdgrade
My baby bro & me on his porch a few years back. I was in a red head phase
My baby bro & me on his porch a few years back
Going thru wedding photos while celebrating our anniversary this week I ran across this photo - one of my favorites of my baby girl and me. I love this child like crazy and sure do miss her. But I’m also super, super proud of the amazing life she’s creating for herself. @janegranju
Tomorrow Jon & I will have been married 12 years. I’ve never met a finer man than Jonathan Hickman, and the fact that he chose me to be his wife continues to amaze me. I don’t know how I got so lucky. Jon had no idea when we married that only 4 years later I would lose my oldest child and he would lose his oldest stepchild. He had no idea that the person he married would be irrevocably changed by this horrible experience, both growing and shrinking in the aftermath of the worst blow that a human being can endure. But Jon’s never taken a step away from all the hard stuff that’s happened since Henry died. Instead he’s leaned in closer, holding me up when I otherwise would have fallen, acting as both parents when I’ve been unable to do my share as one, and loving the “after” me - as different as I am - just as much as he loved the “before” me whom he married. I love this guy, and so does our whole family. I feel lucky every day to walk this path next to him. (And for those of you who were at our wedding, wasn’t it a fun one??!!) #anniversary #wedding #weddings #outdoorwedding #bellbuckle #family #friends #fun
I’m so grateful that even though Charley & Nancy have now started 6th grade, they’re still all about playing with toys, in this case, Barbies, which the two of them plus 8 year old Georgia have been playing non stop all day.
Big sissy is here today! #sisters @janegranju #siblings #family #love
I found this photo of my dad this morning. I’d never seen it before. It was taken when he was in #Vietnam. I sure do miss him. #fathersanddaughters
A neighbor here on the #farm #easttennessee #spider #spiders #spidersofinstagram
Georgia’s fairy bed, with sunflowers for them to eat and a little tin of “fairy tea” for them to drink. #fairies #fairygardens
I love working from up in the girls’ treehouse. You can’t beat the view. #knoxville #easttennessee #treehouse #farmlife
Bliss #greatpyrenees #greatpyreneesofinstagram
Charlotte & her little buddy #guineapig #guineapigs #guineapigsofinstagram
My #roses are really pretty right now #easttennessee #garden #rosegarden #cottagegarden
#trombone practice: big instrument, little girl #band #marchingband #schoolband #bandpractice
Georgia says she has to be “very far outside” to create her “super secret #origami poster.”
I haven’t seen my boy since he left for Colorado earlier this summer. Hard Knox Pizza catch up tonight :-) So proud of this child. Started his junior yr of college this week. Wasn’t I just walking him into kindergarten, like, last week?
Help us meet our goal of 5k Likes on the Henry’s Fund Facebook Page by Henry’s birthday of October 7. Just visit HenrysFund.org to like Henry’s Fund and show your support for our goals of preventing and treating drug addiction in teenagers and young people. #addiction #drugaddiction #recovery #drugabuse #opioidcrisis #opioidepidemic #opiateepidemic #12steps #overdose #overdoseprevention
Me: Up all night trying to make my Mac accept cookies Jane: up all night seeing JAY Z & BEYONCE!!!!! Me: really old and boring Jane: DID I MENTION SHE’S AT A BEYONCE SHOW??? #beyonce #jayz #veryjealousmom #veryboringmom
Third day with the #trombone. At this point, I’m glad she likes practicing outdoors ;-)
Afternoon violin practice with grandmother & Leo #violin #fiddle #greatpyrenees #greatpyreneesofinstagram
We now have a #trombone player in the house. #loudnoises #middleschool
One of the reasons that I love living out here is that on rainy mornings you can see the mist roll in - the same type of mist that gave the nearby #GreatSmokyMountains their name. #smokymountains #mist #easttennessee #farmlife
Two of our family’s 3 newly minted 6th graders, cousins Charlotte & Harper (6th grader #3 @nancycatsings wasn’t with us tonight)
A long day of 3rd grade can wear a girl out
Happy of happiest birthdays to my baby girl, @janegranju !! There’s absolutely no way I could be prouder of the woman you’ve become or of the life you’re creating for yourself. You’re bold, ambitious, kind, compassionate, whipsmart, hilarious, incredibly accomplished, and loved by so very many people. You are a precious gift to me & I love you with all that I am or ever will be - Mama
@elliotgranju leaves Colorado tomorrow to drive back to TN to start his junior year of college next week. Suffice it to say that I think he’ll miss the #rockymountains - especially the #flyfishing #cutthroattrout #catchandrelease #trout
Today is the last day that my amazing, beautiful, incredibly and increasingly accomplished eldest daughter will be 22 years old. She’s made this first year out of college a huge success. She’s 100% self sufficient. She has a fantastic job with a hot company in a great city. She has tons of friends and colleagues she’s close to. She lives in a terrific house in a great location that she shares with several close friends. She has possibly the best dog ever. She’s thriving and excelling and having a great time doing it. Twenty-two has been one heck of a fabulous year for @janegranju, & Jon and I are so proud of her.
The world’s largest #guineapig? #guineapigsofinstagram #guineapigs
My cutie pie 6th grader showing us her locker at meet the teacher night at her middle school
My blessings. My reasons for getting back up and moving ahead boldly, with an open heart and a willingness to use our family’s tragedy to help others. I love these four children fiercely, just as I loved their big brother, and our family has survived, will survive, and will thrive. Henry was a gift from God. We were lucky to have him with us in this physical plane for 18 years. But we are not less of a family without him here with us. We are a whole, complete family with one member who has moved on to the next step in our journey just a bit sooner than the rest of us. But one day, we will all be together again.
First day of #thirdgrade
Second day of #middleschool
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First day of #middleschool
Curious Georgia #beaumontrocks #thirdgrade
The kids find all kinds of ways to use the treehouse now that it’s all retrofitted. (And note Jon in corner of frame continuing in his ongoing quest to perfect the #treehouse in both form and function.)
Major #AmericanGirl Doll play happening around here today with Charlotte, Georgia and their cousin Harper. I just have to point out that their lavish selection of food has suddenly made me hungry for lunch if lunch were being catered by @magpiescakes & #KrispyKreme Donuts
I totally totally cannot BELIEVE that this child starts middle school in just a few more days.
Happy 11th birthday to my darling girl! Today on my blog I wrote up her #birthstory, complete with some Captain & Tennille (BigGoodThing.com)
Today is Charlotte’s #birthday and she got one of her gifts this morning, something that my practical 11 year old really wanted (11 !!!): a lap desk
Tomorrow Charlotte will be 11. Henry was excited about having a new baby sister. Here we are together at my baby shower for Charlotte. He was such a good big brother. #grief #childloss #overdoseawareness #sons
Tomorrow Charlotte (who was 3 in this photo) will be 11 years old and Leo is having another surgery to remove a tumor. We’re all so, so hopeful that he’ll still be with us to celebrate Charlotte’s 12th birthday. #greatpyrenees #greatpyreneesofinstagram
The refurbished #treehouse is a hit!
My man mowed multiple acres today. He’s basically the god of rural lawn mowing #farmlife #tennessee #summertime
#harrypotter & #guineapigs go together like mac & cheese#guneapigsofinstagram
Elliot & Leo have a chat
#backtoschool shopping. I just spent around $100 on the school-provided supply lists for my 3rd grade and 6th grader. My heart hurts for all the parents I know are stressing over how they’re going to pay for all these supply list items by the time school starts next week :-(
This may be the last #sunflower #bouquet that I eke out of my #garden this summer. Read my blog at BigGoodThing.com for an update. #tennessee #flowers #cottagegarden #sunflowers🌻
Last day at the beach. Last week being 10. I’ll miss 10. It’s been a good age.
Although he loves his babysitter, Leo is VERY glad to be back home after a week of boarding while we were at the beach with family. We took two cars to pick the pets up tonight - my very small car for the giant guinea pig cage and Jon’s Outback for Leo. But when Leo saw me open the back door to my tiny car, he leapt into the back seat and wouldn’t budge. So I drove Leo home in my car and Jon put the pig cage into the wayback of the Subaru where Leo was supposed to ride 😉 This will be a hard week for Leo because he’s going to have this newest tumor removed. Poor baby. #greatpyrenees #greatpyreneesofinstagram
I can’t believe that she’ll be 11 in only a few days. It just seems like yesterday when she was born
So cute: last night my niece Nancy (@nancycatsings )was playing her ukulele on the beach & this dog came up and essentially joined her.
Georgia & Charlotte #southcarolina #beach #murrellsinlet
Jon & Georgia at the #beach tonight #southcarolina #murrellsinlet
Charlotte & Georgia hit the teacups #southcarolina #beach #amusementpark
Next to Charlotte’s sleeping space at our beach house. Yes, she brought all of that for only one week, including the clip on reading lamp.
A good vacation is being had this year #charlotte #southcarolina #beach #10yearsold
Beach baby Georgia #southcarolina #beach #cousins #sunshine
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Seen in NC convenience store today. Disgusting. Obviously supposed to sound like #oxycontin #opioidepidemic #addiction
Georgia’s birthday gift this year of a big box o’ #beanies has been a rousing success. #beaniebabies
Live in or around #knoxville ? Looking for a great babysitter? My awesome niece Eleanor has openings for babysitting clients. She has her own transportation and plenty of references. Just text me at 865-236-1339 & I’ll give you her contact info. - Katie
That time when Charlotte & her #AmericanGirl doll looked eerily similar. #dolls #AmericanGirlDolls #americangirldoll
I love this photo of Henry, @janegranju & @elliotgranju all passed out asleep on the couch together. No clue why Elliot had donned giant black gloves that day.
I’m back on #Twitter after an extended absence. Give me a follow @thekatieallison & I’ll happily reciprocate #tweeting #socialmedia #mommybloggers #mommyblog #mombloggers #momblog