My 29th Year _ As we drove back to our trulli from #Ostuni last night, my husband asked me for a review of my 29th year. The highs, the lows and what I want to achieve in the next year. _ As I started rattling off my list, I realised so much has been achieved this year despite the backdrop of a very unpleasant pregnancy. My ultimate highlights were marrying the love of my life in Italy, my father in law went into remission, we created a healthy and sweet little boy, I strengthened my relationship with my little brother (in law), my work got featured in many more publications, ( @youyourwedding @perfectweddingmag to name a few) and my couples got even more sweet, stylish and laid back. We were also incredibly lucky that my husband was able to take 5 months paternity leave allowing me to enjoy both motherhood and growing my business. I'm incredibly grateful for this time we get to spend together building precious memories. _ Pregnancy and labour were harder than I ever imagined and there are so many things you encounter that no one speaks about until you are knee deep in pregnancy. I found the inability and pain to move around incredibly frustrating and the sight of such swollen ankles indeed reduced me to tears on many an occasion. _ I'm really looking forward to this next year watching my baby grow and giving us more beautiful smiles and giggles. My goal this year is to launch my personal blog (I've always been an oversharer and writing is cathartic). I've wanted to do it for years to discuss issues that are important to me but couldn't quite find the right time or confidence to do so. We'll hopefully be moving house to a greener area and I'm also so excited this year to work for a whole host of creatives getting married, (this year seem to all come from fashion and interior industries which has so far been a dream to shoot). The new website is formally launching this summer too (though you can get a peak of it now) and I'll be growing my offerings to industry suppliers too. It's a full year ahead, juggling work, life and motherhood but I'm ready to go! That's not to say I'll be turning down life hacks if anyone has any for juggling life with a bambino.
Introducing the newest team member of Xander and Thea _ Otto Aloysius De Pasquale-Hindocha _ Arriving a few weeks early, this tiny little kid has stolen our hearts and changed our life forever. 5lb 12oz (Aloysius is pronounced Ah-low-ish-us)
Tears of joy _ I can't believe we started our wedding journey unsure whether we should hired a videographer or not. I couldn't shake off something that my brides would say to me though. For those who didn't have a videographer, they said it was their biggest regret and those that did all commented how it was one of the best decisions they made. _ We decided to invest in a videographer and it really was an investment but one I can say was worth it in terms of reliving the memories. _ The wedding lead up was chaotic to say the least, we each had a sickly parent, with my mum ending up in hospital only a few days before the wedding, it was abroad, there were some disgruntled members of family, and some of our main local suppliers like catering and furniture hire went awol up until the night before the wedding. There were too many projects I'd taken on that were meant to be divided out in the family but our attention was focused on mum naturally, making the last few days one of very late nights and a lot of work. I'd dreamt of a candlelit affair and invested huuundreds in candles only to be told on the day itself, there had been a change of heart at the venue and we weren't allowed to light them! (Whaaat!) _ Everything that was truly important on the day went well, I married the love of my life, (the kindest man that even now 7 months later, I can't quite believe I am lucky enough to have for life!), Our closest family and friends mingled together, there were tears of joy, much laughter, heartfelt vows and declarations of love yet it's taken me months to be able to think about our wedding without being reminded of the stress it caused both before and after. Our life is usually is very peaceful, I mean it's practically serene usually and the contrast was suffocating. It's hard to admit that it's taken me months to think of my wedding and JUST see the joyous moments and NOT feel the stress. I found it a little devastating that I could feel that way about such an amazing day. _ Having our fantastic photos and video back has brought me so much joy and peace. Investing the majority of our budget in those really was a wise decision. _ Continued in comments👇🏼
Self Love & Thanking your haters✌🏼 🙌🏼 _ Running your own business gives you little time to stop and contemplate what you have achieved. I've spoken about it before. Ideally, we should all stop and celebrate our wins more often but if like me, you find that working on one project sparks ideas for another 7 you'll understand it's not quite as easy as it seems. I am usually itching to start on the next, I really suck at slowing down and celebrating what I have achieved. I like the idea of more Champagne nights, clinking glasses in celebration...it's hardly a drag right?! _ I recently found notes I made when I started my business. Amongst them there were quotes from people that had explicitly said I couldn't, wouldn't make it. I had written these on post it notes and had them around my workspace and I used these quotes to fuel my desire to succeed (so thank you haters! 🙌🏼). _ As this year marks 5 years of running my business. It more specifically means 5 years of countless couples who have entrusted their day to me. 5 years of 'blood, sweat and tears'. 5 years of creating a full time business that allows me to, physically survive and live, have creative freedom, control over my own schedule, place of work etc. I'm definitely a very harsh critic of myself, often too harsh, but as I went through my archives of all the weddings, engagements and families I have had the honour of capturing (I have failed to blog-remedying that soon) I can't help but feel proud of what I have achieved. It's feels uncomfortable, boastful to say (a post for another day!) but I am so proud of my determination, my commitment, my growth. _ Give yourself some self love today! I'd love LOVE to hear what you are proud of or something that you are loving about your self/life right now, do unashamedly pop your comment below and let's celebrate together this Friday! 💕 🎉 #selflove
Happy International Womans Day! _ Before we knew we were having a baby boy, a few of my closest friends and family joked that if we were having a girl we would raise her as an ardent feminist. _ I quickly corrected them. I said, I felt it was more important to raise my son a feminist than my daughter. Equality is achieved easier when the men in society understand the value of equality, when they see and fight against the privilege that has been bestowed upon them. Feminism isn't a women's issue. It's a human issue. When women and the qualities they bring to the table are valued, men benefit in a much greater way than when the women around them are repressed. _ Lets continue to fight a fierce fight for equality so that our sons can express themselves honestly and our daughters can smash through glass ceilings, [amongst many other issues!] #justafewthoughts #internationalwomansday #masculinitysofragile #equality #feminist
Wedding bands are forged from raw elements and love is formed in the same way. It emanates from humble beginnings, made by imperfect beings. It is the process of creating something beautiful, where once nothing existed. _ [Extract from our ceremony- exchanging of rings] _ Photo is of one of the sweetest couples i have had the pleasure of photographing. Their love for one another was palpable, every time I met them!