Something I'm working on every single day....⠀ ⠀ ⠀ A couple of weeks ago, I had the pleasure of hearing @amandagorejoy speak (she was amazing!), and she said that 95-99% of the time, we are completely unconscious of our thoughts. That means that they all day long our thoughts just race through our mind on autopilot, and we aren't consciously steering them in any particular direction or questioning them or analyzing them. ⠀ ⠀ And many of us are telling ourselves things like: I'm not good enough. I'm not smart enough. I'm not pretty enough. I can't do this. I'll never be as good as her. If people knew the real me, they wouldn't like me. ⠀ ⠀ Today, I want you to pay attention to the way that you talk to yourself....and I want you to ask yourself Would I ever say this to my best friend, or (if you have kids) to my child? ⠀ ⠀ Stop saying negative crap to yourself that you would never say to anyone else! Can you imagine if there was someone following your kids around, and repeating to them the negative stuff that you're thinking about yourself in your head all day long? You're not good enough. You're not pretty enough. You're not worth loving... What kind of impact would that have on them?⠀ ⠀ ⠀ THAT is what you're doing to yourself, every single day. Can you imagine if, instead of someone walking around pumping negativity into your kids all day long, someone was whispering positive affirmations in their ear and telling them that they're perfect just the way they are? How would that change the direction of their lives? How would that impact their confidence and belief in themselves? You have that same power over your own life, and it lies inside of your mind.⠀ ⠀ ⠀ If the thoughts that you're allowing to rule your life are things that you would NEVER say to your best friend or to a child, you need to hit the freaking cancel button on those thoughts and stop the negative self talk. The negative stories you're telling yourself are not true. Ask yourself - is this something I would say to my best friend or my child? Treat yourself with the same kind unconditional love that you would provide to someone you love, and love yourself.
It obviously takes action and hard work to hit your goals, but when it comes down to it, if you don't believe in yourself, you'll never get there. When you have unshakeable belief that you can accomplish your goals you can:⠀ ⠀ -Be terrified to do something and do it anyway⠀ ⠀ -Fail a million times along the way and still keep going⠀ ⠀ -Be told by your family/friends that you'll never make it, and do it anyway⠀ ⠀ -Push yourself outside of your comfort zone, even when it feels really hard⠀ ⠀ -Not be affected by negativity⠀ ⠀ -Show up every single day, motivated to do whatever it takes⠀ ⠀ When you KNOW without a doubt that something is going to happen, when you can see it, taste it, and visualize it....and then you start taking action towards your goal - nothing will stop you. ⠀ ⠀ If you feel like you are having trouble finding the success that you want in life or business - I would encourage you to ask yourself: Do I really believe, deep down, that I can achieve [insert your goal]? Really? Or I am allowing doubt and insecurities to take over?⠀ ⠀ And I don't know .... Maybe you've never had anyone believe in you before. Maybe you've been told that you'll never amount to anything. Maybe a teacher told you in 2nd grade that you aren't smart enough, and you believed them and have held onto it for all these years. Maybe you feel like you don't deserve success. Maybe you look at the other people who are super successful and you simply don't think you're good enough, or smart enough, or cool enough, or pretty enough, to do the same. Maybe you've tried lots of things and that didn't work and you feel like a failure. I don't know what internal story you're telling yourself, or why.⠀ ⠀ But what I do know - is that your script can be re-written.⠀ ⠀ It doesn't matter how old you are.⠀ ⠀ It doesn't matter what sort of education you have.⠀ ⠀ You can do ANYTHING you set your mind to.⠀ ⠀ But I also know that, in order to make it happen, no one will be believe in you as much as you need to believe in yourself.⠀ ⠀ If you're struggling with believing in yourself and going for what you want, feel free to reach out, because you are not alone - and I want to lift you up!
What is the magic thing needed for success?⠀ ⠀ Last year I was finishing up a coaching session with a photographer, and I had just spilled ALL of my secrets with her, when she asked me a question that caught me off guard:⠀ ⠀ She said: Oh, c'mon Anna, what is the 'magic thing' that you're doing or saying that I'm not? I know we found quite a few things that I need to change, but I feel like there's got to be more to being successful. I'm struggling to book clients who value me and my work, and there's just got to be something different that you're doing that the rest of us don't know about. What is it? Just tell me your big secret to success!⠀ ⠀ As those words left her mouth, I knew EXACTLY where she was coming from. Because I've felt the same way, too many times to count. I've looked at others so many times and wondered how they were doing what they were doing....I've wondered what secret they were privy to that I didn't know about. Doesn't it always seem like there are people who just seem to be good at everything they try, who don't seem to struggle the way that you do?⠀ ⠀ So, anyway - getting that question during the coaching session a year ago ignited something in me. I started to get really curious about what it takes to be successful, and as a result I've spent a lot of time researching and soul searching and thinking about why some people/businesses really make it when others continue to struggle. Is there a secret to success?⠀ ⠀ I'm answering this question on the blog today! Link in profile.⠀ ⠀ #success #successmindset #business #successquotes #blog #blogger #secret #businesswoman #businessowner #magic #networkmarketing #workfromhome #coach ⠀ ⠀
This. This is why I made the leap this year to change everything, despite my fear of closing our photography business. I missed SO much of this over the past 7 years. This year, I’ve committed to being available to welcome the boys home after school and to spend the entire afternoon with them...and it’s changed everything. Business can wait, but this sure as hell can’t. ❤️ #workingmom #familyfirst #boys #boymom #mompreneur #businesswoman #balance #mom #workfromhome #backporch #play #playtime #momlife