Talk about the power of an image. The strength behind the scars. The soul behind the fighter. Self kindness might not have healed the scars themselves, but it definitely healed the issues around my scars. Thanks for sharing with #scarrednotscared - it's ok to not know all the answers. ❤ • #repost @kvosti24 If you spoke to your friends the way you speak to yourself, would you have any friends? • It's easy to get down on yourself when you feel your body is failing you. Whether it's getting sick a lot, getting injured, living with a disease, having scoliosis or some other challenge that JUST HAPPENS. It consumes you, and it's difficult to separate you, your spirit, from your physical disability. • It's scary to live with uncertainty about what's happening in your body - especially if doctors can't find an exact diagnosis. You want answers, and you want them now. A lot could be at stake! Or... everything could be fine after while. • I'm attempting something radical - I'm curious about the power of selfkindness in the healing process. To be continued...
NEW YOUTUBE VIDEO: SELF LOVE THROUGH SOOTHING TOUCH Self-touch is something that is massively underrated when it comes to self love and self care. Make giving yourself a hug a habit. Start placing your hand on your heart more. Stroke your body instead of pulling at it. I did a post on this the other day but thought the best way to explain it was to show you in a video. Click the link in the bio and see 5 ways to comfort yourself through physical touch. It's great to ground yourself, reassure yourself, feel more centred or a way to subtle show self love in a public place. And if you got through reading all of this, AND watching the video and you haven't hugged yourself yet - WHAT ARE YOU DOING?! Stop, drop and hug yourself. ❤
Whatever you are going through right now, you can overcome it. Please believe me. Believe me over everyone else who is telling you otherwise. I've been told otherwise my whole damn life. I've been told that I will have a shorter life expectancy, I've been told that if I'm not careful I could end up paralysed. I'm so done with people telling me what I can and can't do. I don't care if you are my doctors, my physio or my family and friends. I'm so DONE living in fear. FUCK YOUR LIMITATIONS. Like seriously, fuck them! I've had 15 surgeries, and the worst of them were 5 when I was 11. This is me recovering from 3 brain surgeries, a punctured intestine and a brain tumour removal surgery in the space of 3 months. I was a shell of the person I was before, not just physically but emotionally. I've never been more fragile and more scared to live, but also to lose my life. I lived in fear for a long ass time and it wasn't worth it. 8 years of living carefully and I ended back in hospital anyway so please live life to the full. Don't go through what I went through in order to realise you've got it good. Don't lose your health and the control over your body to realise that body of yours is doing its best to keep you HERE. To keep you ALIVE. Live your life while you still can. The fact that anyone could compare these two photos and only see weight gain saddens me. In the context of EVERYTHING, that is the last thing you should see. This IS a transformation. This is unhealthy to healthy. We all need a bit of perspective when it comes to thinking about our bodies and before you think about what you don't have - that thigh gap, those big boobs, those lovely curves, that tiny waist... STOP. And think about what you do have. A body that works. That keeps you breathing and has always been there for you, fighting for you... even when you've not been fighting for it. My body fought to keep me here, to keep my alive. My body won, I'm still breathing. The only difference now is that we are fighting on the same team. #ScarredNotScared #OneTakeBeauty
15 scars, 15 stories and a deep enough love that I don't care what you think of the ink. #scarrednotscared
HOW DO YOU TOUCH YOURSELF? (Get your mind out of the gutter 🙄 I'm being serious! 💪🏽) When is the last time you gave yourself a hug? When is the last time you put your hand on your heart and just breathed? When is the last time you touched your stomach gently and in a kind way? When you grow up in a culture of self-hatred, it seems normal to pull and squish your stomach. I mean, how many movies have you watched where this happens while the girl complains about her weight? Instead of pulling at your stomach, have you tried just rubbing it in a loving way? Or resting your hand on your stomach in a peaceful way? Squishing your stomach to me is the same as that annoying aunt who used to painfully pinch your cheeks and tell you how cute you are in a really patronising way so I refuse to squish my stomach, not only because it hurts my scars but because my body deserves better than that. If you watch my YouTube videos you will notice that I put my hand on my heart a lot. It's a really loving way to reassure yourself. It's a subtle to show compassion to yourself and centre yourself. For a moment today, give it a try. Or try rubbing your arms from shoulder to elbow. It's a really important part of self care that isn't spoken about enough. Its a part of self care because soothing touch triggers the mammalian caregiver system so you can LITERALLY take care of yourself better. It's also great if you get anxious or nervous. So go give yourself a hug today! You deserve it ❤ #ScarredNotScared • (And yes another #OneTakeBeauty because unfiltered one take love is the best kind of love) 👙: @curvykate
NEW YOUTUBE VIDEO: I'M BODY POSITIVE BUT... • I hope some of you might have seen my new YouTube video, cause now it's YOUR TURN. If all these women could do it, so can you! @thechristinecho @powertoprevail @honorcurves @laurenmcaulay_ @dontkillbirds @frombones2bold @_kellyu @dothehotpants @missalexlarosa @franhayden @chachipowerproject @hollieannhart @omgkenzieee @sassy_latte @thesassytruth_ @theunedit @iammelwells @the_feeding_of_the_fox @tattooedyogimama @khal_essie @_kellyu @franhayden @itskellyknox @kelseykinsel @lysslady @chachipowerproject @malinxolofsson @jannylivesunapologetically @spookyfatbabe @cupcakesandcardiology @brittanyburgunder @m0reniita @glutes_and_greens @curvasian @jacklyn.lune It's ok to not be perfect. It's ok to be body positive and not always be body confident. It's even ok to have a campaign about scars and still struggle with how to talk about your scars in the bedroom. We might be body positive activists but we are human first. So proud that we are standing together and showing that perfection is overrated. So comment below! What's your I'm body positive but...? Watch the video and finish the sentence below and I'm going to make another video with all your confessions 💞 If you haven't watched it yet, go give it a watch ❤ LINK IN THE BIO #ScarredNotScared
NEW YOUTUBE VIDEO: I'M BODY POSITIVE BUT... • Today I really want to bust the perfectionism and pressure there is within the body positive community to be body confident all day, every day. It isn't realistic and it's also not accurate. Being body confident isn't about not having insecurities - it's about having those insecurities and not letting them define you or affect your actions. I believe body positivity is shown in actions, not in thoughts. You can't control your thoughts, but you can control your actions and what I've found is that people who are body confident spend less time in their day thinking about their body, and their body isn't the reason to not do something. In today's video, some of your favourite people on Instagram have shared their I'm body positive but.... There are so many of them that I couldn't tag them all. So here's a full list of everyone who's in the video: @thechristinecho @powertoprevail @honorcurves @laurenmcaulay_ @dontkillbirds @frombones2bold @_kellyu @dothehotpants @missalexlarosa @franhayden @chachipowerproject @hollieannhart @omgkenzieee @sassy_latte @thesassytruth_ @theunedit @iammelwells @the_feeding_of_the_fox @tattooedyogimama @khal_essie @_kellyu @franhayden @itskellyknox @kelseykinsel @lysslady @chachipowerproject @malinxolofsson @jannylivesunapologetically @spookyfatbabe @cupcakesandcardiology @brittanyburgunder @m0reniita @glutes_and_greens @curvasian @jacklyn.lune LINK IN THE BIO - go give it awatch!
Last week, I watched an episode of @officialsurvivor_cbs where a character on the show was outed as being transgender. It was done in a malicious way and it was really painful to watch. I couldn't stop crying and my heart went out to Zeke and I really wanted to check that this stranger on my TV screen was ok. So I went onto the internet and found an article that he had written. In it he writes about how there was a point in his life that people started distancing themselves and he said the quote above. He then moved to New York and had the opportunity to build himself a new identity and not just be seen as the trans person. I couldn't help but connect with this. I can't imagine the struggle a trans person faces on a daily basis and I recognise my privilege in that aspect. It's why I believe his story will inspire others. It certainly did me. As someone who experienced this unanimous crinkling of noses when I became the sick girl, my heart ached for him. In my situation, the distancing occurred because I was seen as fragile and people found it too difficult to talk about it. They'd rather be silent than risk awkwardness. He couldn't be more accurate about the fact that this loss of people in your life leads to a hell of self doubt. That rebirth that he was afforded, also happened to me. It was in uni and mine only lasted 4 days until my deep dark secret was revealed in a game of truth or dare but 4 days was enough in an intense atmosphere like freshers week to have already created bonds and be seen as normal. It's why I want to urge everyone that follows me to be brave enough to have those conversations that scare you. Don't be too scared of saying something wrong that you don't say something at all. That applies to everything, LGBTQ+, body positivity, feminism, physical health, mental health and of course scars. You are such a warrior Zeke #scarrednotscared
As the weather gets hot, the supposed difference between being fat and skinny grows. In the winter, everyone stays covered up, but in the summer, skinny girls are allowed to wear short shorts and fat girls are meant to blister in the heat as they stay in jeans to avoid the chub rub. Skinny girls can wear beautiful florals but fat girls should continue to wear black because it's more flattering. Well this photo just proves ALL that wrong! ☀️ You can wear WHATEVER YOU LIKE THIS SUMMER! Short shorts, crop tops, bikinis are for everyone. Patterns, colours and brights are for everyone! Fuck flattering! Wear what makes you happy! 👙 👗 I was online shopping yesterday and it's easy to believe that curvier women don't wear these items when even the images used in the plus size section aren't plus size but it's all a lie. This is where the power of Instagram lies! It shows that it's possible that every body type can wear whatever you like! So let's take the power of Instagram a step further. Here's another #OneTakeBeauty for you all. It's ok to take one photo, even if you aren't ready and still fixing your hair mid-photo. It ok if you are moving in the photo, our bodies move and it's ok to capture that! AND MOST OF ALL, it's ok to be makeup free and filter free, unedited and unretouched. Your body is beautiful enough without editing! Join in and take ONE photo. @instagram even gives you the option to take one straight from inside the app so use the feature for the first time and tag me in your #OneTakeBeauty photos! #ScarredNotScared
NEW YOUTUBE VIDEO: HOW TO FIT IN This is a quote from my brand new YouTube video. A lot of people have asked me how to fit in, whether it's in school or their family or body positivity. It never made sense to me because when body positivity started, all our pages were so uniquely us and those differences were what made us shine but over the last few years, there's been a growing perception that there is only one right way to do bopo and we all have to post like each other to be a part of the same community - that couldn't be more wrong. And I think this is a perfect example for life! If you are trying so hard to be like everyone else or to fit in, you deny everyone else the opportunity to like you for you. Even if you finally found a way to fit in, you'd be questioning whether they would like the real you and fear that if you didn't keep up this act, you'd lose your friends. It's why it's important to talk about this because fitting in and belonging are two entirely different things. The link is in the bio as always and if you haven't subscribed, it would mean the world if you could. I upload every Wednesday and Sunday at 4pm, even if it takes 48 hours for YouTube to process it like this one did, I believe in commitments and I committed to myself that I would do 2 videos a week for a whole year and I've stuck to it for over 4 months now! 🙌🏽💪🏽 8 more to go! #scarrednotscared