Today I went to a hot tub party and it’s days like today when I remember how much of life I would’ve missed out on if I hadn’t found body confidence. I was thinking about how many people would not join in, or even worse, would decline the invite because there would be too much peer pressure to join in. I think about the fact that even receiving the invite would induce anxiety... and it’s not just hot tub parties, it’s pool parties, beach parties or even nights out when you aren’t feeling yourself! If you are in that place this summer, remember the important thing is that you go. I don’t care if you are wearing a bikini or a one piece. I don’t even care if you have to wear a t-shirt to get into the hot tub, but get in, join in and don’t live your life with a list of missed opportunities! Happy birthday to these two wonderful queens @c.kirk and Helena! I’ve decided I now NEED a hot tub 😂 #ScarredNotScared • Bikini is @swimsuitsforall
I actually really love this and agree with it! When people ask me why I think my scars are beautiful, I often respond “because they are mine”. When people ask how can they find their scars beautiful, I tell them that it’s not as important to find them physically attractive than to accept them. Now, I actually think my scars are beautiful but that was never the goal. The goal was to stop my scars from being the reason I wasn’t living my life. What are your thoughts?! #ScarredNotScared • Tweet from @nikita_gill
Get your legs out! Get your arms out! This summer, that is your goal! Your gorgeous skin deserves the sun ☀️ This entire outfit is @simplybeuk and every summer, you all know I find myself my perfect pair of shorts and I live in them all summer long. Last summer were my ripped ones. This summer, I’m loving embroidery! These specific @simplybeuk ones are actually 50% off at the moment. I’ve also got you all 10% off fashion, footwear and lingerie on their website with the code : MEJ10 #SimplySummer #Ad • Wearing: Red Cross Back Cami (LT160FP) Embroidered Studded Shorts (VZ803FP) • Also the video from mine and @chloeincurve_ trip to Rome is up! Head to @simplybeuk ‘s page to watch it 🙌🏽☀️
The second part of my video with life coach @michellezelli is out! We cover: - What’s the difference between a coach and therapist? - How do you cope with a toxic person that you can’t remove from your life and have to see everyday? - How do I handle society’s idea of beauty when my genetics don’t fit those standards? Swipe up in my stories or head to my YouTube: Michelle Elman
It is less than a month until my book “Am I Ugly?” is published and I really can’t believe it... If you watched my announcement video late last year on my YouTube channel, you would have seen me sobbing my heart out for 10 minutes, on the day I finally signed the contract. I’m not going to lie, I never shared this video over here because I thought it was too much. But this is me and to be honest, this is only a fraction of the emotions I have felt. We already live in a world that dilutes emotions and disguises the ugly cries from the world and I refuse to contribute to that. This book is my heart that lives outside of my chest. I have never worked so long and hard for something and I have never pursued something so much, even when every door was shutting and the world was saying that I was ridiculous. I started this book at 13 in a school project. I returned to it at 19 when I was hospitalised. I wrote and deleted for 2 years believing I was shit at writing until at 21, I made a rule to stop deleting. Every time I got on the tube, I took out the notes section of my phone and started writing. By the end of 6 months, I had 200,000 words. Then began 3 years of editing, finding an agent, pitching, changing agents, pitching again and finally a book deal! I am so proud of myself for not giving up. This is my ugliest cry and proudly so. Am I Ugly? Don’t bother answering, it’s a rhetorical question 😉🔥 Link in the bio to preorder if you haven’t already #AmIUgly #ScarredNotScared
I did a very special video on my YouTube with my life coach @michellezelli and we had so many questions, it’s a two parter! We talk about: - Whether I’m hard to coach because I’m a coach - What homework I do - What do you do if you don’t think your problems are big enough to NEED therapy And so much more! If you like my advice, you’ll love Michelle’s advice! Head over to my YouTube: Michelle Elman. Give it a watch and leave a comment!
So I take a lot of smiling and laughing photos right? Does that make you believe I’m always happy? I hope not. Because no one is. But am I happy in the moment that I take the photo? Yes I am. All my laughs and smiles, are genuine laughs and smiles. I usually pick the photo right before I pose. We all like to divide our happiness into fake and real. Real if it was elicited by a friend or loved one. Fake if it’s for a camera. But all my happiness is real. All my joy is real. And I don’t seek to categorise it. The biggest misconception with happiness is that it’s a constant state or a goal that someone can attain. No one is happy 100% of the time. The goal is to have more happy moments than sad ones and to NOTICE the happy moments more than the sad. I had a pretty shit day. And you would’ve seen that I’ve been having quite a few lately. If you measured up my good to bad moment ratio today, it wouldn’t be a great ratio but if I did a ratio for the week, it wouldn’t be so shit. If I did a ratio for the month, it would get even better and if I did it for my life, it would be through the roof. Today, I had a shit day but in a month, I won’t remember that. I’ll remember the 10 seconds of fun I had today on a merry go round. That’s not a metaphor, I literally went on a merry go round today - my mum’s suggestion to cheer me up! #ScarredNotScared • Just released a YouTube video with my life coach @michellezelli talking more about this. Head to Michelle Elman on YouTube or swipe up in my stories
If you look at your wardrobe, and it’s filled with clothes that do not fit, you might as well slap a sign across your wardrobe that reads “not good enough”. Squeezing into a size smaller just so you can have the comfort of knowing you are a smaller size is actually your ego talking. Your body doesn’t deserve that discomfort. If you can’t bear tearing away from your clothes just yet, put it in a bag in another room and if in 6 months, you still don’t fit them, give them to charity.
I’m not going to stop until I’ve found a @simplybeuk blazer in every colour under the sun 🌈 Living for their attention grabbing blazers at the moment 💁🏻♀️ I used to shy away from the attention.... I know, you’d never believe it if you met me now 🙈😂... but I did! I always thought when I caught someone’s attention it was for a bad reason. Instead my goal was to fit in, blend in, and fly under the radar... how boring! Now I’m all about the brights. I want my wardrobe as bright as my personality ☀️ Got you all a discount code for 10% off fashion, footwear and lingerie on @simplybeuk : MEJ10 #SimplySummer #Ad • Wearing Double Brested Jacket With Gold Button Detail Product Code: WZ697FP Size: UK 20
How many times have we heard this or seen this when a person advocates for representation but “only up to a point”... basically, they want to be represented but no bigger. It’s absolute nonsense. Either you believe in representation for EVERYONE, or you don’t believe in representation at all. #ScarredNotScared