How would you describe your ideal life? Conlan and I started talking about the future today, and I asked him is the same question. Why? . . Some people might talk about their dream career, relationship, where they live, how much money they make, etc...but others will probably describe less tangible goals. Going on adventures, having good friends, doing what you love, (okay, and having enough money to travel the world). There’s no wrong answer! . . But it’s important to remember that there are always things in your ideal life that you can implement NOW. I want to be more spontaneous, take more photos, and do more things that scare me — so why wait? Life is never going to be ideal, but I refuse to wait for the “perfect moment” to start making it better. ✨ . . Model: @soyjoyous
If you’ve been looking for a sign, consider this it. Stop waiting for things to be perfect, stop waiting for things to be easy, stop waiting for what you want to come to you — go out and get it. . . Whether that’s starting (or finishing) a book, moving out of your parents house, quitting a job you hate, or hitting up the gym — there are times when waiting makes sense, and there are times when fear keeps us from moving forward. . . For me? I’ve decided I’m done worrying. Don’t let fear hold you back from what you want in life. ✨ . . (📷 via @weheartit)
What are your holiday plans? It’s been a crazy week, but I’m definitely ready for a long weekend and lots of napping. . . Model: @itsonlyariel.
What are your end-of-year plans? Mine involve lots of writing, photoshoots, and planning a super-secret project. Instead of waiting for January to start dominating my goals, I’m getting a head start on them now! . . I know the end of the year can be tough — especially with the holidays and burnout — but set aside time to do something for *you* to get you closer to your dream life. It doesn’t have to be huge, it doesn’t have to be something major. In fact, small changes tend to be more successful over time! . . What’s one thing you could start today to build a better future for yourself?
What’s the best advice you’ve heard lately? I’ve given a lot of advice over the years, but there’s one thing I’ve learned that definitely takes the cake. When it comes to relationships (romantic or not), always surround yourself with people who make you want to be better — but will love you no matter what. They’re the ones who matter most. . . I count myself blessed to have a kickass partner like @conlanpatrek, and I’m so grateful to have him in my life. ✨
Do you ever have “a ha” moments? Where something just clicks and you’re like “this is it, this makes sense” and it feels like something unlocks in your brain? I had one of those yesterday, and I swear I almost cried. . . I spend a lot of time learning, trying new things, and working on...well, everything. I wear a lot of hats — photographer, author, journalist, marketer, publicist — but sometimes I just want to have that one “thing” that defines me and that I work toward. . . But life doesn’t work like that, and guess what? It’s okay. It’s okay to have a lot of things that you’re passionate about. It’s okay to take the non-traditional path. It’s okay to do what makes you happy, right now, without thinking about five, ten, or twenty years in the future. . . Let future us handle that. Right now? Just do you.✨ . . (Also, how amazing is this sign? 11 million refers to the number of undocumented immigrants in the United States. It’s a tribute to how much they contribute to our country without most of us being aware of it.)
Do you listen to podcasts? What are your favorites? It’s rainy, cold, and a wee bit miserable in Nashville, but I just finished listening to an episode of the @goaldiggerpodcast with @jennakutcher that left me feeling inspired. . . Honestly, I cried when I listened to @sherisalata describe her career journey — before she even got to the *good* stuff — because I felt like she was talking about me. I’ve spent years hopping around different careers, trying to make them work, and I’ve learned a LOT from all of those experiences (so I definitely don’t regret them), but I’ve had to learn to trust my gut instinct when it comes to what’s best for me, my career goals, and my life in general. . . My best friend just pivoted in her career, and she told me it was SUCH a culture shock to be starting at a virtual ground zero again. But even if you’re scared of change, if you’re scared of having to go back a few spaces and reset, think about the pay-off. Think about how much happier you’ll be, and remember that you deserve that joy. ✨ . . Model: @pointfiveacre
Anyone else struggle with self-confidence? Personally, it’s something I’ve dealt with off and on for...well, my entire life. Whether that’s impostor syndrome or negative self-talk, it’s so easy to fall into the trap of believing the worst about yourself. . . Here’s my secret: You don’t have to think you’re the greatest thing on the planet — you don’t even have to fake it til you make it (although sometimes that helps — you just have to trust that you CAN do this and *keep trying.* . . Believing in yourself isn’t about blind trust, it’s about following through in order to avoid self-sabotage. Trusting yourself means sending the scary email, even though your terrified, because if you DON’T then you’re guaranteed to fail. It means hitting “publish” on your @wattpad novel because the only way you can get better is through practice. Just keep doing and improving, no matter what, because the rest will follow. ✨ . . (📷 via @weheartit)