Just in case you haven’t been told today, you are beautiful and you can accomplish anything you set your mind to. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ You don’t need to have it all figured out, have perfect eyebrows, or a fancy office in a spotless house. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The internet has tricked us into thinking that we have to be an expert in order to start something new and be a success. In reality the WORLD is full of people desperately searching for women just like you and me. The ones that are kind of a hot mess but keep trying our best everyday. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Somewhere along the line we stopped rooting for the little guy and started expecting perfection. Let’s stop doing that okay? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Don’t be afraid to be a beginner. Instead, admit you have zero idea what you are doing and bring everyone along for the ride. There are thousands of women out there that NEED reassurance that Pinterest perfect houses don’t actually exist. Okay fine, I need reassurance. I’m personally TIRED of trying to live up to the expectations I have created in my mind after following countless blogs, Pinterest boards, and even seeing gorgeous pictures on these little squares. We are multifaceted women and we need to embrace that! So, PLEASE tell me I’m not the only one who constantly feels like I’m a lot more hot mess than Pinterest perfect?
Are you guilty of taking TOO MANY pictures? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ When your littles look up at you, do they see your smiling face or a phone/camera there? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 🙋🏼♀️ I was definitely the latter. In an effort to make sure I documented their lives, I stoped participating in it. Christmas was spent taking pictures of them opening presents instead of just enjoying the smile on their face. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Instead of documenting every second. Get 1-3 good pictures and set the camera down! I promise 50 years from now you won’t need the THOUSANDS of pictures you took and probably never printed. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Focus on less pictures, more life AND by doing so you just might fee motivated to print out that yearly book you have been taking about. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I’m personally a HUGE fan of #projectlifeapp by @beckyhigginsllc I use the app and can have a month worth of memories finished in minutes and ready to print of add to a yearly bound book. Be honest, when is the last time you printed everyday life pictures?
I have gained 20lbs in the past year. For the first time in my life I have had to experience how uncomfortable it is to walk in a dress when my thighs rub together....ouch ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Here is the thing, I am not plus size but I am also not skinny and fit. I lost all of my baby weight after Annabelle so that is not an excuse. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The truth is that I got tired of chasing a skinny body and feeling guilty when I ate sweets. I was tired of getting angry when my kids wouldn't let me get in a workout and I was really tired of not feeling enough even when I was skinny. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ There is no body love movement out there there for the everyday women that kind of eats healthy....but clearly sneaks pecan pie for breakfast. Being in the in-between is confusing and frustrating and I am ready to change that. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ In the past this picture would have never seen the light of day. I would have deleted it...or never allowed it to be taken...well I can't really say what I would have done because I have never been here before, I have never been this size/weight. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Today, I am declaring that I am going to love my body just the way it is. I am going to stop picking at my love handles, back fat, and thighs...but I am NOT giving up on attempting to be mostly healthy. I know how to get back in shape and can do it quickly but right now at this point in my life I just don't really care to. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I am struggling enough to make sure I spend enough time with the girls, work a business, clean house, cuddle chickens, train my dog, socialize MYSELF, and still have some ounce of energy left for my husband. Yep, I workout 2ish times a week, I may run here or there but I do it because I want to NOT because I am trying to change. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ A good friend of mine once said you can't hate yourself skinny and she was so right. Today, I am going to love me just the way I am, tomorrow I am going to love me...and when I am ready I might decide I want to be in shape again...but if I don't ever get there...this size 6/8 160lb version of me will be just as happy.
This is your friendly reminder to slow down and enjoy the life you are living today. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ It is so easy to get caught up in your business, your kids, mundane tasks at hand and start focusing on what the future can hold. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Friend, it’s not worth it! Memories are not made in the future Stop wishing away the hard parts and start finding the joy. Go all in on this thing called life and soak up every second of it. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ What is one thing that you end up wishing away? For me it was my youngest daughter. She has been so difficult that I found myself longing for when she was older and missed out on so many little moments. I was there and present but wasn’t allowing myself to fully enjoy the because I was frustrated. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Not anymore, this mama is going to enjoy the good and the bad and be present!
Me driving into the weekend... ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I could not be more excited that my Mama is coming to visit from California!! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Can I be honest for a moment? I cried when I found I was having a girl for the first time. I was so scared that I would have the same strained relationship with her that I did with my own mom. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ It actually took a little over a year after her birth for my mom and me to repair our relationship. Those hard teenage years and a lot of hurt on both our sides ran deep but I could not be more grateful for our relationship now. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ It also took me growing up a lot. I had to learn that no matter what she was going to by my mom and give me advice (even when I didn't want it). I had to learn to respectfully decline her advice, and then admit I was wrong when I should have taken it in the first place. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Dear 16 year old self, your mom is right and she loves you...stop being so stubborn.
Slowly, step by step my little online boutique is becoming a reality. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The gorgous linen dress went live today (link in profile) and I could not be more excited!! It is seriously one of my all time favorites. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ You have to promise me one thing though..Promise that you won't judge the fact that my website is not complete and there are still a ton of dead links. The red personality in me is DYING and wants to finish it so badly but the mom in me knows that I have other priorities..This is my mom hustle, it is me pursuing my dreams in the mom cracks, not the other way around. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ One day, it will all be just the way I want it, and hopefully a wonderful resource for you but until then, it is just a little incomplete website with new products going live weekly. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Now, I have a question for you! When it comes to naming each item, do you like descriptive names Linen Floral Dress or random names such as The Sara Dress I am really struggling with that and need to do some market research. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Psst...don't forget to go check this beauty out and its perfect back detail that will allow this dress to grow with your little girl.
Let me introduce you to Evelyn Rose, my trick child. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ This beautiful little girl tricked me into thinking I was an amazing parent that did everything right and it resulted in a baby that slept 11hrs at 3 weeks old, a baby that played happily on the floor until she fell asleep, one that at healthy foods and ate at a table with glass... ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ She had me so confident in my parenting skills that I handed out wisdom and advice every chance I got. Clearly, I was doing it all right and my friends needed my help, right? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ What I wouldn't give to go back and smack myself in the face! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ My second daughter Annabelle Grace, made sure it was 100% clear that not all babies are the same. You can be doing it all wrong and end up with and easy baby or doing it all right and have the hardest baby on earth! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Just in case someone hasn't told you lately, you are doing a great job. Raising little humans is HARD, so please don't listen to anyone like the old Nikkie, and defiantly don't go reading mommy blogs that make you feel like you are failing at life. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Some days you will kill it as a mom and you will be able to enjoy every second. Other days you will wake up as salty as can be and be faced with tantrums, poppy diapers, and endless tears on both sides. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Stay strong Mama, It is just a phase so don't miss it. Find the joy is the mess, pray often for patience and guidance, get outside, make some friends, but at the end of the day...know that you are enough and you were hand picked to be a Mama to your littles.
Hey girlfriend, this is your little reminder that you are enough. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Those little “flaws” you worry about actually make you pretty darn flaw-some, so own them! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ If you feel like you have never fit in, that’s okay, you were not made to blend in with the masses. You were created to stand out and share your unique style with the world. 🖋 @writtenbybrittany #tilinsiders