Today's the day to take your Christmas decorations down. I took mine down before the 1st of Jan & started dreaming of Spring! 🌷🌱🌼 So this is my last Christmas themed pic for this festive holiday. . I'm feeling quite sad at the moment, no specific reason. The world around me just seems very grey & lacking in point. It's reminded me how sometimes our feelings can't be explained. Being a human is complex & complicated. The shame, sadness or fear we hold in our unconscious can run deep & be unpredictable. . If you're a human being this is normal... Don't panic! . ----- Tips for Low Mood ----- . ▪️Acknowledge it. Don't deny, ignore or distract yourself from it. . ▪️Remind yourself that it's normal, you're OK & it will pass. . ▪️Tell someone who will 'get it', connect with someone over it. . ▪️Tell yourself kind things. I am safe, I am strong, I am loved. . ▪️Do nurturing things, treats, rest, duvet day, get outdoors etc. . ▪️Know that I'm with you ✌️
The last day of 2018!!! 🎆 Here's how to feel inspired & motivated for 2019. . I had thought my year had been a bit 'blah' for me but actually I've LOVED reviewing my 2018 & planning 2019! It's made me realise so much! . I've devised the best 10 questions to start the New Year. Get a piece of paper & pen & get making lists!!! . 1) What am I proud of myself for this year? What have I managed? (make a list) . 2) What were my biggest mistakes? (note a lesson you can take from each) . 3) What am I prepared to let go of from 2018? . 4) What do I want more of in 2019? . 5) What are my life dreams/goals? (List them ALL, go wild) . 6) Which of them are achievable for 2019? . 7) What do I need to have done in 3 months, 6 months, 9 months & 12 months to achieve my 2019 goals? (break it down) . 8) What changes can I make to my daily routine that will move me closer to my goals? . 9) How do I sabotage what I want? . 10) How can I get even more support for myself to avoid these pitfalls? . Happy New Year Guys!!! 📸 Throwback from last New Year's Eve @marinabaysands
Happy Christmas Eve everyone!!!! . Remember it's not all about shopping & consumerism. The greatest gifts are giving someone your time, understanding & love. . So put down your phones, hold people's eye contact, give extra long hugs, make plans & commitments for adventures in the future and find things to be grateful for (even if it's a struggle😬🤭). THESE are the greatest gifts you can give. 🎁🎄✨💗
Take a deep breath & say it to yourself. Say it out loud. This is your mantra now. This is your new home ✨🎄🙏
For those of us facing a less than perfect Christmas over the next few days below are wise words from the brilliant @brenebrown ⛄🎁🎄 They helped me so I thought I'd share x . . . Every holiday season, as I think about my own life and reflect upon what my family and many of the people around me are going through right now, I’m reminded that struggle doesn’t take off for the holidays. As a lover of Christmastime, my mantra has become “the magic is in the mess” and I always like to post a little love note to myself and our communities. . We need to be kind with ourselves and remember that the gremlins don’t go on vacation. Checks bounce, chemotherapy appointments are scheduled, interventions are planned, relationships keep unravelling, being alone feels even lonelier, parents negotiate who will have the kids on Christmas morning, and the “never enoughs” are in full swing. . As I prepare to spend the next few days with my family and friends, my goal is to practice love and gratitude with the special group of folks who keep showing up and loving me, not despite my vulnerabilities and imperfections, but because of them. . I'm grateful for our community. For your generosity and the respectful way that we move forward together! . Blessings, Brené
A cheesy angel selfie but with an important Christmas message for anyone stressed, lonely or down this christmas. . Christmas is a hard time to be a therapist. . Christmas is hard. The quaint image of warm fires, large happy families, matching pajamas, present giving, parties, sparkly dresses. For most of us, the reality doesn't match up at all & we feel extra inadequate or disappointed somehow. . You're not alone. . Loved ones are missed. We feel obliged to do more. We're busier, more tired, more stressed. We compare more. Arguments increase. Debt goes up. Alcohol intake goes up. Domestic violence goes up. Our relationship with food & our body goes bad. We're taken out of the comfort of our usual routines. We return to old family dynamics. . Here are some of my suggestions... ✳️Have escape plans for commitments that may become too much for you ✳️ Stick to routines that make you happy ✳️ Talk to people that 'get it' ✳️ DON'T go into debt ✳️ Avoid comparisons ✳️ Make a plan for yourself for in the new year to look forward to ✳️ Say 'no' to things you don't want to do ✳️ Alcohol in moderation ✳️ Stay healthy ✳️ Practice self care ✳️ Even if you're alone or without money you can still plan something nice ✳️ Volunteer . ✨✨ Keep loving yourself ✨✨
This time last year I was starting a 6 day seminar that turned out to be one of the greatest experiences of my life. . I still don't really understand what happened but it seemed like intense group therapy, deep meditations, confronting 15hr long lectures & a 6 day rave. 🤷 . I've no doubt that the Tony Robbins band wagon is a cult. But somewhere in between the euphoric highs, unbelievable tiredness, inspirational speeches, revisiting old memories, chanting, hugging strangers, raw sobbing & relentlessly being out of my comfort zone... somehow he rewired my nervous system. . I listen to certain songs or meditations now & can tap into the most overwhelming gratitude whenever I need to. . More than anything, it was the people that made it so special for me. They were thriving, & not because they had their shit together, because they were able to be honest about the ways in which they didn't have their shit together. I LOVED IT. 🌍🙏 . Watching all my buddies share their clips of this year's is sad but next year I'm going back... NEXT LEVEL. 👊✌️
Here are some affirmations to try for the coming week ahead. . I am strong I am safe I am loved My feelings are valid It is safe to be imperfect I love all of myself, especially my struggles My needs matter I accept myself I love myself I am enough . Maybe just pick one that feels particularly nice to you and say it to yourself as much as possible, put it as your screen saver or a reminder on your phone to pop up a few times a day & make you smile. . Life isn't perfect for anyone, it's messy & dark at times. The trick is (once we've sat & rested in the dark long enough) to find ways to bounce back & rise up as quick as possible. . Affirmations rewire our thinking & our beliefs. When I step into fear I can become relentlessly negative. We need to move from Fearful thoughts to Loving thoughts. ...Fear ➡️ Love . .
How easily can you get yourself back to an 'OK' mindset when things get difficult? I can be hopeless at it sometimes still. . 'Self Soothing' is the idea of being able to get yourself back to an 'OK' place in your mind & body, & having control over your emotions. . Difficulty self soothing may show up as... An inability to focus on work or stay disciplined, losing temper, panic attacks, anxiety, jealousy, depression. These examples are the result of being unable to reassure ourselves sufficiently enough to feel safe & calm. . We weren't born with this skill & we don't master it on our own. It's down to the quality of the repeated soothing & reassurance we experienced from our parent in childhood. . For those of us that suspect they may still be mastering it... Meditation, positive daily practices, therapy, exercise, an understanding partner & nature are all good tools X . Also... This is one of my favourite quotes on the internet from my beautifully clever insta friend @sensitivityproject 💗🙏 Thank you x
A 'truck' could be burnout at work, an emotional breakdown, violence, a serious illness, a heart attack, an affair, or an addiction getting out of control. . I can be very reactive at times so I've been thinking about ways to manage this better & it reminded me of this theory. . Often when a 'truck' comes along in our life & disrupts or spoils everything & we're left to pick up the pieces it can seem like it's come out of nowhere but actually this is rarely the case. . There were usually 'feathers' & then 'bricks' that we chose to ignore or avoid. It is so important that we listen to our needs, to our bodies, to our partners, to our children. . If we want to avoid the big trucks in life... Listening to the gentler signs is the key x . . .