Peonies are my favorite flower. And this resonates. Thanks @strength.and.struggle.
Seriously. Must. Read.👇👇👇👇 #Repost @bellahappyfeet ・・・ Let's talk about Niecy Nash's weight. Yesterday, she received her Hollywood star, an incredible moment that most celebrities only dream of. In one of her post, she shared i had planned to be in the best shape for this moment, but life and work interrupted that. I'm way thicker than i wanted to be [...] i walked into my destiny so freaking happy that it didn't matter. I don't want to talk about this as a way to project my thoughts unto her. I want to talk about this as way to help us engage in introspection. How we've been convinced that certain bodies don't deserve the spotlight, and so we spend so much of our time trying to disappear in order to earn our existence. I have friends who considered missing friends' weddings, not going to visit family, refusing pictures, not accepting love, not going after their dreams, because they feel their bodies don't deserve to be seen unless they're thinner. Please know, these fears are very valid. It's not all in your head. We police each other heavily, overshadow accomplishments by discussing weight gain, as if what you've done matters less because you're fat. Hell, I met Oprah and was placed in front of the camera, but do you think I was fully in the moment, nah fam. I was thinking the whole time that I should have been thinner. Not HEALTHIER, just THINNER. What???? So I implore you to consider this, whether you are the shamer or the shamed. To pay attention to what we demand of people as tax to exist. . . Please don't dismiss this as trivial, just ask people what unhealthy things they've done to be thin enough for acceptance. Just ask me about my decade long eating disorder. Just ask me and the many times i rejected love, opportunities, peace of mind, because I was told only thin bodies deserve love. Just ask yourself, and think back to the many things you've done (or haven't done) for the acceptable body. #dearbodyproject #bodypositive #bodylove #selflove #wakeupweightwatchers #eatingdisorderawareness #eatingdisorderprevention #bodyacceptance #losehatenotweight
I spent years with a love/hate relationship with my appetite. Happy when it was high, because I knew my metabolism was revved and I LOVED eating food, but equally wishing I wouldn’t be quite so hungry ALL THE TIME. I also desired a suppressed appetite and how light and “good” and “clean” I felt when fasting or whatever fad I chose. Guess what? Eating enough food to support your body’s preferred size (and body fat!) is a great way to “control” your appetite. And sometimes it’s way more than what a an “expert” with a macro calculator estimates! 🙄 I love what @about_a_french_curvy_journey has to say below: ・・・ Ahahahaha love this!!!! Sarcasm is the best option to put food back to where it belongs: not the most important thing of your day!!! When you are hungry... E A T ! No matter what food, choose food you like, and move on to the next real topic of your day. Food is food. There is no moral value in food. There is no good or bad food. When you are hungry and lucky to live in a place where you can find food everywhere and afford food, then be grateful and eat the food. Trying to control your appetite is more damaging than any food!!! Oh Boy I think I need to read this speech to myself every single day LOL. What a mess this diet culture talking programming created in ourselves! We are doubting our own bodies! Whaaaaaaaaat?! We need to stop this craziness 😳. Take care 💜🧡💙💚💛❤️
Life is so much bigger than that! 🌎Meredith Noble with wise words below! #Repost @madeonagenerousplan ・・・ 🤔 What percentage of your time are you spending on trying to get thinner? (Reading books and websites, exercising, going to meetings, recording every morsel you eat, etc.?) ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 🤔 What percentage of your money are you spending on trying to get thinner? (Paying for program after program, book after book? Buying expensive superfoods and/or supplements, etc.?) ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 🤔 What percentage of your precious brain space are you spending on trying to get thinner? (Obsessing over your size and shape, obsessing over food planning, talking about dieting with friends, feeling guilt and shame, etc.) ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ 🤔Is that balance working for you? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Your purpose in life is so much more than losing weight. You only get one life! What do you wish you could be doing with the time, money and brain space that's currently being spent on weight loss? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ This is a little reminder that you're allowed to opt out of this constant striving for the thin ideal. YOU get to decide where you spend your precious life's resources. And if you don't know how to make the transition out of food and body obsession to a kind of food and body peace where you have time, money, and brain space left over for your true passions in life, I'm here for you. 💗 ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ (I don't know who originally spoke these words but they're so pithy I was called to meme-ify them. If you know the person I should attribute them to please let me know!)
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It was nice to catch up with these fun ladies tonight. I was late to the trivia portion of the night, (which I’m sure is why they lost 😜), but it’s been months since Team PR-Tay has made a (poor) showing. 🎉🙌🎉 #lookatmeihavefriends #😬 #yay
The ladies @beauty_redefined say it best below 👊 #Repost ・・・ Promise us you'll work to remember you're not a before OR an after. You are not any descriptor you have to explain your body. You aren't bigger than I was last year or finally fitting into my skinny jeans! YOU aren't captured in a photo - whether you love it or hate it - because you are more than a body. ✖️Pay attention to how you feel when you scroll through “inspirational” images like before and afters posted by companies or people, or when you look through your own old photos. You will likely find that comparing what you looked like when you were thinner or younger to your current state rarely brings genuine joy. You’re left either wishing you’d have loved yourself when you looked “better” or wondering why you’ve “let yourself go. ✖️And the reverse is also true: Comparing what you looked like when you were heavier or less muscular or curvy to your current state rarely brings joy. Because you’ll likely take inventory of the things you still need to improve, or compare yourself to someone else’s photos and come up short. And what if your “after” looks like someone else’s supposedly depressing and unfortunate “before”?! That happens ALL THE TIME! ✖️Before and after photos also tend to reinforce the assumption that the way a body looks determines if it is healthy or not. The look of your body really does *not* always illustrate balanced eating and fitness in the ways #beforeandafter photos glorify and promise – it’s just not the way our bodies work. Many people run marathons, complete triathlons, have healthy, balanced eating habits, and cardiovascular health — and STILL don’t have a body you would ever see in a fitness magazine or a typical “after” photo. Alternatively, lots of people go to unhealthy extremes like disordered eating, over-exercising, using unsafe diet pills, steroids, and cosmetic surgery to achieve the look of health and then appear as “after” bodies in ads and posts. Don't forget these photos are SO easily manipulated! ✖️Let's stop thinking of ourselves and our progress in terms of how it appears to others. Let's focus on improving how we feel and what our bodies can do! 👊🏼
I love this account. 👌 It’s fascinating how eating disorders can hijack whole lives and life plans... #Repost @meandmyed.art gives a great illustration and description below: ・・・ Have you ever found yourself spending hours on end scrolling through pictures of food? Do you have a collection of recipes that you keep in your room to read through at night? Are you losing sleep because your night time routine consists of watching cake baking videos, or ‘man vs food’? You’re not alone. . There’s a reason why food obsession is so common in EDs. You see, when the brain is starved, it gets angry. We flip into caveman mode and become ruled by one of our most basic instincts; to search out food and eat it. There have been scientific studies that prove that when a person is hungry, they are more likely to think about food. Despite our fears of food with our EDs, we’re still driven to eat. We OBSESS over food. Our lives are ruled by calorie contents, ingredients, macros, when we’ll eat, what we’ll eat, what we’ll allow ourselves to eat, and what we won’t. In an attempt to control our lives, we become controlled by food, because at the end of the day we are only human, and our bodies and brains NEED food. . This goes hand in hand with the stereotype that people with EDs get to live their lives free of food. No more wasted energy cooking, or hours eating a meal. You now have full control over what goes into your body and a load of spare time too... Oh if it were only that simple 😅 . It’s important to note too that food obsession happens across all Eating Disorders and might present with higher intensity in certain individuals. It does decrease as a meal plan is introduced and followed consistently. The brain becomes nourished again and is able to pull itself out of crisis mode; giving you the energy and resources to focus on anything other than food.
Motherhood is complicated. I’m not a mother myself, but I know and love many who are mothers and many without mothers, for various reasons. #Repost @laurenminearlcsw ・・・ #Repost @benourishedpdx ・・・ ❤️