It's Fridaaaaaay!! 🔈sound on... 💕 Just a steel town girl on a Saturday night Looking for the fight of her life In the real time world no one sees her at all They all say she's crazy...
At its core, The Power of Habit book contains an exhilarating argument: The key to exercising regularly, losing weight, raising exceptional children, becoming more productive, building revolutionary companies and social movements, and achieving success is understanding how habits work. One way behavior can become habitual, as noted, is through repetition. If we acquire a bad habit this way it is very hard to change, because its grooves are so well worn in our minds. We have to painstakingly practice a better response that wears a new groove. Duhigg gives the example of the success of the former N.F.L. coach Tony Dungy, who, with lots and lots of practice, taught his players a small number of important moves they could perform without thinking, even at the most crucial point in a game. Bad habits are overcome by learning new routines and practicing them over and over again.
Repost @thehappynewspaper ・・・ According to research, cuddling can help heal both emotional AND physical wounds. Positive social interactions, like when we hug, kiss or cuddle, result in the increase of oxytocin, which makes us feel better. It was already known that oxytocin evokes feelings of contentment, reduction of anxiety, and feelings of calmness and security which is often associated with new mothers as it helps with both the pain threshold during labour and secretion of milk for breastfeeding. It helps reduce social anxiety because when our brains release oxytocin, we’re more likely to have an optimistic outlook on connecting with others and trusting those around us. Cuddling can also lower our blood pressure and heart rate, which in turn reduces the risk of heart disease, so next time you’re giving a friend or a loved one a hug, take a deep breath and embrace the cuddle! 💓 #issue8thehappynews
Today we address the small seemingly insignificant moments between you and your spouse called Bids. 🚻 Couples that had stayed married turned towards one another 86% of the time. ♥️ Couples that had divorced averaged only 33% of the time. 💔 Turning towards each other are called bids. Bids are an attempt for Attention, Affection and/or Acceptance. 😘 In the blog, Russ and I share a huge, almost missed, bid for connection. 😮 Gottman has performed years of studying couples and has identified both poor responses to bids as well as examples of what minor bids look like. 👍 Bidding for Your Attention link in bio. Not a member yet? Follow login prompts to register! 🔗
Repost @jcearbaugh ・・・ It's always safer to be transparent... that just requires your willingness to share what's happened in the past. Vulnerability is the key to finding the connection and love we long to experience. It's also scary... but if you don't allow people to see your weak moments, then you're not being vulnerable. *
Running into this week with a full schedule. How about you? ・・・ Oahu, Hawaii 📷 @moliverallen
Habits don’t change in a day. But 1% a day makes every habit work. Every. The reason is: they work if you do a little each day. If you relax and give yourself permission to only improve a little each day, then a good habit works. It’s permission to improve. It’s also permission to fail. Because when you first start something, you’re on day one. If you want to succeed at anything, you have to give yourself permission to fail twice as much as you thought you would. If you insist, I need to change RIGHT NOW, then it won’t work. You’ll only get worse. If you insist the habit changes tomorrow, then the habit will certainly fail. Coolio, the rapper, wrote lyrics every day for 17 years before having a hit. Commander Hadfield, the astronaut, improved his skills every day for 20 years before getting into space. Kurt Vonnegut wrote every day for 25 years before he had a major bestseller. Even Mozart, despite being a prodigy, wrote music for 10 years every day before becoming a true master. Improve a little each day. It compounds. When 1% compounds every day, it doubles every 72 days, not every 100 days. Compounding tiny excellence is what creates big excellence. You can’t be a master in one day. You have to improve a little every day. Picasso created 2 works of art a day. That’s 50,000 in a lifetime. It adds up. “But it’s too late for me!” - James Altucher No, it’s not. Compounding creates fast results. If I read 5 pages a day from non-fiction books, then in a year I will have read 1830 pages of knowledge. And each page I read will build upon the pages I’ve read before. And it’s 1830 pages 99% of people won’t read. Most people don’t pick up a book after age 20. Also you can also decrease 1% a day. We can say, “aww, it’s only one day. Don’t pressure me!” Such an easy choice. It seems trivial. 1% up or 1% down. But it sneaks up. And then we’re old and lonely. Every day matters.
The first 10 women who sign up on the waitlist will get access to the course for FREE! 🆓 Goal-oriented women are always looking for ways to improve upon how they show up in this world through their career, family, friendships, etc… but sometimes the journey can feel a bit isolating. This Online Mentoring Course called The Inner Circle provides mentorship, encouragement and exclusive community by teaching life principles I have learned along the way with the camaraderie of like minded women, which continues long after the course is over. 👯👯👯 My name is Danielle West and I will be your guide in mentoring you through this online course. It is a call I initially resisted but God has shown me that simply sharing my life experiences can help launch women I love even further, faster. My background includes a corporate career for 20 years, married late in life into a blended family, became a stepmom, started a small business and eventually launched this membership website with my husband called Intentional Marriages. 🚻 It is my goal to help you identify, challenge and grow your strengths in your relationships, your career and your family and ultimately to align yourself with long term mentors. Join us today in The Inner Circle. Ⓜ️ Link to the Online Mentoring Course - The Inner Circle is in the bio. 🔗