I know what God told me.
During my National Youth Service (NYSC) year, I met Gbenga. Gbenga was tall, dark and handsome. He was so foineee. If I had a list of what I wanted my ideal boyfriend to look like, he checked all the boxes. I was helplessly crushing on him.😍 I wanted him to want me. So I decided to shoot my shot. And we got talking. Some days after, I saw Gbenga talking to Sue, my new friend. I couldn't believe they were holding hands. I felt sick to my stomach. (A peep into #HeWasntMyHusband ) Let's talk. No pretence. If you were in my shoes, what would you have done? Ever liked a guy/lady who started liking your friend? How did you handle it?
If you don't give it to Him, then how can He take it?
I'm not much of a public speaker but boy, I feel ALIVE going on a journey with people, into their world to DISCOVER how God helped them out and how they are evolving. Talkshows, interviews, and everything else that has to do with sharing heart-reaching experiences and thoughts with people get me. #aboutlastweekend #amakamedia #recreateyourself
The laziness of getting a piece I can just throw on, or wanting an easy going look lures me into wearing his finest shirts. I used to sneak into my brothers' room to steal their shirts, so this isn't a new thing 🤣😂 Who else does this? P.s I think I rocked it better 😅 #fridayoutfit #casualstyle #husbandshirt
🦋🦋BUTTERFLIES I remember being so fascinated by the life cycle of a butterfly that it totally absorbed my entire being. I talked about it, wrote about it, screamed about it, and even sang about it. It literally captured my imagination. It's been 5 years since I caught it and I am still intrigued. A butterfly wasn't always a butterfly. It starts with a tiny egg that hatches into a not-so-good looking caterpillar. The caterpillar grows and grows and grows until its time to build a hardened shell around its body, called a chrysalis (also known as cocoon). While the caterpillar sleeps inside the chrysalis, its body changes and grows new parts. The cocoon (chrysalis) is where the transformation happens. We also go through the cocoon in some way. The cocoon represents a dark, lonely, secret, painful, and everything not-so-cool experience. The change is an inside-out process. It might take weeks, months or years. Yes, the waiting period might be longer than expected. And then, after that period of waiting, when it eventually comes out, Oh! It turns out to be a beautiful butterfly.🦋 Butterflies are not only bright, beautiful and colourful but are also sensitive to change, growth and transformation.They are ever changing and embracing the new and different life's processes. They slay yet are slain. I have often thought about what happens if the butterfly decided to live like it used to before it was changed. What if it was so comfortable being just a caterpillar? And the more I find answers to these questions in my heart, the more I desire to keep changing into the beautiful woman He has called me to be. The caterpillar's changes to the butterfly represents God's workings in our lives. Everyone has got a need to break out of one cocoon or the other. It is God who brings the breakthrough when He sees how we grow in faith, character and obedience. These times help us grow into the next phase of destiny. You may look like a not-so-good looking caterpillar today, best believe you are a beautiful butterfly going through changes. . . Get ready to fly! 🦋
He liked it. He shot it. He said she could post it. Well. . .
A few years back, I was one of these women, caught up in a relationship that clearly wasn't good for me. The man I loved was bad for me in so many ways, but I just couldn't leave him. Actually, on the occasions I tried to do so, he reappeared a few days or weeks later to lure me back in — and I let him. Over and over and over. Looking back, I've often wondered why this was so, and why I couldn't simply let go. If you are in a similar situation I'm hopeful that by sharing what I have learned with you, you can find both strength and comfort to move on. Swipe left to see my top 5 reasons! Ever been there? #HeWasntMyHusband
EVERYTHING SPEAKS OF HIS GLORY In the beginning, God created the heavens and the earth. In the beginning God commanded, and words crackled and burst into flowers and trees and stars and Eve. In the beginning the words became light and heaven, moons and seas, animals and man. In the beginning God spoke, and the words were obedient and became flesh. And since they are words, they speak. They speak with their fins and their claws and their snouts and their molecular compositions. They speak in obedience, in submission, under the thrall of their Omnipotent Speaker. And they all have the same message in their varying tongues; they all say the same word in their uniquely personal way. They all say “glory.” They all thunder and chirp and buzz and clap and shout the word “glory!” Everything speaks of His glory. Everything. . . .And that is precisely why God reveals the truth to us. Not only to grow us up in the faith, but so that we might share it with others that they also might speak of His glory. #HWMH
I was looking like a million dollars at the official launch of #HeWasntMyHusband Thanks to: @ellaseams for the lovely dress. So heavenly. @amakaankara for the accessories. That's so me! And @iam_rayem for the amazing shots. Your photography is priceless! Who heard when the Chairman of the day said I looked like a book? 😀
I will be taking at least a two-week break from social media after this weekend. This exhaustion is real. I need some Holy Ghost refill.
The first time I held a bound hard copy of my book, a few tears escaped. I've not been able to replicate that feeling. And since after the launch, I've not been able to put all the rushing emotions into words. It might take some time to process it ALL. But for now, I'm just super grateful. He Wasn't My Husband is readily available for you to hold and read. At the moment, it is only available in hard copies for Nigerians only. (Soft copies will be available for everyone in few weeks.) Price: N,5000 each How do you get #HeWasntMyHusband ? First, you pay. Second, you send me a DM. Third, you get your copy/copies. Pay to: Fidelity Bank 6322561327 Nwamaka Onyekachi Thanks @iphees_collections for this dress. I wore it to church today. I think I like it. 😏
When I told my brother @dahveydson I was writing a book, he said Wow. That's great, sis. You have actually read enough books to write a book. I smiled. 🙂 I have always been a fan of books. I love love love books. I've had to save my entire monthly allowance just to buy books. I ate books. I was a total bookworm (still is, anyway). I have got so many of them in my personal library. Even though I gifted out some, I moved into my husband's house with two ghana-must-go bags filled with books. And a few of them are yet to find their place on a shelf for lack of space. Books are one of my most favourite things in the world. I enjoy reading and I am keen on learning from the experience of others. And I have also dreamed of interviewing the authors of some of these books I've read. Especially the ones which helped me find myself in the pages. 📖 But I still can't believe that I have written a book that has my name and face on its cover. And that it will be launched and presented to the world this Saturday!🤭 Lemme hear your thoughts: Do you think that readers make good writers? Are you more of a reader or a writer?
Ladies and gentlemen, I'm beyond excited to announce that the official launch of my (first) book, He Wasn't My Husband is happening this Saturday!💃 You are specially invited! Who is coming? #HeWasntMyHusband
Yesterday, I wept bitterly over a friend I’d never met in person. My heart was so heavy that I had to release it through a blog post. Gloria and I met on the blog in 2014, and we shared similar interests. She was utterly inspirational, beautiful to the end and so very vibrant. I wish I’d got to meet her. To hug her. To take selfies with her. And to look into her eyes as we laugh. But of course it wouldn’t happen now. She is dead. How do you know when your online friend is no more? I didn't know Gloria had been gone for over two months until @glowyshoe and @bolatito_apatira informed me almost at the same time last night. And to think that I had sent Gloria an email inviting her to my book launch makes it even more painful. I told her I want to see your face. 😢 When we get close to people online, we run the same risk as getting close to people in the real world: that WE WILL LOVE THEM AND THEN LOSE THEM. I have a few of these digital-based friendships. And I want them to count. I want this connection to matter — as much as it can. Tag someone you are friends with online but haven't met in real life yet. You just never know!
Happy Sunday! 🖤🖤 #PerfectMachForever
My friends suggested that I promote my book using the hashtag #HeWasntMyHusband instead of #HWMH. They said the later sounds more like a puzzle, and people might not get the message (quickly). I agreed. But then, I don't want to discard the hashtag completely because the letters itself carries some depth of meaning for me. When I 'received' the title for the book, it came as H W M H. The first interpretation was: whichever way you look at it, it remains the same. HWMH HWMH Even if you look at the letters upside down, they remain the same. The thing is, truth does not change. It remains the same. Anyway, yeah, the official hashtag is now #HeWasntMyHusband. When you feel led to post about the book, to share lessons from your past relationships, or to simply show your girl some love and support, please use #HeWasntMyHusband. Thank you so much. P.s Have you pre-ordered yet? 50% discount off till July 31st oh
It's interesting to find this picture of me in 2018; wearing the same Ankara necklace and standing beside the movie poster titled memoir. The thought of writing a memoir hadn't crossed my mind. 🤭 Clearly, the future has ways of surprising us, and nobody can be completely prepared for what the future will bring. But, it is important to recognize that one of the ways you can plan for the future is by drawing from your memories of the past. P.s HWMH is still open for pre-order till July 31st. All pre-ordered and signed copies will be available on/after August 3rd (The Launch Day. Whoop!💃) #MakingSensOfThePast #HWMH