72 stories. 72 lives. 72 people who matter. - In a question and answer session in the legislative council, lawmaker Bottle Shiu Ka-Chun stated that 72 students had committed suicide over the last two years since 2015. He added that, 72 is not a number. [they] are stories, [they] are lives, Shiu challenged leaders on a call to implement changes and to hold an anti-teenage suicide summit. - There may be invisible cries for help in your own classroom, your workplace and even your home. The question is not Why? but How can we answer these cries, how can we let people know how much their stories matter and in turn how much you and I matter? - Start with looking at these 72 lives. Who were they? Start with their stories and look at your own story. Start with knowing that our stories are unique but we are connected because we are all human beings. - 72 lives. 72 stories. 72 people who matter.
Family relationships and the problems as a result of that can be more complicated than we'd ever thought. Anything that happens in a family can shape the way we see and react to the world. With the hurt and shame experienced in families, they could accumulate to become one of the hardest chains to break in our lives. Here are three fundamental problems in families: > Over-parenting: One could easily feel incapable and insufficient. Being constantly under parents' control, we believe that we have to meet their high expectations just so we can be recognized. On top of that, reports have shown that a high level of self-criticism is correlated to increasing levels of depression or anxiety. > Favoritism among siblings: The difference in affection given by parents can be detrimental to a family. When we see inconsistency in the way parents treat us as compared to our siblings, whether it's just comments, gestures, or it could leave us with hurts and even doubts on our sense of worth. > Unresolved conflicts: With miscommunications followed by tension as brought by conflicts, we are hindered from seeking a common ground to share openly and come to reconciliation. Instead, people might end up ignoring the problem or avoiding addressing it. As time goes by, negative emotions accumulate, intensifying the misunderstanding and widening the gap in relationships. _ Sometimes we think about the what-ifs and ask questions like why is my family not like the others? But we believe that there is a reason to everything, and the reason must be good - because there is hope in the midst all difficulties. _ Love is more powerful than hatred and fear. It takes courage and humility to step out and reconcile. Let's focus less on our hurts and pain but work hard for changes - changes for the better, not for worse. We believe that with each small step you take out of love, you are making way for greater transformations in your lives and your family. You might be the only person taking this initiative, but tell yourself it's okay, because we all have to start somewhere. [CONT IN COMMENT BOX]
A 2014 research on mental health among 25-55 year olds coined the term “Generation O” - that the working people in Hong Kong are overworked, overstressed and overwhelmed. This doesn’t come as a surprise though, as Hong Kong has the longest working week in the world, with an average of 50.11 hours spent at the workplace every week. - For those working in Hong Kong, the pressure in the office culture is all too familiar - tensions between superior and staff, the awkward “can I leave if no one else in my office has left yet?” questions, and the inescapable long OT hours that come as an expectation, rather than possibility. - For you and for your fellow coworkers, be mindful of any symptoms that show that the underlying stress is starting to overwhelm: > changes to your normal behaviour — such as eating and sleep habits; > feeling depressed or down and becoming increasingly emotional; > becoming withdrawn, nervous and demotivated; > feeling confused and disappointed with yourself. If you find yourselves with these symptoms, don’t neglect the feelings you have! Your feelings, your thoughts, your fears… they are valid. Express them, write it out, talk it out. - It may feel uncomfortable at first, but for all of us who are working we will know that this is the life stage when support, encouragement and deeper friendships is most lacking, yet most needed. > Be the coworker who listens. Be aware and proactively pursue your colleagues. It may feel awkward at first, but is it worth it knowing that your first uncomfortable step forward could change someone else’s life? - Let’s intercede in prayer: > Pray for “Generation O” - for the working people in Hong Kong to know that they are loved and their worth is first and foremost found in who they are, rather than what they do. > Pray for working cultures to shift in companies so that more care and emphasis is on overall mental wellbeing in the office > Pray for Hong Kong and that there will be greater support for the burdens that working people face - financial instability, housing shortages, societal pressures etc…
Nowadays, there is a belief in our culture that says success in studies means success in future. Students are also experiencing a stage of life where they are being challenged constantly. Different things can interact and add on to one another, creating a big burden on students that undermines their mental well-being, which can lead to suicidal tendencies. Yet, our society generally is still passive about the issue despite the increasing number of student suicide. - Every student faces the problems to different extents. We live in a world where everyone tries to pull everything together and pretend to be good even when they are struggling. That is why mental health problems and suicide tendency can happen to anyone on campus. It can be our classmates, hallmates or even roommates. It is also important to note that suicide is often the fruit of various problems in life. But in everyday life, there are steps that we can take to show address the issue. - What we can do to help as a student: > Listen and Talk: Sometimes people just want to let it out and be understood. It helps us to understand what people are thinking from their perspective and to know what they need. > Go beyond the basics: a lot of the times people won't share their struggles but we can take the initiative to ask about what they have be going through. Instead of just asking how are you, ask how are you feeling? > Offer practical help: e.g. applying for postponement of deadlines > Encourage them to seek professional help if needed. - If you are struggling with the same problems, remember that “you are made for more than just getting good grades and living up to others' expectations. You may feel hopeless and helpless, but you will get through this and achieve greater things in life waiting for you in the future. Talk to a counsellor or people that you trust. There is no need to feel ashamed of sharing your struggles. You are never alone because there are people who are willing to share your burden. - Let's pray for: - students on campuses who are struggling especially with suicidal thoughts - togetherness among local organisations and people in Hong Kong that are involved in the issue
In Hong Kong, more than 70 per cent of suicide cases in recent years involved interpersonal relationship problems with peers or parents. And data indicated that the greater the number of unresolved conflicts in a relationship, the greater the likelihood of feeling hopeless, depressed and of suicidal thoughts. (SCMP) ____ Different relationships we have in life are a significant part of who we are to the core; whether the relational ties are healthy or dysfunctional, they all attribute to the build-up or erosion of our sense of self-worth. ____ Communication, sharing, respect and trust are the key to healthy relationships and friendships. Yet, an abusive relationship doesn't necessary to involve physical violence. According to Refuge, it is, “the repeated, random and habitual use of intimidation to control a partner ... If you are forced to alter your behavior because you are frightened … you are being abused.” The manipulations, the overflowing of expectations and the conditional love, are by all means as destructive as a real weapon. ____ Unhealthy friendships and relationships don’t get better by themselves. A really bad relationship can make someone feel mentally or physically ill. ____ If you feel like you are grounded in an unhealthy relationship by the control, the sense of responsibility and betrayal, we just want to let you know that your current struggle could be solved, and you are not alone. We believe that people need other people, you are worthy of help, and you don’t have to go through this on your own. ____ Life has a much bigger plan for you. Abundance is part of that plan. Joy is part of the plan. Shame and worthlessness are not. ____ If someone you support is in an unhealthy relationship, you can help by: > Listen carefully when the person talks. > Do not judge the person – remember everyone makes mistakes and we can all learn from them. > Offer factual information. Do not give unsupported advice. > Suggest they talk to a friend, pastor, counselor or someone they trust. > Tell the person about abuse.Explain what abuse is and how they can avoid being abused.
Stress & Suicide In a 2015 article written on the Hong Kong Free Press, it was reported that 4 out of 10 Hong Kongers ‘have suicidal thoughts due to stress’. The reality of how stress affects our city’s people, from students to working adults, is real and cannot be ignored. --- There have been countless studies that have proven how stress in the city has led to people developing depression and leading to suicide too. The Social Welfare Department’s child mortality reviews from 2006 to 2011 showed schoolwork pressures were linked to between 29 per cent and 42 per cent of youth suicides. --- Unfortunately the reasons for the stress that underlie the society can look different for different people. These issues cannot be just fixed overnight because pressures often come from the outside. But one thing we can do is to be aware of our own mental health and others around us, and learn to de-stress as well. --- If you ever find yourself at a place of a lot of stress, here are some things you can do, or help remind your friends to do too! > Go into nature - go somewhere different and be in nature. > Pray or Meditate - Take intentional time out to pause and allow your mind to be away from all that you need to think of >Do something that makes you laugh - studies have shown that laughter is often a good medicine! --- Let's pray for: > people who are overwhelmed with stress > your own friends (yes, send a prayer to them!) who may be stressed > our city & culture that induces and enables stress > Attitude towards mental health and stress to not be a taboo in our society - #wspd #hkig #youmatterhk #stress #mentalhealth #love #life #worth
. Depression is not just character or emotional issues. It is a medical condition which affects one’s emotions, physical health and also daily functioning. It is not a choice and it’s more than just feeling sad. - People do not talk about depression openly because they do not think it needs to be addressed, or because they are not familiar with the issue and do not know what they can do about it. On top of that, people who suffer from depression may try to hide the symptoms as they are afraid of the way people look at them. This is why we need a community and environment where people can feel comfortable to talk about their feelings and be understood. - Sometimes we ask “why me?” because we cannot see the purpose of going through trials and sufferings. However, they are here because there is a greater purpose of our lives even if we cannot comprehend at the time being. We are made for more. Challenges appear in our lives not to defeat us and let us down, but to bring us back up and go higher and further. It is like a training process where we have to work out and experience the muscle fatigue and pain before they actually grow. - Even in our everyday lives, there are lots of simple ways to reach out to people and show our care for them: > Listen and acknowledge their feelings. Sometimes we do not need a definite solution but to have someone to talk to, to let everything out and be understood. > Avoid using words like “cheer up”, “forget about it”. They may think that you are not taking their feelings seriously. > Encourage them to get help if needed. - Talk to a counsellor or someone that you trust if you need help. It is not something to be embarrassed about, because you are not alone! You will get through it because you are stronger than you think, and there are people who love you and support along the way! - Let's pray for: > people who are going through difficulties especially depression and other mental health issues > awareness of people about mental health > message of hope to spread in the city - Find out more about Depression at: - http://www.mentalhealthamerica.net/conditions/infographic-life-depression - http://csrp.hku.hk/interactive-game
We want to take these next 7 days to raise awareness about this issue so that more people would realize how relevant and important it is we take a stance! - For the next 7 days, simply take a screenshot of our post of the day, and repost it to your Instagram story. Tag us at @youmatterhk and #youmatterhk so that the message can spread to your friends and communities. - We will be sharing more information behind the leading causes of suicide, along with ways we can make a difference. - #youmatterhk #hkig #wspd
Did you know that the 2nd leading cause for death among 18-29 year olds globally is suicide? It happens much more often than we think, and especially in our society today, where it's not normal for people to share how they really feel, it is all the more important for us to be aware and make a difference. - Today is World Suicide Prevention Day. Let's really pray that our culture would change! - #youmatterhk #wspd #hkig
Sometimes it's easy to get bogged down by other people's expectations of who you are. Or sometimes we assume others want us to be a certain way. But trying to be who the world wants us to be only brings more pain and difficulties... - So be who you are. In your brokenness, quirks and strengths - you were created uniquely and the best thing you can give to others is your unique self! - #motivationmonday #live #inspiration #youmatterhk #hkig #quotes #quote #beyourself #love #joy #onelife #yolo #inspirational #motivation #instagood #instagold #instadaily #art #vintage
It's Sunday so I'm working one of my part-time jobs as a Chinese ambassador in a Japanese drugstore. It's been two years since I came to Japan from southern Taiwan for my master degree in education. I made this decision as I wanted to do something bold while I'm still young, I don't want to have any regrets. I studied Japanese way before coming to Japan, so communication isn't a problem, but in contrast to the loud and straightforward Taiwanese, people here are very modest, sometimes I won't even know if they are being genuine or not. Still, at least they tried not to hurt other's feelings. My current life is filled with work and school, though the lowest wage rate here in Japan is higher than in Taiwan , but the dwindling economy makes it no difference. Life is challenging now, but it's gonna be a worthwhile stage in my life. I have no idea if I'll really become a teacher, but if not, I might become a tour guide, bringing Taiwanese to Japan or vice versa. - Mr Huang, student from Taiwan, currently in Japan. · · · #youmatterhk #lifestories #japan #expat #taiwanese #taiwan #drugstore #tourguide #photography #portrait #portraitphotography #dreams #yolo #noregrets #sunday #masterdegree #japanesefashion #taiwanesefashion
No matter how you're feeling, don't give up. Circumstances will change and we can't control that, but we can control the way we respond. - Don't give up. You're not alone, you're loved, and if you're breathing you still have some fight in you. - #hkig #youmatterhk #loved #hope #instadaily #instagood #quotes #quotestoliveby #inspiration #motivation #live #love #art #fight #goals