Our world at Casa de Sullivan is getting wilder every moment. Projects bigger than we dared to say out loud landing in our laps. Dreams I was almost too shy to dream, knocking on our door like “hi I’m real now.” In this swirl of change I realized that I used to admire intelligence above all; or wit and skill and quickness. But now I’m old enough to know better, because gahdamn, GENTLENESS is the trait I respect most in the world. I’ve been drawn to it my whole life, and so few people have it. It’s the thing that made me first fall in love with Tim- the fact that he was just pure grace (and still is to me, every day). It’s such a beautiful thing, to come across people who are willing to be gentle without pretense. We want to be cool and pulled together and enviable, but we don’t often pursue a quiet spirit that radiates good love. And at the end of our lives, the projects and accomplishments won’t matter... just the ways we all held each other a little more softly.
An hour later Jordyn texted us video evidence of Cam dancing around their hotel room with her hair extensions on his head and a drink in his hand. Yolo 😂
“whatever we do together is pure invention// the maps they gave us were out of date by years.” -Adrienne Rich My favorite part of every wedding is the gentle in-between of singledom and marriage: the vows. I have the luxury of putting my camera down for a moment to catch Tim’s eye, and winking or trying to be charming when really I’m about to burst into tears as I listen intently to the couple’s choices of words and mentally re-promise our own vows to him (and then I get my shit together and get back to shooting, because #professional). I just love his stupid little face, so much. Despite only being engaged for four months, we spent the lion’s share of our wedding planning on writing our vows and mapping out our ceremony. It’s the crux of everything, the reason you gather your inner circle together, the first real joint project you embark on. I really didn’t give two shits about the color of our flowers or what our cake looked like (in fact, we barely pulled those two things together the night before the wedding, too busy drinking tequila with our besties in Mexico to worry), I just cared about the things I was ready to promise Tim that week. To me, the most amazing thing about any marriage is that you get to INVENT IT TOGETHER. It doesn’t have to look the same for any two couples. That’s where the vows come in. The greatest compliment I think I’ve ever gotten was from our friends Will and Anita (who came over the other week and let us feed them wine and force them in front of the camera). We met them years into their relationship, and Anita was firm about not getting married. But something shifted. And they told us it was from looking at our marriage (and others, I’m sure) that they realized it was just two people creating a new world together. Scrapping the out of date maps, inventing a new cartography that’s all yours. Marriage isn’t a straightjacket, it’s liberation. And like all great inventions, it won’t look like anything you’ve ever seen before. (ps. Tim eventually officiated Will and Anita’s wedding. It was beautiful.)
We’ve had four Oregon weddings in a row and I’m pretty sure we could drive there blindfolded by now, also did you know that east coasters don’t know the difference between Oregon and Washington? Like wtf DUDES. Delirious on the I5 corridor if anyone needs us!
It’s really freaking encouraging that you can still bum around Capitol Hill and break into weird places and shoot in the dirt and cement because it means not everything in Seattle is a plastic condo, thank you lort. AND it makes your hot friends stand out even more- our girl Claire got engaged to my middle school friend Matt and holy shit doesn’t life always come full circle? These two are on the blog and we love em.
We heard this morning that our (previously) favorite wedding mag out of Australia, White Magazine, doesn’t allow same sex couples to be featured on their site. Disappointed doesn’t BEGIN to describe it! This is a magazine I really respected- it focuses on couples and emotion and beautiful images rather than stuffy pastel shit. We had two features with them this year and felt like we had “made it” in a way once they started sharing our stuff, but we won’t be sharing more with them or anyone who doesn’t support all couples with big wild flung-open arms. Because fuuuuck that. And on that note, happy anniversary to these two queens who show us every day what a good marriage looks like, we love you so much.