. . STOP TRYING TO FIT IN SOMEONE ELSE'S SHOES! YOURS IS PERFECT FOR YOU ALREADY! . . Instead of trying to walk in someone else’s shoes we must adopt a new way of giving of ourselves. Someone else can’t face your fears or chase your dreams for you, but they can be supportive. . . It is vitally important that we help each other because society is increasingly placing people in silos based on biases and ideologies. We must look past the surface, and confront with the truth that none of us are what you can see. There is more to us than that, and we are all dealing with things that you can’t see on the surface. Living a life free of judgement, allows all of us to share those experiences with one another and have a totally different perspective on life . . . The only shoes you can truly walk in are your own. I cannot walk in yours. You cannot walk in mine. We can do something better then that. With compassion, courage and understanding, we can walk side by side and support one another. . . Think about how society can change if we all did that instead of judging on only what you can see.
Today I challenged myself to start varying my pull ups, no matter how much my brain was screaming: “please nooooooo” . Like most women, close grip pull-ups and chin ups are easier. . . But today, I thought, it’s time to be better and get comfortable being uncomfortable. . . Incredible back engagement: Wide Grip Pull Up - assisted and slowing down tempo (4:1:1:1) . . Feeling pretty proud for allowing myself to take a step “back” and use a band to ultimately move forward and perform them unassisted.
. . SAYING GOODBYE FOR THE NEED TO HAVE A HIGH SELF-ESTEEM??? WHHHHHHAAAAT!!!!!!!! . . Our competitive culture (no matter what industry we are in) tells us we need to be special and above average to feel good about ourselves. But let's face it, we can’t all be above average at the same time. There will always be someone richer, more attractive, fitter, or successful than we are. . . If you can remember back to a moment when you had a high level of self-esteem, you will realize that its not forever. We can’t hold on to it. Our sense of self-worth bounces around like a ping-pong ball, rising and falling in conjunction with our latest success or failure. . . My Self-Esteem took the biggest beating the past 5 years, with my entire self-worth dependent on how I placed in a competition. The high's and lows were almost unbearable. Reading this right now, can you relate in some way? . . Fortunately, there is an alternative to self-esteem that is shown to be better and more effective path to happiness: self-compassion. Researchers have come to the consensus that people who are more self-compassionate lead healthier, more productive lives than those who are self-critical. The feelings of security and self-worth grounded on self-compassion are highly stable. And lastly, self-compassion steps in when we fall down, allowing us to get up and try again. . . Self-Compassion, a new concept for me, and one I am whole heartedly jumping into! I am ready to say goodbye to my need to have a high self esteem! Who's with me? . . Comment Below if you would like me to touch on this as my theme of the week!
. . Smith Machine Sissy Squat and a side pony!! . Couldn’t find the sissy squat machine at the gym today; so Improvised... and it worked like a charm!!!!!! . . For all my leg friends who have wanted to do my sissy squat exercises... now you can!!!! . . Who’s up for trying this next workout??
. . WHAT WAS THE MOMENT I REALIZED I COULD BECOME MY OWN BEST FRIEND? . . I stopped and I realized what I was doing, what I was saying to myself. I thought, if anybody spoke to me like this, I would have kicked them to the curb years ago. Why was it okay for me to do it to myself? Who the hell did I think I was? That day, something clicked inside me. . . I decided that I was not going to speak to myself anymore like that! Instead, I was going to be my own best friend! I was going to have this really good person following me around all day saying, “Itʼs okay. You screwed up. Itʼs all right. You made a mistake. Donʼt worry. Itʼs going to be fine. You'll fix it. Yes, no. You look great in that dress, big legs is you.” . . This is the person I have following me around 24/7. Itʼs so much better. My whole life experience will be vastly different as a result of having my best friend following me around all day; and not the horribly abusive human being I once had.
Full Shoulder Workout! Swipe 🔛 to check out the videos!! And save so you have quick access to the workout! . . ✅Seated Rope Front Raise 4x12 ✅Bradford Press 4x10 ✅Seated Overload DB laterals 4x30 ✅Lying Rear DB fly 4x10 ✅standing one arm rear lateral raises 4x10 . . Loved some of the new exercises added into this workout!!
. . Name One Positive Characteristic about yourself spread the Self-Created Positivity and tag a Friend! . .
Happy engagement anniversary Mr. Bunny!! . . Last year you gave me the biggest shock of my life, getting down on one knee and asking me to marry you. . . A year later you still know how to make my heart melt! A surprise trip to Niagara Falls to celebrate our crazy love and play our luck at the casino! 💗
. . 😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲😲 . . How am I going to achieve my goals in 2018? . ⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️⬇️ . For most of my life I have thrived off of negative reinforcement. However, after the trip to Costa Rica, and having an entire week to really listen to myself, I realized that I was creating my own negative reinforcement. I failed to see the positive reinforcement I was receiving from friends, family and coaches. All I was tuning into was my own negative self-talk. So I began to ask myself... . . If I was able to succeed with consistent negative reinforcement; always wanting to achieve my goals to prove others wrong... what if my true success was actually being hindered this whole time? . . Was the negative reinforcement actually holding me back from achieving my true potential? What if I came from a place of positivity and rewarded myself instead of punishing? . . Would I become more successful? Or would I start enjoy the journey along the way? This is something that I have to try. . .
. . Stop Sabotaging Your Success By Numbing & Distracting Yourself: . . Often people will use food, drugs, alcohol, work, TV, keeping busy along with other reckless behavior to numb and distract themselves from facing something they're trying not to see. The voice that’s telling them something is in need of change gets louder and louder. If it used to take two cookies to numb the voice, now it takes four, if it used to take 30 minutes of running to numb the voice, now it takes an hour. . . While it’s true that facing what you’re trying to avoid may lead to temporary discomfort, it’s a sign telling you that it’s time for growth and change. When you address it, work through it and take the next steps based on what you find, it may be scary, but it typically leads to a place of strength and empowerment which is where the success you crave can be found. . . Stand up and read the quote in the picture out loud!!!!!! FEEL what goes on in your body when you do!! Then tag a friend and pass along the powerful self created energy this morning!
New Hamstring / Glute exercise to warm up your week! . . Using the lying leg curl machine, flip yourself around and place a dumbbell in between the back of your knee cap. Try to keep your resting hip on the bench (unlike mine 😂😂) and drive heel to the ceiling. . . Always love feedback, so give it a try and give it a review 😊
Can you believe I once saw this moment as a failure?? . . . Happiness is mostly dependent on our state of mind, not on our status or the state of our bank account. Aside from extreme circumstances, our level of well being is determined by what we choose to focus on and by our interpretation of external events. . . For example, Do you view failures as catastrophic, or do you see them as learning opportunities? . . For me, the change in mindset occurred this past week, when I took a hard look at my perceived failings. For 3 years, I saw myself as a failure, for not earning the IFBB Pro Card. . . As I partook in a burn ceremony in Costa Rica and watched my last petition engulf in flames, I realized that my failure to earn the card was actually an incredible learning opportunity and not as catastrophic as I once perceived. . . Throughout the years as a competitor, I blossomed and learnt to stand up for myself. Yet with each loss/decline I began to feel like I had no control over my life; and that was frightening. Feeling like I lost control began to spiral in other areas of my life, taking a toll on my confidence and self worth. The day I let the dream go, was the day that I learned to take back control. (that was only 4 days ago!) .
. Mamma Bunny is home ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ . . Give Yourself Permission to be Human and Start to Feel! . . When we accept emotions (this could be anger, fear or anxiety) as natural part of life we are more likely to overcome them. . . Rejecting our emotions, positive or negative, can lead to frustration and unhappiness. In today' society we are obsessed with pleasure and believe that in order to have a worthy life one must be not possess any signs of discomfort. If we do experience pain, we assume that something must be wrong with us. . . Let's flip it around: there is something wrong with us if we DON'T experience fear or anxiety at times--which are human emotions. . . When we accept our feelings—when we give ourselves the permission to be human and experience painful emotions—we are more likely to open ourselves up to positive emotions. I feel an overwhelming amount of positive emotions after the @artfulthinking_ retreat in 🇨🇷
Time To Let Go: . . The sacred “burn” to end the week was exactly what I needed to move forward in my life. . . This will be my last post pertaining to my IFBB PRO Card. Yesterday, I wrote my last petition, and watched it light up in flames.... symbolizing that I have the power. I have the power to decide my future. . . Today, for the first time in 3 years, I can say that I truly have let go of that dream... and it finally feels empowering rather than deflating.
Maybe the one thing you have to change is your perception. . . This weeks retreat with @artfulthinking_ has been the kindest thing I have EVER done for myself. . . I dove into “my story” by looking at it from a viewpoint of a “best friend.” By doing so, there was no negativity, should haves or guilt associated with my thoughts. . . Through learning how to TRULY accept and let go, I have found a space for my best friend. And that best friend, is ME!
Glute & Core Workout . . Incorporating @mbslingshot band to workouts while away in Costa Rica 🇨🇷 has been a great change up from heavy lifting. Feeling like I have a greater range of motion with the addition of daily yoga. Can’t wait to see how this will help my training when I get back!! . .
Shoulder Burn Out To Finish Off My Workout: . . Pyramid Drill 1,2,3,4,5,4,3,2,1 (1 shoulder press, 1 push up) (2 shoulder presses, 2 push ups) (3 shoulder presses, 3 push ups) (4 shoulder presses, 4 push ups) (5 shoulder presses, 5 push ups) (4 shoulder presses, 4 push ups) (3 shoulder presses, 3 push ups) (2 shoulder presses, 2 push ups) (1shoulder press, 1 push up) . . ⚠️ harder then it looks after demolishing a shoulder workout 😈😈😈😈😈😈😈😈😈
Today I gave myself permission to take a step back and listen to my hearts message: . . You may feel you have a been branded with a black cauterized scar across your heart, from the many years of pain; inflicted by yourself and others. BUT this does not inhibit your ability to receive and accept love from this point onwards . .