This was my 'office' while chatting with Dr Kumari Valentine on her radio show, The Conscious Adventurer. You can even hear the birds in the background while we talk. . Thanks Kumari for having me on and letting me waffle about being mindful and more aware in our lives without having to burn incense or grow your hair long. . Not that there is anything wrong with either of those things - in fact last week on two separate days two people I worked with told me I would have been called a 'hippy' in their day due to my ever-growing hair! . But I think the term 'mindfulness' has become quite a social media catch phrase and consequently a bit cliched and it's meaning lost. . It is a bit like one of the classic Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) interventions called 'Milk Milk Milk'. In this exercise, the therapist asks the client to think of the all the qualities associated with the word “milk.” The therapist then asks the client to repeat the word “milk” over and over again for about 45 seconds. Most people find that the word eventually loses all associations and becomes series of meaningless sounds or vocalizations. . Here I am waffling again! If you'd like to hear me talk with the wonderfully warm and welcoming Kumari, check out the link in my bio 👆🏼 . . . #theconsciousadventurer #mindful #mindfulness #psychology #bepresent #chat #wellness #wellbeing #mentalhealth #livinglife #thebarefootpsychologist
Sometimes the small and simple things we do in our day can have a huge impact on how we feel. . Try breathing to the rhythm of the images movement, as it shifts from a simple line and gradually unfolds into an octagon, then back again. . Follow it for 5 breath cycles and you will have added your own mindful moment into your day. Easy as that. . This little parcel of relaxation has been around the internet since at least 2014 - google 'breathing gif' and you'll find it easily if you'd like to check it out. . Calming your breathing down in a slow, smooth and rhythmic fashion is a wonderful tool for reducing stress and just feeling pretty darn good in general. . . . #breathing #relaxation #calm #stress #anxiety #stressmanagement #breathingexercise #wellbeing #wellness #psychology #mood #mindful #mindfulness #mentalhealth #mindfood #lifehacks #instagood
Happy New Year! Thanks for all of the amazing support in 2016. It's been a learning curve, with a baby turning into a toddler and my jump into creating an online course. . I am looking toward 2017 with a mind full of ideas and a pursuit of simplicity. . Welcome in the New Year with a lasting change of habit, not a resolution that is statistically likely to disappear by the end of February. Check out my latest post and discover 3 key steps (link in my bio 👆🏼). . #newyear #newyearsresolutions #resolutions #habits #goals #instagood #dailymotivation #motivation
Hurrah hurrah it's here! After weeks of late nights and bleary eyes looking at a computer screen, my 6 Week Online Meditation Course is finally live! I have tried to make it adaptable to everyday life, down-to-earth and free of jargon. . And if you don't have time to read the PDF lesson's, don't worry! I've recorded them all so you can listen to them on the go. . To celebrate its release to the public, for the rest of this week it is $29 if you use the coupon calmmind (it is normally $79). . Check out the link in my bio 👆🏼 . I want it to be helpful - so if you try it out and have any feedback for ways I can improve it, please shoot me an email at email@example.com . Take care and happy weekend-ing!. . Scott. . #meditation #onlinecourse #learning #mindfulness #mindful #meditate #calmmind #online #wellbeing #happymind
I'd like to say a massive thanks to Liz @land.of.lula for her amazing design skills and patience ☺️ To say I am happy with her work is a massive understatement. The logos look great and absolutely met the brief! . . . #logo #thebarefootpsychologist #shoutout #creative #design #wonderfulpeople #happy
Not long now until this #onlinecourse is live! It's been a great collaborative project. I'm super excited to get it out into the world. . Click on the link in the profile if you'd like me to let you know when it's live 😀. . . . #meditation #ecourse #psychology #brisbanepsychologist #psychologist #meditate #wellbeing #wellness #healthymind #relax #calm
| REACH OUT ANYTIME | • One in five Australians are experiencing depression. When do you know if you are the one? • People often say to me, there are so many people out there worse off than me - how do I know if I am bad enough? • Check out the link in my bio to read my response and learn a bit about depression 👍🏼 • #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #depression #wellbeing #wellness #brisbanepsychologist #psychology #reachout #ruok
| YOUR STORIES | • I stumbled across a wonderful little article in the latest @slowlivingmag in which a popular children's author named John Marsden was interviewed. • With a love of story and a disenchantment with the education system, John is asked how he would describe his educational philosophy and his response resonated with me. • I noticed my conversations with kids were getting more boring, and I figured it was them. I knew it couldn't be me (laughs). So I started analysing our conversations and almost everything they talked about was what they'd seen on TV the night before, and I thought, these people are having second hand experiences. • They're watching Bear Grylls do stuff while they're sitting at home on the lounge, and we need to replace that and go back to first-hand experiences. • So it all began with that, and I thought, I want to have a school where kids have first-hand experiences - where they climb mountains and they canoe down rivers and they go to galleries, and they go to Arnhem Land, so they have stories of their own. • Because stories define us, our stories shape us, and the more stories you have the mor interesting you are. • Who else is guilty of this? Living second hand experiences rather than getting out there and feeling the grass beneath your own feet? (I am waving my hand in the air saying Yes! That's me sometimes!). • Challenge yourself to head outside for your own new adventure and first-hand experience. • #firsthandexperience #adventure #livelife #happiness #motivation #wellness #wellbeing #depression #explore #instaquote #quoteoftheday #thoughtoftheday
| THRIVE | • What's with the lama? I hear you thinking. Well I'm glad you asked! • You may or may not know that Psychology Week is fast approaching. From the 6-12th of November to be exact. It is an annual initiative to increase public awareness of how psychology can help people and communities lead healthier, happier and more meaningful lives. • This year, the APS (Australian Psychological Society) is introducing the 'Compass for Life'. A campaign that will help Australians measure and improve their happiness and wellbeing by promoting 'Ways To Thrive'. • It's pretty cool actually - during Psychology Week a campaign page (www.compassforlife.org.au) will go live. It'll allow Australians to measure their own wellbeing, happiness and life satisfaction by taking the survey at that website. • Which brings me to our happy Lama. The survey tool is based on the understanding that there are five pillars underpinning psychological wellbeing and happiness - positive emotions, engagement, relationships, meaning and accomplishment. Otherwise known as PERMA. • Which makes me think of hairstyles (perms), funny animals and as it turns out - a cool smiling lama with dreadlocks. • #waystothrive #psychweek #lamas #perma #wellbeing #wellness #psychology #motivation #livelife #happiness
| FOCUS | • I am a sucker for a good fable or saying to share an idea, a moral or a way of thinking. • Today as I was madly trying to juggle the household morning routine and seemingly getting nowhere, this Russian proverb came to mind: • If you chase two rabbits, you will not catch either one”. • If you are anything like me this is a common part of living in busy lives, stretching ourselves across many things at once. We think we are being productive (which at times is true) or that it is the only way to get everything done, but often it just feels like you are spinning your wheels. • Next time you catch yourself flitting from one task to the next and feeling the tension build, pause for a moment. Close you eyes and imagine yourself running after two rabbits, trying to catch them both at once. • Not only will it bring a smile to your face but it will remind you of how ineffective it can be to try and do two things at once. • This is where mindfulness comes in, as these skills can help you to focus your attention on one task at a time (so this mindfulness racket isn't just for those yogi's sitting in lotus position with incense burning? Ah-ha!). I also think a strong coffee can help the morning routine 👌🏼😉 • #mindful #mindfulness #focus #brisbanepsychologist #thebarefootpsychologist #mindset #wellbeing #wellness #instagood #motivational #mondaymotivation #psychology
While trying to out do one another with one liner jokes using flower references (that's another story), my mum text me this quote this morning. What a great thought to align your mindset to on a Friday morning. Challenge yourself to find moments where you can soak up the world around you today ☺️🌳☀️
| OUR STORIES | Elton. Riding a bicycle has always made me feel totally in control and free, whether as a 10, 20 or 40 year old. Cycling first caught my eye at an early age watching the Commonwealth and Olympic games on TV, which at that time was the only place you could see televised bicycle racing. It was 86 when I was at the beginning of a phase, as my mum called it, converting my brothers 24 steel 10 speed racer into as much of a race bike as I could. I cut off the safety levers, fitted new brake hoods, fitted a small ratio cluster along with toe clips and straps and drilled the frame so I could mount my gear levers on the down tube. Encouraged and enamoured by some older kids at school, I started racing and after a few months of racing my ma and pa bought me my first proper racing bike and cycling shoes. Prior to having “proper” cycling shoes I pulled apart my roller skates which were mounted with an Adidas football boot. I took those boots and fitted my own cleat to them, which I made out of a wooden mouse trap that I cut a slot in for the pedal and glued them onto the sole of my shoe! It was a humble start into the culture of cycling, one that I still embrace today. My commute to and from work on my bike is a vital part of my day, just like eating breakfast. How cool. Scott: Right now, what in your life now makes your heart sing and gives you waves of happiness? Elton: Happiness for me is so simple, the sound of my children's laughter resets everything for me. Nothing is better than arriving home and hearing the laughter of my wife and children before even entering the house. Scott: What kind of person do you want to be remembered as? Elton: I want to be remembered as a kind person who was a great father to his children. Scott: Right now, what is something you'd like to do before you die? Elton: I have an image in my head of sitting around a table in Europe, probably the Champs-Élysèe with my children as adults. Our family sharing their challenges and successes around the table with a glass of Vino and a nice meal. It is only one night but I really hope we can make that happen.
I'm currently reading I am Pilgrim by Terry Hayes and wanted to share a passage that is one of those simple yet wonderful tales with a moral idea woven into it. It goes a little something like this. Do you know how villagers catch monkeys? They chain a ewer - a vase with a narrow neck and a bulbous bottom - to the base of a tree. They fill the bottom with nuts and whatever else the monkey likes to eat. In the night, a monkey climbs out of the trees and slips his hand down the long neck. He grabs the sweets and his hand makes a fist. With his fist clenched it's too big to get back up the narrow neck, and he's trapped. In the morning the villagers come round and hit him on the head. I like the grounded theme: if you want to be free, all you have to do is let go. For those playing at home - this photo was taken on a trip through Croatia (this is in Zagreb).
| FOOD FOR THOUGHT | Sleepless nights and learning to let get of my selfishness aside, being a parent is a pretty cool experience. One of the things I am enjoying is having the opportunity to look at the world again through young eyes. Everything is new, a first time, and there are no worries about doing something embarrassing or being judged. A toddler who falls over 50 times while trying to walk doesn't think maybe this isn't for me, people are laughing at me. They get up and try again. And again. And again. If my son never tried anything new he would stay a blob forever. He would never draw a picture, learn to talk, tie his shoelaces or kick a ball. How boring would that life be? Plus it would make my life super tiring having to do all of those things for him the rest of his life. Somewhere along the line we become afraid of making mistakes, of having people laugh at us because we are fallible. Why? What does it matter? One of the big problems of this is the impact it has on our creativity. To be creative and do something new almost guarantees getting it wrong and making a mistake. That's part of the process. But if we hold onto this anxiety of making a mistake, then we are less likely to bother trying to be creative. So I am going to take my sons lead and embrace my inner child, the free-spirited kid who doesn't give a fig what people think. I'll continue to try new things and have a blast doing it.
| THINGS TO PONDER | Imagine you are in a huge tug-of-war with a monster (not a cute playful dog). You have one end of the rope and the monster has a strong grip on the other end. In between the two of is a huge bottomless pit that dark and scary. You are pulling backwards with all of your might, focusing all of your energy on fighting the monster. But the monster is consuming and keeps pulling you closer and closer to the pit. What can you do? Natural instincts might kick in and you try to pull harder, but the monster has had twenty-three cans of Red Bull and can pull harder than you. Try dropping the rope. When you let go of the rope you let go of the struggle. The monster is still there. Still smelly and antagonistic. But the struggle is gone. You free up your arms and legs to do something more useful. When faced with difficult feelings like anxiety and depression we instinctively want to fight them, to get rid of them. But the more we do this the worse things can get. When we learn how to let go of these control strategies we empower ourselves to engage in more workable (and rewarding) actions.
| OUR STORIES | Cecil, 94, farmer, horseman, State Ploughman Champion five times running - he stopped competing when he overheard someone say there's no point competing if old Cecil does, from then on he switched to teaching others to work Clydesdales. A true family man with 9 kids, 22 grandkids, 27 great grandkids and 2 great great grandkids. Cecil cleared the land for his farm in 1951, using his big Clydesdale mare and a drag saw. At one point he was milking 308 cattle, twice a day. He recalls the day he first got into rough riding (breaking in young horses that had never been saddled or ridden): This giant of a man called Neil Campbell said 'it's Cec's turn on this fella'. And I said 'no way'. And he said 'well you either get on him or my boot'. And I looked at his boot which was about 18 inches long and about that wide and I said 'well, I'll have the horse!'. Stories for days. After that day it was a challenge he relished, getting a green horse to a stage it worked well. You'd put the horse in the biggest paddock you could find, just climb aboard and let him rip, and hope to god you'd stay on before you hit a fence. Wow. Scott: Any struggles right now? Cecil: Life is frustrating these days. My mind is firing but my body keeps me from doing the things I love. Last week I had a hip operation. The nurses don't seem to mind this cheeky old bugger... it's easy to get a bite. Scott: What makes you happy? Cecil: Having my family around me... seeing my kids and grandkids happy. I don't want material things or travel, I love to be home. Scott: What is something you'd like to do before you die? Cecil: Right now I want to get out of bed and walk properly. Somebody's got to feed the chooks. Scott: How do you want to be remembered? Cecil: As a giving person. Someone who makes time for others and helps them. Look out for those around you, that's what life is about. It's what I've always done and what I'll always do. Scott: What advice would you give others? Cecil: Never judge a book by it's cover... always give people a chance, discover who they are inside and out. Be a good listener and never judge without good reason.