Listening is the heart's way of being available to the world. When the world is spinning out of control, and we can't seem to find our feet, listening is the moment of calm where clarity is possible because surrender is inevitable. In tragedy, listen. In panic, listen. In confusion, listen. When everything around you is telling you to shut down, open the ears of your heart, and listen.
Relationships would be much easier if there was only one person involved. It seems like the closer we get to people, the more complicated things become, and the harder it is to listen. Expectations, emotions, and feelings get involved and make it difficult to stay present and listen to each other. When we stop listening, we start hurting. When we start hurting, relationships stop thriving. Today, offer your Free Listening sign to the people closest to you. Your husbands, your wives, partners, and family. Ask them questions, listen to their answers, and give them your attention. Listening is the quickest path to loving, and love mitigates all risk, even in relationships.
We are bound to each other. We live together. We are neighbors. Lets act like it. Being heard is so close to being loved, most people can't tell the difference.
It's busy out there. The world is rushing past each other, speaking over each other, and bumping into one another. We've created a traffic of individuals instead of a community of people. Our hurry has slowed us down. But if we listen, we can clear the traffic, bridge the gaps, and be together again. If we open our hearts, we will open our lives.
The world is loud. The world is in a hurry. The world is disconnected. The world is trapped in disagreement. But it doesn't have to stay this way. We can stand together. We can declare a new truth. We can heal the division, bridge the gaps, and bring the world together. We can do this. All of us can do this. The world needs to be heard. We got this. We can make it happen. Join us.
Some people don't want to inconvenience you by sharing their story. They don't want to interrupt your day, or burden you with their problems. So, they keep it all inside. Never revealing, never telling, and never feeling heard. But, you are never an inconvenience to us. You matter, your stories matter, and we want to hear them.
The temptation to avoid genuine conversations is powerful. When we open ourselves to honest interactions with another person, we become vulnerable and available to be effected. This can be scary. This vulnerability makes us available to be offended, challenged, or upset. So we avoid it, we defend against it, and we hide. But, the same vulnerability that allows us to be hurt, allows us to be inspired. When we open to another person, we open to the possibility of becoming more than we ever imagined we could become. Avoidance will keep us in the same place. Only open, genuine dialogue with others will move us forward.
... you're there for them. That's the main thing. A few words of wisdom from @eleanorobrien7. Often we call Free Listening, Free with-ing. It's about presence. It's about being there. It's about togetherness.
We can do more together than we can alone. This weekend, volunteers joined @beckythecoach and Free Listened in Chicago. Thank you for your leadership, for your compassion, and for listening. The world slows down when we listen; the world is smaller when we listen; the world is united when we listen.
Being heard is the first step towards being healed. Never underestimate the healing power of your attention, your presence, and your care. Be with people, sit in the silence, and listen. All it will do is change their life.
It's loud out there. Everyone has something to say and somewhere to say it. With all this talk, we're bound to disagree sometimes. When we do, work hard to hear the person behind the opinion. Get their story, hear their heart, and ask, How did you arrive at this opinion? When we get the biography not just the ideology, we can learn to hear the person not just the opinion.
Today, @jfieldingp made himself available to anyone who needed to speak at the #silverlakefarmersmarket in Los Angeles. It was his first time. One couple opened up about a decision they needed to make today. He just listened, held space, and was there for them. When they were finished speaking, they said of his listening, That was powerful. Sometimes there's nothing to say. Sometimes solidarity is the only solution required. Sometimes we just need to be heard. Powerful, indeed.
If our love can hold space for paradox, tension, and disagreement, there's room for all types of beliefs and opinions. Division is a choice. Our love, our listening, must bring in, not edit out.
The world outside of us is loud. There are many voices, many opinions, and everyone can speak their mind. But the world inside of us can be even louder. Pain, anger, and hurt can be so loud that sometimes it's all we can hear. But, listen closely. Behind every voice of pain is a gentle voice of hope whispering for your attention. Behind every voice of hurt, is the sound of redemption and healing. The truth is often a whisper. Listen carefully, the loudest voice isn't always the truth.
Tomorrow, this group, w @beckythecoach, will be listening at The Bean in Chicago. If you're in the Chicago area, and need to be heard, stop by the Bean between 10am and Noon. The world needs to be heard. Chicago is listening.