"Lu is the most wonderful, soft, earnest, playful and magical butch I’ve ever encountered, and I can’t help but laugh at myself when I think about what I projected onto her when I first saw her. I equated her height and masculine presentation with a closed off-ness, a staunchness and a rigidity - which couldn’t have been further from the truth. I projected the same thing onto Lu that others project onto me and other butches all of the time. I was intimidated by her, and read her physical masculinity to mean she would be harsh, stand-offish and emotionally inaccessible. It's funny that after 15 years of processing my pain around others' projection of me, and working to re-write my own narrative about who I am and what my masculinity means, that I still somewhere inside of me carry deep internalised butchphobia. If someone like me, a butch who runs a magazine about other butches, still carries this, then I can't imagine how hard it might be to re-write this narrative for those who don't have butchness as a lived experience at all." - @esthergoodboy 'Individual Healing as a Means of Healing the Whole' - Full essay can be found at: Patron.com/butchisnotadirtyword #butch #butchdyke #butchdykes #butchisnotadirtyword #butchesofinstagram #dyke #dykes #lesbian #lesbians #butchlesbian #tomboys #queerphotography #queer #gender #queeraf #queerasfuck #queerlife #gaypride #gaypride2020 #lgbtq #lgtbqia #lgbtqiaplus #gendernonconforming#genderqueer #gayliberation 
😌 #butch #butchdyke #butchdykes #butchisnotadirtyword #butchesofinstagram #dyke #dykes #lesbian #lesbians #butchlesbian #tomboys #tomboystyle #queer #gender #queeraf #queerasfuck #queerlife #gaypride #gaypride2020 #lgbtq #lgtbqia #lgbtqiaplus #gendernonconforming #genderqueer #gayliberation 
I know y'all keep telling me there aint' any butches in LA, but it sure looks fine as hell from where I'm sitting. 🥵🥵🥵 These legends were photographed for our Butch4Butch edition and gave us a niceeeee little window into what it's like to be Butch in LA as a part of their feature. For further thirsts: @_amyo__ @cb.thuggin OR Link in bio and Issue 7. 📸 by @esthergoodboy #butch #butchisnotadirtyword #butchdyke #butchdykes #gayla #lagay #lagays #tomboystyle #tomboyfashion #lesbiansofinstagram #butchlesbian #butchlesbians #gender #lgbtqia #lgbtqiaplus #lgbtq #gaypride2020 #gaypride #masc #masculineofcenter #gendernonconforming 
"I’ve lived in the North West region of Indiana my whole life, I've never had any real reason to leave. I love it here, but seeing the same things everyday can get boring and travel is always something I wish I had enough money to do. If somebody gave me $20k I would rent out an RV and travel for a long time. I’d buy a nice camera to capture all the moments I’d have on my trip and buy a Taylor acoustic guitar. Then I’d pack my belongings, grab my wife, store enough groceries and toiletries to last a few months, and shove ‘em in the RV and just drive wherever. I haven’t traveled much out of the midwest, so I’d passionately drive straight to the Grand Canyon, California, my wife has always wanted to see New York, Seattle, Oregon, Colorado, and probably lots of other states and cities. I’d love to surround myself in nature and sustain myself without the distraction of work or stress. I’m sure a trip like that would do wonders for my mental health and the vision of my life and the future." For the full interview with @cdiggs707 you can checkout patreon.com/butchisnotadirtyword There's something about gating content to a specific audience who definitely wants to see it (rather than the whole shit show that can be social media sometimes!) that allows us to go deeper with our internet offering. We've been having a lot of fun creating more intimate content for our dearest community members on Patreon lately. We've made our account options cheap and accessible as fuck so hopefully anyone who wants to wonder over and take a look can afford to do so. DM us if you have any questions or just wanna say hi 🙃 📸 by @esthergoodboy #butch #butchisnotadirtyword #ruralqueers #gayindiana #queer #gender #gendernonconforming #butchdyke #butchdykes #butchlesbian #butchlesbians #lgbtqia #lgbtq #lgbtqiaplus #gaypride #gaypride2020 #dyke #dykes #dykestowatchoutfor #butchplease #butchesofinstagram #dykesofinstagram 
An old favorite 🙃 Excerpts by @kgfenwick from "Archetypal” in the Intergenerational Edition. And because y’all always ask, full piece in Issue 3. #butch #butchisnotadirtyword #butch4butch #gender #gendernonconforming #lgbtq #lgbtqia #lgbtqiaplus #gender #gay #gaygaygay #butchdyke #butchdykes #dyke #dykestowatchoutfor #queer #butch4butch #butchesofinstagram #gaypride #gaypride2020 #gayprideparade #masc 
"I fell in love with myself and became more confident in my skin. I began to honor my masculine self a lot more because I didn’t have anyone standing on the side lines judging me. I forgave my mother but took time away from her and created strong boundaries that she had no choice but to accept and respect. My brother and I do not have a relationship but I have love for him knowing that he is the most innocent person in this matter. Today, I am experiencing happiness that I’ve never known. Through openness, acceptance and forgiveness I was able to heal and find the ultimate source of self love, which is the greatest love of all." - @chanzizr Issue 6 - The Mental Health Edition - Link in bio 📸 @jai_florez #butch #butch4butch #butchlesbian #butchlesbians #butchdyke #butchdykes #dykesofinstagram #lesbiansofinstagram #tomboy #tomboystyle #queer #gendernonconforming #lgbtqia #lgbtiqiaplus #lgbtq #gaypride #gaypride2020 #gender #sheher #theythem #qpoc #gay #gayisokay 
"In holding recognition as an ideal, we must subject ourselves to being watched, which is after all only slightly less burdensome when cast from kind eyes. Genealogies of gender and sexuality ask us to see ourselves in the faces, memories, pathways and imaginations of others. This is the ring of keys moment, the growing up together and the romance of ‘sameness’ that captivates and stuns us: Those of us who don’t have it seek it out, and those of us who do, quite naturally, want more. This is what both of us felt when we first discovered ‘butch’. It is what we fear relinquishing as we begin, on different trajectories, to fall out of line. However: I do not have to see myself in you to feel your presence, hold you, laugh, fuck, love and build something precious in your company. This is what it means to be friends and lovers to people ‘like us’. We make sense: collectively, actively, in touch. The dynamics that emerge make us invisible to each other as we fall out of spectacle and into relation; not so much connected as entangled." Issue 7 - The Butch4Butch Edition - @desi_dyke & @bulldaggy 📸 @esthergoodboy #butch #butch4butch #butchlesbian #butchlesbians #butchdyke #butchdykes #dykesofinstagram #lesbiansofinstagram #tomboy #tomboystyle #queer #gendernonconforming #lgbtqia #lgbtiqiaplus #lgbtq #gaypride #gaypride2020 #gender #sheher #theythem #gay #gayisokay 
😌🥰👬🏻 Excerpt by @commonkate - Read the full story in Issue 4 - The Love & Sex Edition. #butch #butch4butch #babybutch #butchlesbian #butchlesbians #butchdyke #butchdykes #dykesofinstagram #lesbiansofinstagram #tomboy #tomboystyle #queer #gendernonconforming #lgbtqia #lgbtiqiaplus #lgbtq #gaypride #gaypride2020