Wild Womyn Womb Wisdom is one of the module’s in my jade egg intensive. One of the women from my last intensive said I was the “strongest” this week, which I took to mean that I held the fullest and deepest container. And I would agree. WILD is a state I feel like I was put on the planet to reclaim within womyn. I am here to let the wild out of the cage. Why is this important? Because WILD is one of the most repressed states in women. It’s also one of the most abused. WILD is exploited. You see it in pornography, on stages, in movies and magazines. WILD is a state used for others (typically men) to capitalize on. WILD is also feared. Little girls aren’t encouraged in their WILD. Women are often insulted for their WILD. Bitch. Slut. Out of control. Crazy. WILD is the way of the witches. Those burned on the stake. The druids. Those pushed out of existence. The earthmama’s. Those ridiculed and judged. The medicine women. Those kept from practicing the wisdom ways. WILD was stamped out by patriarchy. By The Church. By religion as a whole. Why? Because WILD is a threat. WILD evokes “rebellion.” Independence. Free-thought and uninhabited actions. WILD is a free woman. And I firmly believe that most of the issues women deal with today—low self-confidence, lack of worthiness, depression, restlessness, self-esteem issues—comes directly from the repression of WILD. Where does WILD reside? In a woman’s womb (and if you don’t have one you can still access the energy of this sacred source). In her power center. It’s a gateway to all things sacred. All things sexy. All things intuitive and natural and based in instinct. You, Mama, have permission to be WILD. You can reclaim your WILD. You can live from your WILD. And I am here to help you surrender fully to that gateway within your being. ***Link for the jade egg intensive in my profile.*** . . . Art by @hanakomimiko 💓 . . . #wildwoman #wombwisdom #jadeegg #yonieggs #sexcoach
This morning I did some sex magic with myself. I introduced this practice on the last day of my Sexy Unicorn Challenge, and I know quite a few women remarked that it brought up a lot for them. And, I totally get it. Sex magic is something I've always been intrigued by, while simultaneously resisting. I've known it to work. I've witnessed it working for others and have felt it work in small ways for myself. I believe in the power of it. Always have. Both the MAGIC of it all, and the somatic/neurological realities of it. But just like self-pleasuring in general has deep embedded shame in it for me, Sex Magic carries the same shame... plus a little more. Why? Because it felt indulgent. Self-aggrandizing. Over the top. Lustful. ...Sinful? It certainly seems to rub up against my humble Mennonite, midwest, country girl roots. And against all the parts of me who are afraid of being persecuted for living my truth--for empowering myself to live into a reality I innately deserve and am worthy of receiving. I'm seeing these layers of shame fade though. Today, thoroughly unplanned, I wound up doing a short ritual with myself. It felt good... so good. Pleasurable. And as I sensed into my manifestation desire, my whole body felt alive, like I was in alignment with myself and the universe. I'm offering a bonus 90-minute FULL MOON WORKSHOP in my jade egg intensive on sex magic, plus a SUPER powerful jade egg sex magic ritual. I'm offering this because I believe it's a part of our BIRTHRIGHT to know and understand these wisdom ways, to harness our sacred and sexual power to empower ourselves, to use our pleasure as sacred MEDICINE... not only for ourselves, but the whole planet. If you're interested in learning more about sex magic, check out my Jade Egg Intensive: Reclaiming Your Sacred, Sexual Power! (link in profile). I also have a FREE masterclass happening Wednesday AM - would love to see you there. . . . . #sexmagic #pussypower #selfpleasure #yonieggs
I am she. I am she. Behind the woman. I am she. I am she. From the deep. I am she. I am she. I am open, to receive. I am open, to surrender. . . . I missed the train on @evyan.whitney 's #sensualselfiechallenge (probably due to running my own Sexy Unicorn Challenge - only had so much head space), but I find all the photographs being posted SO powerful and I wanted to be a part of the movement, even if I didn't have the daily prompts. I took a grounding bath this afternoon with epsom salts after a very busy week. My intention was to ground into the New Moon energy, create a space of going into the weekend with deep #selfcare and #selfawareness of exactly what I need. #Peruquois's song I Am She came on and inspired an impromptu #shakti dance in the tub. It's shocking how receiving and surrendering are so hard for me. How much they present an edge. And yet, in the moments of being with my body in the bathtub, I caught a glimpse of what surrender and receiving could potentially feel like. I am open, to receive. I am open, to surrender. . . . #myprayer #goddessrising #innergoddess
I've struggled allowing myself to release the box of old identities while simultaneously trying on new ones through my whole life This is especially true for my sexuality. When I was a teen I went on a journey of finding myself. This meant embodying different representations of who I could be. From preppy, to emo, to punkishish (like... think ashlee simpson 😂), to hippieish: I allowed myself to transform, to adapt, to take on new identities. And, I GOT SHIT FOR IT! How dare she change her clothes. How dare she be anything but preppy as she was when she was 14! I think this is where we put ourselves in boxes. It's around what others think. What they may say. I've had this identity issue around my sexual orientation. I've been bi-sexual since I can remember. I ALWAYS found women attractive in a sexual sort of way. I remember fantasizing to women as soon as I began masturbating. But I didn't act on that out of fear until I was in my early 20's. Once I acted on it I was like, Holy shit! I'm a lesbian! I found women WAY more erotic than men. I found sex with them far more appealing than men. I found everything about women far more intoxicating. Then I fell in love with a man. Even though I was in love with him, I felt so much embarrassment that I wanted to be with him. I tried to deny his existence. I didn't want to tell anyone about him. It's like I was keeping my MALE partner in the closet! I didn't want to be seen as no longer gay. It took me awhile to work through it. But I still see how much I struggle. I still see this desire to prove to people that I'm not straight. AND I still feel this incredible desire to be with women (my partner and I are openish, but that's a whole other story). When we deny ourselves our Truth based on the boxes we put ourselves in--when we don't leave room to be as multifaceted and multidimensional as we are--this is where lust, depression, frustration and lack of desire come in. #queer #femme #bisexuality #identity 📷@selfcareclubbb
You are the one thinking thoughts, believing beliefs, taking action steps. This is a really hard thing to grasp. Especially because SHIT HAPPENS TO US that is out of our control. For example, experiencing sexual abuse at age 3. I didn’t “create” that. And to say that I did is pretty fucked up, just as saying people living in war zones have somehow created that life for themselves. Uuuuhhhh…. scapegoating much? That’s not what I mean, and definitely not what I am saying, though unfortunately a lot of spiritual people naively or ignorantly DO say that. What I AM saying though is that the life you are living right now -- the way you are living right now -- is of YOUR making in the sense that it’s up to you to do what you want to do, create what you want to create, and believe that you have the capacity to DO IT. I can’t even count how many times I haven’t done something because I couldn’t afford it.” Or I’ve projected my sexual hang-ups onto my partner. Or I kept grinding away in a horrible, low-paying job because I declared that I “had no other options.” All of that is bullshit. It’s the cry of someone letting life happen to her. Not the cry of a sovereign being. That’s a hard concept to grasp because if you looked at my bank account, I probably didn’t have the money in there. Or if you looked at my sexual history, both past abuse and current partner trauma created a lot of sexual blocks. Or if you looked at those shitty job situations, I applied to at least 40 other jobs and didn’t get any of them. But I didn’t get them because I didn’t actually want them. I wanted to be traveling--free to discover who I truly was. In terms of money, when I go out on a limb and pay for something that feels SUPER in alignment with me, it always circles back. And my sexual blocks? Sure. Other shitheads abused me. But at this point in time it’s ONLY ME who can change that. It’s ONLY ME who has the capacity to move through my trauma and tap into pleasure and make MAGIC.
WOOHOO!!! Today was the FIRST DAY of the Sexy Unicorn Challenge 🦄 and I've been wildly blown away, impressed and inspired by all those along for the ride with me. Today we're looking at the shadows of what holds us back from what we desire in life. What keeps us from being the MAGIC we want to be? What prevents us from fully embracing our SEXY UNICORN?! What many of us don't realize is that if we don't have what we desire, then there's some part of us holding ourselves back from it. For example, if we desire to have amazing, shame free sex, but we seem to be unable to have amazing, shame free sex, then there is some part (or parts) of ourselves who are keeping us from having that. It's not to put the blame on you or me. These parts are actually protecting us! They're keeping us from what they perceive as something that will hurt us. Something dangerous. Something that's not good. And they learned that this isn't good because of the belief systems or experience they've had in the past. But we really can't get what we desire if these parts of ourselves are running the show. The way to get them to stop running the show is, 1) Bringing awareness to them. 2) Bringing acceptance to them. 3) Embodying something new so our nervous system can learn what that feels like. It sounds simple. It's totally not. But the Sexy Unicorn Challenge is an opportunity to really step into the MAGIC you want to embody, and the first step to doing that is to see what's holding you back! If this sounds interesting, it’s not too late to sign-up for the Sexy Unicorn Challenge. We started today, but no shame in hopping in last minute! You can play catch-up. The link is in my profile ---> @thesacredandthesexy . . . This incredible art is via @simonemariposa
Once upon a time @looksbylaurel made me into a magical unicorn and let me tell you... I felt sexy as f*ck! If you want to feel sexy as f*ck, I can't do your hair, but I CAN offer you the Sexy Unicorn Challenge! It begins MONDAY you need to sign-up asap if you want to get down with some free and awesome sexy upleveling in your life. The link is in my profile (just click here! --> @thesacredandthesexy). I began this challenge because I myself get really stuck in the seriousness of sexuality. Instead of doing my practices for PLEASURE and because they make me feel sexy as f*ck, I do them because I SHOULD and because they're GOOD FOR ME and because I need to graduate from my program. Instead of trauma being something that I can laugh with, it's something that takes over my life. It's dampening. It's exhausting. It's painful. Instead of living into my sexy fun unicorn, I live into my intellectual, neuroscientifically based spiritual being... and I want the world to see me that way, because I value that side FAR more than I value this colorful part me. I want to unleash the sexy unicorns everywhere. Serious is great. I value serious. I dig serious. Trauma is intense. I value my trauma healing process. I recognize it as such an important part of myself. AND... I see that there's more that needs to come out of me and SHINE. So here she is. Sexy Unicorn and ALL! Ready to show the world this wild wisdom is just as valuable as the intense trauma healing. In fact, it's an aspect OF the intense trauma healing. Sending you all sorts of magical pussy unicorn vibes today! 🦄 P.S. Sign-up in my profile for the challenge if you haven't yet, only a few more hours to get in on the fun! 🦄 . . . . . . #sexyunicorn #femalepower #yoniverse #pussypower
Have you looked at the Sexy Unicorn Challenge and thought, Eh, not for me! If so, I want to question that logic. When I first began my work as a sacred sexuality teacher, I assumed I would attract in women my age who wanted to heal trauma and become empowered in their sexuality. To my surprise, when I began teaching jade egg classes women of ALL ages came. Two women in their 70's, a few in their 60's, and then 50s on down to 20s. I felt the diversity in ages created a stronger container and community as we practiced these often shameful and sensitive self-pleasure practices together, empowering and holding each other through our processes. And I gotta confess, I felt honored that women older than me--who I respected and admired--trusted my wisdom and wanted to learn from me, even though I've only lived a mere 30 years on this planet. I naively made an assumption/prejudice that 1) I wouldn't attract women older than myself because of my own youthfulness, and 2) older women wouldn't want to work on their sexuality because either there's too much shame, or they've become content/resigned to the way things are. BAM. I love being proved wrong. In the Sexy Unicorn Challenge you (+a friend) have the opportunity win a spot in my 6-week Jade Egg Intensive. Plus, win a jade egg, ebook + 2 MP3 practices (link in profile). With the challenge itself you get to experience embodied pleasure practices that help you access magic in your everyday reality--not just in your body, but in everything you touch, see, feel, taste and hear. You can discover simple tweaks you can make everyday to refocus your awareness and belief systems to discover joy, beauty and freedom in your everyday reality. And you can understand how to connect with your body on a whole new level, rooting into your power and feeling yourself as a sexy (witchy) unicorn as we dive into sex magic on the New Moon. Join us. It beings on Monday! . . . #yonieggs #jadeegg #tantra #tantrayoga