Pain and suffering.... Pain is something we feel... Suffering is like a state of response. Life comes with pain, it does. But it doesn't have to come with suffering. What really gets me is that so often suffering is a self-inflicted wound. A wound that harnessing our thoughts could mend.
I like to share pretty images like this because there is something about them that brightens my day, as I hope it does yours. ⠀ But I don't want you to miss the grit of my story. I've been a victim of anxiety, of depression, of abuse, and consequently my own mind.⠀ But the truth of it all is I am not a victim of anything... but a SURVIVOR of a lot. Don't let my feed fool you, and don't let your past fool you into spoiling your future.
Man, quotes like this always get me... they get me because on one hand I'm kind of annoyed at how cliche they are (I guess that's just who I am as a person) and on the other hand... truth. As productive as I think I am... as reasonable and honest as I think I am... there are still so many things that I say I CAN'T do... and that's just not true at all. Not for me, not for you.
Look at that chin dimple!⠀ ⠀ I'm so lucky to have 2 little boys that call me auntie.
Stop the scroll⠀ Think about an opinion someone has had of you that really stung.⠀ Whether they told you what they thought themselves, or you heard it from someone else...⠀ Based on that opinion... has it changed they way you view yourself? Have you started dwelling on it? Do you now believe it is true of yourself?⠀ If not.. well, I love you and I'm sorry to stop your scroll for nothing because I'm not talking to you.⠀ But you, you who has LET someone else's opinion, someone else's BIASED OPINION become apart of what you believe to be true about yourself... you're the one I'm talking to. I understand you, because I was you. I've been there. What you need to realize is... opinions are just that... opinions. Stop putting more value on someone else's above your own. Just because someone else said it does not make it accurate.
Do a little good every day...⠀ Have you done anything today that's made you feel alive or sparked joy for someone else?
I know priorities is a boring word... I kind of hate it. But what if I told you that knowing your values and what is most important at your core would alleviate so much of the stress, inadequacy, overwhelm, anxiety, and unworthiness so many of us feel.⠀ YOU DON'T NEED TO DO MORE, friends. You don't need that extra title, that extra job, that extra achievement, a better kitchen, more volunteer time, a newer wardrobe...⠀ ⠀ You only need REFUSE to put the things that don't align with your heart ahead of what does.
Anyone else ever feel like their slave to the clock? Maybe we just spend too much time thinking about negative time - how much little we have left, how little there is in a day, comparing our use of it against someone else's instead of making IT work for US. #stateofmind
So much of my early life was spent waiting, refraining, and preparing. Stop saving that thing - whatever it is - for a special occasion. Start letting every day be a special occasion. Stop letting your brain tell you that you don't deserve something yet.
One of my favorite things is watching those who mean the most to me experience joy. I adore my mom and watching her get to be a Grammy to 3 little ones and the way it lights her up - there's nothing better than that!
Your mind... and the thoughts that it produces... control your body. Your body has NO CHOICE but to respond to your thoughts. You can't be surprised or offended when your body responds with an anxiety attack, illness, or depression if your thoughts are telling it to react that way.
Here’s what I’ve been up to: this past month I did 30 Days of Gratitude. I physically wrote down something every single day that I was grateful for. If it was something generic like family then I elaborated on why I was grateful for family on that day. I always try to live life with a grateful heart... but in doing this... I still found how much I was missing out on...
Feelings come and they go based on what's going on in your life. But emotions are choices. Emotions can be more steady and constant. If you want a joyous life, decide to make a joyous life. ⠀ It's more than doing things that will bring the feeling of happiness your way... that happiness will live only as long as the experience. It's about creating an internal home for joy.
If I had known years ago that I could conquer anxiety, defeat depression, manage my effectiveness and become EXACTLY who I want to be by taking control of my thoughts... man, my life would have gone so differently. ⠀ #whatiknownow
And don't let anyone tell you otherwise! I think so often we let other's beliefs and preferences shape and distort what we think we can celebrate or embrace in our lives. If you're proud of something... be proud of it! Enjoy it, revel in it. It doesn't matter if it does NOT turn a profit, give you a diploma, help someone else, have a return on investment, or even be seen by anyone else.⠀ Build yourself up.
Sometimes I think in terms of seasons a lot... ⠀ I think it's because our lives tend to be cyclical, just like them. As I think of the rest of this year and what the coming seasons bring, I'm trying to instill a sense of steadiness in my heart. Embrace the lovely moments I have now... because the next few months usually get so busy for most of us.
Whenever I'm battling fear... I really can't reason myself out of it. Sure leveling with myself and saying okay, is the worse possible scenario REALLY that bad? helps... but ultimately overcoming fear comes down to a faith in myself and my Creator. I have faith that even though I will walk through hardships and encounter many hurdles as I leap over fear... love will prevail. It will all be more than worth it.
When I first picked up a camera I didn’t take photos for other people... I didn’t take photos OF myself... but I did it purely FOR myself. As a way to create, reflect, and connect. What do you love that you don’t take the time for? #selfcare
Busy-ness is seriously the enemy of personal growth. So why are we so obsessed with being busy?
Surely I’m not the only one who has breaking points? 🙋🏻♀️ The way I see it... you have 2 options in those moments: allow the spiral of overwhelm to begin or remember all of the HARD things that you’ve been through and the STRENGTH you have. I know you’ve showed strength and endurance in your past. Remind yourself of those moments and press forward.
The first time I heard this... it kind of hit me like a ton of bricks. All other good characteristics can be pointless if you don’t have the courage to back them up. You might value honesty, but if you don’t have the courage to be honest when it truly COUNTS, what’s the point? You might have love in you, but not the courage to give it... maybe you’re kind but don’t have the bravery to reach out to people radically. I know you have so many virtuous things about you. Build courage, friends.
How to leave the state of STRESSED behind:⠀ 1. Write all of your thoughts, to do’s, and concerns out.⠀ 2. Prioritize those things - what’s ACTUALLY important to you or needs to be done soon. (Not what you think someone else wants you to do, but is TRULY most important based on who you are)⠀ 3. Drink the coffee, and do one thing at a time. Just one. That list is there so you don’t have to worry about forgetting anything or thinking about it in the mean time.
I know you’ve heard it: “everything you want is just outside of your comfort zone”.⠀ But if you’re like me... maybe you didn’t take the next mental step... discomfort is the goal. It’s not just a matter of stepping outside your comfort zone... it’s pursuing discomfort. What?! 😱 Choosing to let discomfort lead you to growth.
This past week was busy - really busy - and I’m totally behind on work... but I’m still able to stop and take in the little moments. Enjoying a green tea, sitting in a play tent with Emelia, all of the small joys that overwhelm and stress tend to steal from me. I’m still taking the time to embrace joy because I know that this busy season has a purpose; a value. But I know that my to do list, while important, is not THE MOST important. #prioritize #saynotostress