Don't believe everything you think. That voice in your head telling you that you don't have what it takes. It should be easier. I should be finished already. If I really mattered, I would have been invited to that meeting with those people. Sound familiar?⠀ ⠀ It's funny because I read all of this stuff on Instagram about Choosing a positive thought and Change your thoughts. Change your life. And I get why these messages are inspiring. Mindset matters, and I'm an optimist too. Honestly though, I think these phrases can be a little misleading. Because the mind thinks like the heart beats. Thoughts happen whether we want them to or not. And we can't just undo years of patterns of thinking by deciding to choose the positive. If that was an easy choice, we all would have done it already.⠀ ⠀ Here's what we can do though: We can practice training our attention. We can change the way in which we respond to our thoughts. So the next time you find yourself getting swept up in your inner dialogue—maybe you're beating yourself up and spiraling down the rabbit hole....or maybe you're just making up stories or future tripping and getting all worst case scenario—can you try something for me? Can you pause, breathe, and observe the inner commentary? Let it be there without pushing it away. Make space for it. Feel into it. Then, as best you can, don't judge it as good or bad. And if you start to have judgements about your thoughts and the emotions that come along with them, then your practice becomes not judging your judgements. ⠀ ⠀ Essentially, this is what meditation is. It took me a long time to learn how to work with my thoughts and the energies that come along with them in a skillful way. Sometimes I still mess up. I forget what I know, and I need to remind myself and learn it all over again. But this is the deep inner work. The heart work. The healing work. And if I can do it, I know you can too. XO #moveandmeditate
Scheduling workouts. Meal planning. Grocery shopping. I can't tell you how many Sundays I spent in my 20s running ragged and doing everything I could to set myself up for success the following week. Deep down I believed if I did it all perfectly on Sunday, my inner critic would disappear the other 6 days...and I wouldn't feel so freaking stressed all the time. Let me tell you....it didn't happen that way. All obsessing over prepping and planning did was take over precious weekend time, fuel my anxiety, and leave me feeling drained. My strategy now? On Sunday, I take a few minutes to write down some intentions....but mostly, it's my day to do whatever I want. Rest, catch up on work, watch Netflix, read, make cookies, hang with family. ⠀ ⠀ Maybe you're not into planning and prep like I was, but maybe there's something else you do in the name of health and wellbeing that isn't serving you. Maybe there are areas in your life where you're trying so hard and it doesn't feel good or intuitive, but you keep doing it anyway because you think this is what healthy, driven, successful people do. Take a second to think about it. Is anything coming up? What would it mean to let that go? What would it give you? #moveandmeditate
Running faster. Going harder. Stretching further. For so long, my workout was about proving myself and getting it done. In fact, in college, I used to train so hard as a competitive runner that I'd end up limping around campus. I walked in the grass next to the sidewalk because I couldn't keep up with the flow of students making their way to class. Back then, my workouts were an escape. A time to push away whatever I felt physically or emotionally and just achieve. Now? I still love to sweat and push my edge. I still love a really hard, heart-pumping, butt-burning workout. But now, I'm not trying to get out of my body. I'm actually trying to step into it more fully. Why? Because when we're physically present in our bodies—when we tune in to the qualities of our breath and get curious about the physical sensations that are showing up—that's all information to help guide us. Our bodies feel things before our thinking minds can process it. And when we can let ourselves feel it.....when we can start to identify our own energetic patterns...that's when we grow, connect deeper with ourselves, and heal. ⠀ ⠀ If you're curious to try this approach to moving your body for yourself, I've got a free 15-day trial on my site that gives you access to my entire collection of online workout and meditation videos. You can either move + meditate in one video or just meditate. Link in bio to get started. For those of you that have been doing these move + meditate videos for a while, I'd love to hear how they've been going for you! Let's chat in the comments below. 🙌🏽#doingthings #OVofficial #moveandmeditate 👚👖 by @outdoorvoices
Text message exchange from last night.👇🏽⠀ ⠀ Husband: Has he eaten yet? ⠀ ⠀ Me: No. Is he meowing? ⠀ ⠀ Husband: Yes, I'll feed him.⠀ ⠀ Me: Thank you! Please give him tuna. He had turkey this morning and duck last night. We need to keep the rotation going or else he gets bored. ⠀ ⠀ Because god forbid the cat gets bored. 🤦🏽♀️It's National Pet Day and I had to throw it back to when my baby was a baby. If you're new around here, meet Javier. He doesn't worry about what happened in the past or what's about to happen next. He's just in it. Right here. Right now. And he has successfully trained two humans to serve him and give him exactly what he wants during every moment of every day. I want to know: Who are your four-leggeds and how do they make you healthier?
My 5 year old niece met @mistyonpointe—one of the top ballerinas in the world and the first African American to be named a principal dancer at ABT—earlier this year. After they chatted for a bit and took some photos together, she told my sister, Mom, her skin is like mine. ⠀ ⠀ Last night I was up until 1am reading CMBYN and thinking about the young people who grow up and don’t see themselves represented in the media—on TV, in books, in movies. And I have absolutely no idea how that feels because I have boatloads of privilege and I see myself represented everywhere. ⠀ ⠀ I have so much gratitude and respect for artists like @armiehammer and @tchalamet who are willing to tell stories even when it's not comfortable or easy. By doing so, they create a little more space for all of us to share our own experiences too. And when we can share our own stories—especially the ones that make us feel a little vulnerable—that's what connects us deeper to ourselves and each other. Less shame. Less feeling like we're somehow flawed. More acceptance and love.
Apparently bae wants in on the action too.👆🏽😻When I first started meditating, I didn't know what I was doing. But I knew why I was doing it. Basically, I wanted to calm the eff down. The way I had been living my life—measuring my self worth by what I achieved at work, trying to prove myself to myself every single day—served me for several years....until it didn't. ⠀ ⠀ Those first few weeks of meditating weren't easy. Here's what I wish I could have told myself before I got started: ⠀ ⠀ 1. What you do before you meditate matters. It's hard to go from running errands and answering emails straight to meditation. If you exercise and move your body (even just a little bit) before your daily practice, you'll find the process more doable and enjoyable. Because once you've blown off steam and cooked up some endorphins from your sweat session, you're more patient and open to the experience of sitting in the quiet. ⠀ ⠀ 2. Those thoughts that come up during your practice? Don't worry about them. They're here to help you learn and grow. The goal of meditation is not to clear your mind of thoughts or even to try to control your thoughts. So every time a thought drifts in, your job is to just notice it, and as best you can, not to judge it as good or bad. Then return to your breath or whatever your point of focus is. Pro tip: Sometimes—ok, most of the time—automatic judgements will happen along with your thoughts because our thinking mind is accustomed to evaluating anything and everything. When that happens, the practice becomes not to judge your judgement. ⠀ ⠀ 3. Meditation won't make you calm. It will give you something better. Your practice will uncover your inner strength and resilience, and it will change how you respond to stress. So the stressful situations that are happening now? Those will still happen later. You'll just be less reactive, more grounded, and you'll be able to see things for how they really are instead of getting swept up in your emotions or the emotions of others.⠀ ⠀ Questions? Or something you want to add? Let’s chat. 💕💫✨Happy Monday loves! Hope your week is off to a good start. XO #moveandmeditate ⠀ ⠀ ⠀ ⠀ ⠀ ⠀