The Salam Sisters Network Dubai spearheaded by Sofia Chaudhry organised a close knit event at Tania’s Tea house yesterday morning with Cognitive Behaviour Therapist Farah Lodi. Farah has written chapter 3 of the book ISLAMICALLY INTERGRATED PSYCHOTHERAPY – Uniting Faith and Professional Practice, in which she draws inspiration from the life of Prophet Muhammad SAW who was the best example in using Taqwa and Tawakkul along with compassion for oneself and others. She suggests that through following his examples people can overcome their grief, anxiety or depression. Over the recent past I had been hearing more and more about mental health awareness and was intrigued by the subject. This was the perfect opportunity to clear the blur that I had in my mind associated with mental health. Farah began by discussing the nature of the most common types of mental ailments that affect a huge population today and some basic triggers that lead to small and big incidents which could eventually result in impairment of a person’s day to day life. Ailments can also be as a result of a biochemical reaction in the body which would need to treated as you would a visible physical ailment. She explained her approach to remedying some of these issues by identifying dysfunctional and distorted thinking patterns and then focusing on effecting cognitive reconstruction and positive reinforcement for better coping mechanisms. She explained that a person who is undergoing distress will often send out signals to those around them and thus advised to stay switched on when talking to a friend or your child, to hear beyond the words that are being spoken to and look out for physical changes always. Despite the decreasing stigma of mental illness, there is still a long way to go before we accept and understand mental health. Speaking about it to atleast one member of your family or one friend in your circle could make a huge impact in the long run. May Allah SWT give us the strength to face the challenges around us and inside us. Ameen
Reliance means complete dependence and trust in Allah in all matters, particularly in times of difficulty. We should try to teach our children from an early age that they should turn to Allah alone for all of their needs. It directs them to obey Allah and instils them to be optimistic in the face of life’s challenges. They should be able to confront any challenges with courage and confidence, and endure all conditions with patience. We should explain to them that distress and difficulty are always followed by relief, particularly when accompanied by supplication. Taken from Dr Aisha Hamdan’s Nurturing Eman in Children. #foundation #buildingblocks #seekhelpfromAllahalone #dailychallenges
We have previously posted a list of Islamic Classes for children in Dubai. However, it is always not possible for children to be a part of these classes and a lot of parents “homeschool” their children when it comes to teaching them about Islam. Bearing this in mind, we turned to the Bismillah babies community and asked parents about how they meet this challenge of incorporating Islamic Learning in their daily lives. The one thing that almost everyone said was to lead by example. We have all heard it said that children don’t listen to what you say but watch what you do. This holds true in how they see us living and practicing our deen. Praying in front of them, reading the Quran with them, reciting Duas loudly and practicing small acts of Sunnah all reinforce the things they hear and read about. Integrating lessons from the lives of the Prophets and the companions with everyday incidents is another way children learn important lessons believes Umm Haroun. She likes to relate the things her children see around them to the stories of the Prophets for example, seeing a picture of a whale, she talks about the story of Younus Alayhis salaam. She also uses current affairs such as recent floods and natural disasters as starting points for discussions with her older children. In order to help her children learn the daily duas, Umm Abdurrahman , mother of a 5yr old, prints out the supplications. Prayer charts encourage kids to track their prayers and offer them on time. Another popular suggestion to build children’s interest was through reading- Islamic books and other books with good morals and values. Many moms also felt that getting together with like minded people for playdates or outings also helped their children imbibe Islamic values. Rewarding children for their actions, encourages them to put more of what they learn into practice. Rewards don’t always have to be material, a simple but sincere Jazakallah khair can go a long way to inculcate good Islamic manners. (Continued in comments)
Islam is a religion of knowledge. Knowledge comes before action and there is no action without knowledge. It’s what we want for our children and it is what we’ve been told to seek. Could there be a greater blessing ? #NurturingEmaninChildren #knowledgeiskey #livingislam #nomoreexcuses
The rewards of parenting far outweigh the challenges, and responsibilities. Parenting holds Allah’s greatest rewards on this earth and in the Hereafter. All our efforts will definitely pay off eventually. Taken from Dr Aisha Hamdan’s Nurturing Eman in Children. #unconditionallove #bonding #foreverrewarding #truebeauty #gooddeeds #obedientservantoAllah
As the kids settle into their routines, parents have been on the lookout for good Islamic classes available for their children. Here is a list we have compiled for your benefit In Sha Allah
One of the most fundamental concepts that we need to understand as parents is that children are a test and that through them, we will be held accountable on the Day of Judgement. This realization brings about a profound change in how we relate to and deal with our children. The test is not only to see who is grateful and who is not, but to determine how we raise our children. Are they treated with kindness, love and respect? Are they being raised with Islamic knowledge? Will they be prepared for the Hereafter and for Jannah? This is the true nature of the test for parents from Allah. Unfortunately in today’s world, many children do not receive the time and attention that is due to them. Parents fail to realize that by neglecting their children and failing in this test from Allah, they may have missed a golden opportunity for eternal reward. And if a parent excels in this test, then eeman is a stronghold of that family. It is amazing that in the process of nurturing little mu’mins, parents also end up nurturing themselves. This increase in eeman through parenting brings one closer to Allah and deepen his/her understanding of His Infinite Wisdom and Mercy. What better opportunity to experience a taste of paradise in this life? Taken from Dr Aisha Hamdan’s Nurturing Eman in Children. #testofpatience #selflessness #sacrifice #hugereward #endgoals #parentingoals
We welcome the New year upon the way of Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon Him) #hijri1440#Muharram1#Islamicnewyear
Hadith of the Week This week’s Hadith places much emphasis on the fact that parenting is a religious duty, a form of ibadah that must be approached earnestly and sincerely. Taken from Dr Aisha Hamdan’s Nurturing Eman in Children. #islamicparenting#hadithoftheweek#continuousimprovement
It’s he start of a new academic year for many in UAE. Hope the first week has been awesome. This is one of our favorite Duas to start a school day with !
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And with that we draw close to this year’s Ramadan workshops for 9hijri at @thedubaimall Many thanks to @dubaiculture for giving us this amazing opportunity and we look forward to doing more workshops with you In Sha Allah.