Happy indi pindi. جشن آزادی مبارک بروز Wearing purani flag pin and celebrating naya Pakistan. 💚
Current favoritest ring combo: This evil eye rose gold ring from @happinessbtq and this round afghani ring from Zainab Market in Karachi. Does this happen with you? Getting attached to a few jewelry pieces and then just wearing them day by day, day by day. Like listening to your favorite song on repeat 😊 p.s. The evil eye ring purchase link is in my bio, if you're interested. #lifestyleblogger #sydneyblogger #pakistaniblogger #pakistanibloggers #melbourneblogger #australianblogger #desiblogger #happinessbtq #happinessboutique #rings #jewelery
How I'm living my life right now. #basically cc: @nabeel.moeen
After all that 'heavy' talk the past couple of days, here's a shot of digital Hajmola to digest it all down (because yesterday someone called my posts like a buffet meal of biryani, paaye and nihari, lulz.). So a shot of my name necklace that I've been wearing non-stop which is from @soufeeljewelry and you can use coupon code Shemg15 to get a 15% discount (on top of any existing discounts on the site) and the link is on my profile. YAH. p.s. Some of you sent me really sad DMs yesterday. I assure you, I'm not disappearing. Just going to reduce the frequency vs what I used to do and reinterpret this medium my way. We're not breaking up❤. #lifestyleblogger #sydneyblogger #pakistaniblogger #desiblogger #melbourneblogger #soufeelstyle #soufeellover #soufeeljewelry #namenecklace #soufeelgals
PART 6 (last one). I’m at a point where I can make the same amount of income with sporadic posting instead of a regular one, and I’m happy I can enjoy that liberty and keep doing what I want to do in life. I’m not leaving this space, I’m just changing it as I know it. More thoughtful, less mainstream. Quality over quantity. I know this is the world of quick browsing with less of an appetite for longer content, so there are many of you who probably don’t care about this change to not blog everyday; that’s alright, I wrote everyday for years despite that because *I* wanted to. For the ones who have come to my blog DAILY, to read, leave comments, share the love, provide support, I CANNOT tell you how grateful I am. I apologise for removing this daily content from your lives but I think you’ll like what I do even still because I’ll be doing it with my heart. Please stay with me ❤ For those who never checked the blog anyway, maybe the difference won’t be as obvious, but I’ll know it, so it works. Does this mean I’m going to work a few hours a day and then sunbathe on my balcony with a chilled margarita? (it’s winter here in Australia so that’s not happening anyway). I’m still going to have a daily schedule but a very fluid one and I’m excited about filling up my day with blog work AND other things that I’ve been wanting to do (I’ll maybe share the details over time? Maybe). I want to grow and learn and reflect and invest in myself. I’m very attached to my blog but it’s not my identity. I remember saying in one of my interviews a long time ago: I can drop the entire concept the day I feel it doesn’t provide value to the most important person in this equation: me (I’m not dropping it, just saying it as an example). I enjoy living a full life and I’m terribly excited about what’s to come. My schedule suddenly is so much smaller, I'm excited about filling it up with my dreams. I feel inspired, I feel free. And I’ve really never felt more content. Those who can understand why I needed to take you along my thought process, I thank you ❤ Now just want to end with, did it make sense and are you with me? 😊
PART 5. So to bring it all together: With how things in the blogging landscape have made me feel a little pulled away AND how my own personal aspirations have evolved, I’m changing some things up (if I didn’t post on the blog everyday, I probably wouldn’t have been doing these theatrics with Part 1, 2, 3, nonsense, but suddenly altering things without an explanation would have been a little strange so you have to suffer, lulz). SO, here’s my current plan. I don’t plan on blogging everyday anymore. This is a HUGE change for me because I've been posting everyday for the last so many years. I get multiple messages har roz how I'm either part of someone's lunch break or subha ki chai or bedtime read or study break or when the kids are napping or when they're feeling low or away from family or just need to get away from things. It's been such a privilege to be in that place but I'm still choosing to alter that. There are so many things that I want to write about but because of the time required for my daily posts (and everything else that happens behind-the-scenes), I can’t seem to give time to the ones I *really* want to do. I will still post on the blog off and on, both the meaningful and fun ones. I will bring the rest to Instagram/Facebook as smaller posts. There will be no rules however, so I don’t know when I’ll post ON THE BLOG (I know I’m constantly saying “the blog” like a nut, but people misunderstand the website for Instagram). So maybe a couple of times a week, maybe weekly, or twice a month; I don’t know. I don’t want to be bound by yours or my own expectations. Posts on Instagram & Facebook, I’ll keep more frequent, maybe everyday, maybe once a week, don’t know yet. I will continue my brand collaborations (because I do the ones I actually enjoy), I’ll continue writing about what I want (favorite lipstick, home tour, zaalim samaaj, the works), I’ll just do it against no schedule and maybe with a little change of flavor. Part 6 (last part) next. If you're bored with this, don't read it.
PART 4. All the parts/bakwas before was about the blog. Now I want to talk about my general direction in life that’s also been evolving over the last 1 year & I want to re-route things to live the kind of life I want for myself. I made a similar change some years ago when I switched from corporate. Now I want to switch gears again. I’m not a hustler. I don’t enjoy doing 1500 things in one day. I like to enjoy my chai, I like to look out the window, take time to reflect, work, pray, read, rest, have conversations with my husband, family, friends. A jampacked schedule is not what feeds my soul. I don’t want my life to be a race & so I actively work against it becoming that. My wants from life have changed even more over the last many months. I want to do some personal projects (that I probably won’t share, at least for now, maybe later) and I don’t want them to 'maybe happen one day', I want to make room for them in my everyday schedule (they aren’t anything monumental, just small, personal goals that need time). To approach them mindfully & not as an afterthought. As some of you may know, I work on the blog from 9 to 6 but lately it's been much beyond that. With the size of my following growing, the amount of work that goes into producing a blog post (not an Instagram post) everyday while managing everything else like my social media posts (that are in addition to blog posts), brand collabs, photography, emails, reader messages, accounts, etc is a LOT. I don’t want my own blog to consume me. I know I can hire someone to balance the load, but I don’t want to. This is my space & I don’t have dreams of conquering the planet. I don’t want a large blogging empire. I’ve made specific choices for my blog ever since the beginning because of which my follower growth hasn’t been as dynamic as many others but it’s been a choice I’ve made thoughtfully. I like working with myself, I like living slow. So to live my actual life & not be restricted because of my own blog, I’ll be reducing my workload to be able to do all the things I prize more. So what’s that going to look like? Part 5 next. Don't die and check out the car behind me.
PART 3. Before I start Part 3, I have to stop and really thank you guys for joining me in this conversation and the incredible comments you’ve been leaving. And I’ll probably end up thanking more later because I’m such a sap 😶 So, going back to where I left it off yesterday, I’m definitely not thinking of leaving this space, but I’m not sure in what format I’m going to stay (work in progress). But content wise, I want to try new things. I don’t know what they’ll exactly be and I’m going to figure that out but I want to have more conceptual stuff along with the usual. If I talk about meaningful, societal topics, I don’t want to just write about things that are ‘hot’ at the moment and meant to get ‘likes’ and cheers and be called ‘relationship goals’. It’s quite sad that like TV, a lot of people actually are now doing stuff for ‘ratings’ and while I know you guys know I don’t do that, I want to find a way to detox my bubble of these externalities. I realise there are many who consume all of that anyway, but I personally don’t want to do anything without soul (so a deeper effort than before). I’m aware that whatever changes I make will be subtle so it’s possible that a lot of you may not even notice them. But I will know what’s different and that’s all that matters at the end of the day. All of this not just because a lot of people are doing it, but because I need to freshen things up for myself as well. But the bigger change is in Part 4 which is coming next. (Very B-grade suspense)
PART 2. The last one year I’ve been slowly feeling a disconnect from what social media has become. It’s been gradual so I didn’t fully register how I was feeling, until a few months ago, but it’s been building up. While I’ve loved creating a space where I would put out blog posts everyday, write about stupid stuff, then some not-so-stupid stuff; the saturation in the number of opinions on the internet has become really intense. I don’t mean all bloggers, there are some that I really respect (and they know it). Also, I do want to say this at this point, I’m not one of those people who thinks there isn’t enough space for everyone. I LOVE supporting Pakistani bloggers (and businesses), I am always encouraging those who are authentic and honest (no matter what their following size). But I’m talking about MYSELF right now and how I feel like being here. Again, this is not about anyone else, it’s about me. There’s so much chatter on our Instagram feeds right now that all seems to be going the same way; so many people talking about relationships, saas bahu stuff, stereotyping husbands, etc. etc. There's also often representation for just one kind of desi woman. This doesn’t mean that more people shouldn’t talk about what’s relevant and important. It’s great to have lots of us join the conversation, but it shouldn’t feel like the same content ALL ACROSS and as if it's coming off the same assembly line. When I started doing this, it felt fresh to my own mind. And at this point, it feels so crowded because of being so similar, that I don’t want to talk about this same stuff unless there is something different to it. I want to step away from all of this clutter and change things up. For myself. I don't mean shutting down this space but at least with some difference. I don’t know, does this make sense? Part 3 tomorrow. #lifestyleblogger #sydneyblogger #pakistaniblogger #rubimuse @maccosmetics #dubaiblogger @aldo_shoes #aldocrew
To those who’re new here, the next bunch of posts are going to be all, ‘Hainnn? What’s going on with this chick’ type material. Here’s a welcome cookie & a ‘hang in there’ 😛 For the rest who know me, hello :) I've been enjoying a very fulfilling break the last 2 weeks - no posts on the blog/Insta/FB. Why I wanted to take a second was to realign some parts of my life, including the blog. I think I’m ready to share what’s been on my mind. Whatever I say, pls know: this is not to point out anyone specifically, this is me sharing *my* experience. MY thoughts about MY life. That's it. When I started doing this thing called 'lifestyle blogging' there were really no such bloggers in Pakistan. Not saying this to assert supremacy (or I would’ve said it 4 years ago). I'm saying this to help explain my thoughts. When I started, I didn’t subscribe to the known blogging formula. I didn’t use filters, I smiled in photos when the trend at the time was the wounded lover look. I wrote conversationally with a mix of Urdu, like how I’d talk to a friend (that used to be the biggest feedback I’d get ‘you talk so casually!’, now it’s a lot more common). I wrote what I wanted to, I made it my own weird mix of blogging about frivolous things like my favorite lipstick or what I ate for lunch, and on the side, wrote about things no one else had; desi houseguests, how to be with the in-laws, how to *be* the in-laws, an equal marriage, family, female independence. I wrote about a simple life when the majority posted about branded stuff (now it’s kind of on-trend to be ‘budget’). I didn’t plan it, I did it how it came naturally to me. I didn’t care about building a large following, just a group of genuinely nice people, just enough so I could make a decent income & continue to do it the way I wanted to, without letting the blog consume my own life. I’ve been honest, I’ve never copied anyone, I’ve never done a post just for the money, I’ve always tried to be better than before. I’m not bragging, I don’t think I’ve been a ‘success’. I’ve just been myself and I’ve liked it. Now if at least 5 of you are still alive & interested in where this can go, let me know & I’ll move to Part 2.👀
CLOSED NOW. The winners are @mycreativeclutter and Saman Zafar (from FB). // *GIVEAWAY* This beautiful 3D lamp from Lightona is up for winning this week, friends. Two winners from anywhere in Pakistan can get their hands on one 3D lamp each, in a design of their choice and here's how that can happen. Here's what you have to do to get a chance to win - you have do ALL STEPS, okay: 1. Like this photo 2. Follow @shehzeenr 3. Follow @lightonapk 4. Tag 5 friends in the comments below The giveaway will be open until Aug 12, midnight, Pakistan time. I'll announce the winner on Aug 13th RIGHT HERE IN THE CAPTION OF THIS IMAGE and in the comments below. The winners can choose the 3D lamp design from Lightona's current collection at the time of the giveaway announcement. The same giveaway is open on Facebook as well (search for 'the desi wonder woman') so you can enter from there too. The winner will be picked through random selection. Good luck!
Today's namaz stopover while chore-hopping around the city: the gorgeous Gallipoli Mosque in the suburb of Auburn. I usually pray just about anywhere but some days you end up getting a location bonus on the side ❤Swipe for more. Some background if you'd like: In typical Ottoman style construction, the mosque was named after the battle of Gallipoli on the Gallipoli peninsula in the Ottoman empire during World War 1. This campaign has significant history for both Australia and Turkey and was named after the shared legacy of that battle. Primarily constructed by the Turkish Muslim community in Australia. #lifestyleblogger #sydneyblogger #pakistaniblogger #pakistanibloggers #desiblogger #indianbloggers #auburn #gallipoli #gallipolimosque #gallipolimosqueauburn #sydney #sydneylife
Regardless of who our votes went to, this speech by IK today has me feeling such pride. We've gotten so used to processing garbage from our political 'leaders' and so comfortable with living with caricatures of our governmental authorities, it almost feels surreal to hear something that doesn't feel grounded in agenda or stinks of mal-intent. Like coming out of an abusive relationship with the promise of a better future. I wish all of us the happiest Pakistan ever. Let's move forward with our egos to the side. It's not the time to watch this journey with the intent to nitpick or for the I-told-you-so's. It's not about you, it's not about me. It's about us and I hope we can find our Naya Pakistan together. So emotional and proud. پاکستان زندہ باد 💚 // Special love and prayers for Quetta. Picture is old cos jhanda is still packed somewhere 🐼 #election2018
I won't be blogging this entire week; and when I say blogging, i mean traditional blogging that I do on my website :). There's some stuff I want to talk to you guys about and I'm going to do a series of posts on Instagram and Facebook about just that. I'm not sure if I'll make sense but I've grown and evolved over the years and my blog has been happening alongside, whereever I go it has to come with; even if it's not a popular switch or decision, I have to do what naturally appeals to me first, and then everyone else. There are some things that I want from life, and I dont want a compromise on them, so I'd like to do some real heart to heart chit chat over the next some days about all of those things. Let's see what happens ☕
Do you remember what you were doing around the same time last year? I was about to leave for Hajj in some days. I'd had family visiting all of the month before that and hadn't found any time to prep the way I wanted to. I'd wanted to read up on Hajj in detail, get the right clothes because it was hot as hell and just wanted to be a little rested before flying out. We only got about a week to prep and even though I felt like I wasn't ready at all, yet somehow it turned out to be a crazy, phenomenal experience. My clothes were a little suffocating because I picked up the wrong abayas (lulz) but everything else was smooth as butter. Sometimes things can seem big and problematic in the moment and consume your headspace unfairly. But if you place yourself sometime in the future and think, will this matter to me in six months or twelve, you suddenly know what's worth your emotional energy and what's not. Perspective is sometimes the best gift you can give to yourself. Do you remember what you were doing around the same time last year; good question to ask once in a while. What was happening with you? #lifestyleblogger #outfitoftheday #pakistaniblogger #pakistanibloggers #desiblogger #indianbloggers #sydneylife #australianblogger #melbourneblogger
Signature blogger khujli pose 😁 (you know it 😛) So yesterday some people actually spotted my new name necklace that I was wearing in the headband picture (some of you will go and check that picture again now, haina? i would have 😛). Anyhoo, this necklace which is the current love of my life is from @soufeeljewelry, is rose gold plated and I was waiting to get a coupon code for you guys before posting and here I am. It's currently on sale already and you can add the coupon code Shemg15 to get an additional 15% off (they ship worldwide). They have many types of name necklaces, I chose this font/style cos ainveen. The link is on my profile, enjoy please (and swipe to see closeup). Btw do you remember HOW MUCH everyone used to wear these many years ago and now they've been kind of back since a couple of years. I didn't have one then cos I was too shy to ask my parents :) but now I do, weehee. Ok now you say something. Waves with the @ghdhair wand. #lifestyleblogger #sydneyblogger #pakistaniblogger #pakistanibloggers #desiblogger #indianbloggers #sydneylife #australianblogger #melbourneblogger #streetstyle #namenecklace #soufeelgals #soufeelstyle #soufeelnamenecklace #soufeellover #soufeel #soufeeljewelry #layerednecklaces #namependant #messywaves #hairstyles #ghdhair @ghdhair_anz #hair #livebatiste #batistebabe #hair
Outfit situation for a coffee date with a friend: @patang_fashionstore jacket, @asos_au sweater, @aldo_shoes sunnies and hoops (#hoopsforever), abbu's watch, and a billion rings because achi baat hai. Also, I will wear pants, dont worry 😂 Although now imma livin in Australia, so no-pants shouldn't be an issue 👯 BTW, do you know a lot of aussies don't wear jootay in public? Matlab they go to buy bhindi nangay paoon. #godpromise #lifestyleblogger #outfitoftheday #pakistaniblogger #pakistanibloggers #desiblogger #indianbloggers #sydneylife #australianblogger #melbourneblogger #ootd #outfitoftheday #streetstyle #aldocrew #asos
Please appreciate my new headband that I have wanted all my life and have now acquired finally (courtesy @rubi_anz ). Also please like this picture because posing without a jacket in winters is a very heroic task (desi wonder woman, lulz). تھینک یو سو مچ #voteforme Fridays post is on the blog, the link is on my profile (the link for the headband is also in the post, if you wantz). #lifestyleblogger #sydneyblogger #pakistaniblogger #pakistanibloggers #desiblogger #indianbloggers #sydneylife #australianblogger #melbourneblogger #ootd #outfitoftheday #toms #tomsaustralia #americaneagle #rubishoes #cottonon #turbanheadband #streetstyle #sydneystreetstyle #bershka #aldocrew #colourpop @colourpopcosmetics #rubimuse #AExME #bershkastyle #soufeel #soufeeljewelery #namenecklace #soufeelstyle